It's just laundry - nothing to be embarrassed about

Same here! I suppose some people are just more private than others?
No need to impose your own ideas of what’s embarrassing and what isn’t on someone else. Provided the teenager helps with other stuff I really don’t see an issue.

Don't be ridiculous!

Your DH is right with his way!

Tone policing is annoying. FFS is not prohibited. It's unfortunate you dislike my style of posting. And I yours. Such is life. As to my post about my parents, it was a direct quote from a different poster, I didn't like it either, but it's a public forum.

It must do as you’re quite aggressive in some of your responses. Using ffs (not strictly swearing but expressing annoyance/irritation) and saying about not wanting to think of your parents ‘fucking’ all seems a little ott to me 🤷‍♀️ there’s nothing weird in a teenage boy not wanting to see his mums or sisters knickers close up. I have two sons and I don’t think either of them would like it much either.

My DH is currently the main parent trying to figure out swimming period products for DD. He's a good bit older than me, and has no sisters. He stood there today in Primark discussing period swimwear with an assistant. If he can deal with this shit, anyone can.

You are obsessed with period.stains as a pp said not everything needs to be shared I mean if you and your husband are happy enough doing period washing between you crack on, some women find it too personal to share.

Bless. Is he embarrassed at everything?

Get his dad to sort him out along with the laundry. Gently remind him that they're just clothes and he'll be dealing with more when he's married.

😮 surely your DH has washed period knickers?

I'm pretty sure he won't mind handling his girlfriend's knickers!

are you? Well that’s good then.

It doesn't 'bug me so much'. I'm replying just like you are. And I didn't say anyone would want to handle dirty washing, who does, just that that a 17 year old boy doesn't need to be shielded from it like it's nuclear waste. Grab, chuck, press button. Job done.

I'm pretty sure he won't mind handling his girlfriend's knickers! Anyway to be honest I wouldn't really want my DH of 15 years washing my knickers if there had been a leaking incident, not everything needs to be shared.

@DanielGault Not sure why it bugs you so much. I think it’s perfectly reasonable that a teenage boy doesn’t want to handle his mum and sisters knickers. I doubt many teenage girls would relish sorting their dad’s y fronts or budgie smugglers.

Or you just dump the crap in the washing machine and get on with your day? That's a very long, very detailed post about underwear and where one might buy it, and with what intention. Not everyone puts that level of thought into it tbh.

YOU don't have to associate underwear with shagging.

But they are pieces of clothing that cover the shagging parts of the body. They are sexual parts in many ways (but not exclusively) and as are the parts involved in sex, there is a massive lingerie and sexy male pants industry.

I'd be very surprised if you weren't aware of it and suspect you are being disingenuous.

You've not seen lingerie anywhere? Ann Summers? Or Victoria Secrets catwalks? Or others like Fenty? .

Or just seen underwear in Debenhams or M and S or primark that made you think a lot of people did see underwear as part of human sexuality which includes shagging?

Intimate parts of the body.

And the Intimate parts which aren't just for shagging but where the most private bodily functions happen.

Shitting, pissing, menstruation, vaginal discharge and spotting at different points in the menstruation cycle.

They're Intimate pieces of clothing, not just 'items of clothing'. If they weren't, we'd all strut about in them in front of anyone and everyone.

But we don't. In fact, most people have a very small number of scenarios where we do let other people see us in underwear.

And if other people saw us in our underwear without our consent e.g men peeping in changing rooms then they would be committing sexual offences.

As would men nicking knickers off washing lines..

They're not 'just clothes' or 'just laundry' they have lots of implicit thoughts, feelings and societal and cultural attachments.

If OP had posted 'I found a pair of my or DDS knickers in DS room and I do the laundry and definitely didn't put them there' MNetters would be falling over themselves to say he was already a pervert or at the very least in the making to be one and OP should report him to anyone that would listen

But when he's expressed mild discomfort about handling his Mum and sisters knickers, suddenly knickers mean nothing Intimate to some posters and he's just an asshole gearing up to be a shit adult man who will be worth nothing to nobody 🙄

I always think that families who do individual people's laundry are either terribly wasteful or have an awful lot of clothes so they can wait to make up a load

If you don't think that handling your girlfriend's underwear/periods is different to handling your mum's thongs, then I really don't know what to say, lol.

🙄

What’s he gonna do when his girlfriend has a period?

I'm with you.

if 'grabbing off the line' was a thing here, dc would have a linedrobe in addition to their floordrobe.

Ah bless. He’s entitled to his feelings

Can he leave the underwear in the basket for you and dd to claim later?

FFS

Behave yourself

If he goes on to get a partner then presumably he might have laundry duties so he had best get used to dealing with laundry now. I am guessing you aren’t regularly washing a lot of Ann Summers type underwear anyway, so what’s the big deal!

I also agree with DH.

And when sorting I have to read labels so I can tell whose boxers are whose for the boys and whose pants are whose for the girls. Can be hard to tell when things are similar colours. Although I have sometimes made mistakes and dh has ended up with my pants in his drawer!