To think I’m entitled to child maintenance?

And what does he earn?
if it's 50/50 then both parents could put in a claim. On £60k it says the parent would have to pay £245. On £40k it's £168. Even on £20k it's £69. So that £350 would then be reduced by whatever the other parent earns and what their payment obligation would be.

Go back to court and get full custody? Are you ok?!

Go back to the court and get full custody. Yes you are entitled to CM, your ex is CF.

I just tried how much I’d have to pay my husband if we split on a 50/50 custody. I earn nearly 80k. It’s £350 a month what I’d have to pay him

I wouldn't be too harsh on the op. From what I've read on mumsnet, married women often don't fare much better if their ex-husband is determined to keep their cash hidden.

No they don't have to provide proportional to their income. Each parent has the chance to work just as much as the other does. Why would the higher earner have to subsidise the lower earner? Honestly, why?

Op don't fear "rocking the boat" and quietly paying for everything whilst your ex-partner hoards his cash. Find out what you're eligible for and put in the claim. It doesn't sound right that he can just decide to stop maintenance payments.

When you weren't married to him?
Without wanting to kick you when you're down, this was a really poor decision. This is why women who earn less than their partner shouldn't have kids without being married, and if they do, they should cling on to their financial independence with all they have.

It's disgusting though he earns double what OP earns. I have to confess that I'm glad I'm not doing a 50/50 split because it is tricky who pays for trips, school uniform, trainees, shoes or whatever. I can absolutely see how not everyone is reasonable about these things.

So what would you prefer? That the father decides to take a poorer paid job, to even things out a bit? Or is it better than for 50% of their lives, the child gets the benefits of his 'disgusting' job?? Or heaven forbid, the mother gets herself a better paid job?

but is it funding the other parents lifestyle or is it maintaining a decent standard of living for your child because you have the means to do so?

Also the idea that not getting a better paid job is predominantly out of laziness is hilarious.

This essentially as far as I know. Even though nights are split he’s still the ‘paying parent’ because you have the child benefit. It’s up to him to prove that he’s doing 50% of the daily care not just equal overnights if he no longer wants to be the ‘paying parent’.

He’s probably banking on you not wanting to rock the boat so the only way you are going to find out is to open a claim with them.

This is the part I think a lot of people don't really think about.

Obviously there are going to be some who use the payment incorrectly and on themselves but most decent parents who receive CMS are going to be using it to better their children's lives.

If you are a high earner and/or have the meanings to contribute to your children's lives financially, even if you do have them 50 percent of the time (although chances are most in a 50/50 situation are not truly 50/50, there will usually be a parent who does end up doing more running around or paying out more for things like uniforms/clubs/trips) I cannot see why a decent person would not wish to do this.

Well then you get a better job so he does surely? Why should the dad have to fund your lifestyle because you can't be arsed to get a well paid job?

That may be how you parent.... but I don't. I want to see my Son has what he needs. I don't have time to be petti or tight fisted with my own child. Each to their own though...

No because OP is in receipt of the child benefit payment so thus is not the 'paying' parent.

It's disgusting though he earns double what OP earns
Its only disgusting if the OP doesn’t have the same opportunity to work and further her career.

If it’s 50 /50 are you sure he cannot do the same and claim off you

There’s 50:50 in terms of nights where CM is payable. However, if day-to-day care is equal e.g. taking to appointments, clubs etc. then no CM is payable.

It's disgusting though he earns double what OP earns. I have to confess that I'm glad I'm not doing a 50/50 split because it is tricky who pays for trips, school uniform, trainees, shoes or whatever. I can absolutely see how not everyone is reasonable about these things.

Yes because that's usually the case. CMS are not that great I've never read or heard of anybody getting CMS with a 50/50 split. Have you?

Make sure that you make him pay for 50pc of all.costs.
So if you buy new shoes or uniform etc. The costs are split 50 50!

My exH and I share our DD 50/50 but he still gives me a small amount monthly (£130) as I pay for school dinners, swimming lessons, brownies, school uniforms, new shoes and coats, school trips. If there’s a particularly large and unusual cost for something then I ask him for a little more. Tbh it’s more a laziness/lack of organisation on his part than affordability (we both earn a similar amount) so he’s happy to just give me the money if it means I make the arrangements. I also receive the child benefit.

Well he has her 50% of the time so that's not nothing is it?

@Blondeyoghurt
Well then tell him that if he isn’t going to pay maintenance then he will have to pay half the costs. Decide who pays for which clubs and you buy your own clothes and then decide how to handle big ticket items like bikes and things.