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To be pissed off at my siblings

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bellinisurge · 08/04/2024 16:30

They both forgot DD's 17th birthday. One forgets all the time so it's nothing new. The other forgot for the first time and did a "oh silly old me, I have the card I forgot to post it" response to my "hi, did you forget?" message .
They didn't pay her much attention when she was younger. They are a fair bit older than me and, I can only assume, were bored of that kind of parent solidarity thing. I paid loads of attention to my nieces and nephews when they were young (their kids).
They could've sent a bloody card or even just a WhatsApp message.
We generally get on pretty well as siblings. In a low level kind of way. But this is so low level it's off the bloody radar.

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saraclara · 08/04/2024 16:43

I'm another one who's shocking at remembering birthdays. And my nephew and niece's birthdays are often when I'm out of the country.

But we have a warm and tolerant relationship, and unless they're very good actors, they seem unbothered about the lack of card, and are very happy to get their presents whenever they happen to see me next.

MiddleagedBeachbum · 08/04/2024 16:41

Wow massive over reaction from you!
No wonder they keep away from you and your child if this is how you behave with them.

juice92 · 08/04/2024 16:40

I am someone who is terrible at remembering birthdays, I do not know the birthday dates of two of my siblings, I only remember if they mention their birthday or when Facebook tells me. One of my siblings has multiple children, I don't know any of their birthdays - again I rely on them mentioning it or Facebook. It is not at all personal to them and is not because of a lack of care, my brain does just not hold birthdays.

I know it is naff when people forget, but don't take it personally at all, these things can slip people's minds.

Aquamarine1029 · 08/04/2024 16:36

My aunts and uncles never acknowledged my birthday and no one ever thought a thing of it. We were a happy, fairly close family, btw. I think you're being really silly about this. It just doesn't matter.

KreedKafer · 08/04/2024 16:33

It's not the end of the world if a teenager's birthday card is a few days late, is it? Certainly nothing I'd get stressed about.

When I was 17 I doubt I'd even have noticed if there wasn't a card from of my aunts/uncles on the day of my birthday.

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