To think I’m entitled to child maintenance?

Never assume anything.

People can be involved parents and still be dicks to their ex 🤷‍♀️

Imo he’s being a dick because it seems like he’s trying to bully the OP into not making a claim through CMS. He just seems really keen to put her off which I think is the behaviour of a dick. If he was so sure he’s right, he wouldn’t need to do that.

then we’ll have to discuss making sure there’s a 50/50 split money wise,

if cms says he doesn’t owe you anything how are you going to make sure there is a 50/50 split money wise ?

If you have true 50/50 then no he doesn’t have to Pay . If however he has a changing pattern in white it’s up to him to get the childcare for the time he needs to work , not yours . Check how many days a week she sleeps at your and at his home and go from there

@Otherstories2002

You actually believe that?
Well as the OP hasn't said otherwise and for sure she wouldn't leave out this little nugget of info. Then yes. I assume he is paying for stuff

@Sweetheart7

It's disgusting though he earns double what OP earns.
Well why doesn't the op figure out how to earn more? They have their dc equal times so she has the same opportunity to get a higher paid job. It's not on him to subsidise her forever

@AlexaPlaySomeHappyHardcore

Hmm I found the calculator to be pretty accurate. And definitely put in a claim, try to be as accurate as you can about number of nights your child is in his care. The nights are the important bit in a CMS claim. Most of all though, don’t let this dick push you around.
Why is he a dick?
He is an engaged father who has his dc 50% of the time yet was still giving the OP money out of choice.

Once the child is in school he figures he will stop that as he has the child 50% of the time.

There is no indication he doesn't parent well during his %. So why is he a dick? Serious question.

Even at 50/50 maintenance is often payable

Good luck OP x

@Otherstories2002 Nope.

And what?

He can either contribute half of these costs or OP can stop providing them. Ex will the have to pay for it all himself for the time the child is with him. It is a valid point to highlight this to OP so no need to be rude about it.

You actually believe that?

If they have the child 50:50 then he is paying he is paying for the child during his 50% time.

Yes it does.

And what?

I love these posts like "yeah you add up everything and demand half, that'll teach him" ha ha ha!

Let's get real. He'll tell OP to fuck off.

Why on earth do you think people just pay something if it's "demanded."

Court orders can rarely override entitlement. If you’re awarded property or cash sum in lieu of maintenance. If there’s no court order, within 12 months, there’s nearly always maintenance due.

This calculation is based on 50/50 on salary of 150000. The paying parent can challenge in court if they feel it’s unfair. Or even put in their own claim. But to state or even imply that 50/50 means no maintenance is a disservice to women.
Your estimated child maintenance calculation£174.60 a week or £756.02 a month

Well if he wants GENUINE 50/50 then ensure it is full 24hr period responsibility for each night... none of this my night doesn't start till 6pm - you can do school pick up / pay after school club. He buys half her uniform. Pays half her clubs, childcare on his days, half of her school costs etc. Nothing he refuses to contribute half to goes to his house.And he also takes days off when she is sick on his days not expecting you to pick that up either. You'll probably find those costs balance out what you would loose.

How do people split the costs when doing 50/50? In our case...we discuss anything significant like adults. School costs are given that we'll split, normally I'll pay and text him to transfer the money to me. Clothes, kids are giving a budget to spend and we both contribute equally. What else is there to split?

Treats are treats, they don't have to be matched from parent to parent, just as they wouldn't be if it CMS was payable. That's down to parental choice.

Wrong. Its everything to do with CMS.

I have recent experience OP.

50/50 care with ex dh, court ordered. I earn 30k he earns 150k.

CMS have said I'm not entitled to maintenance.

In our case things are definitely NOT split equally. I pay for all school dinners (tried just paying for my time but he was in constant arrears), I provide the majority of clothing, shoes (he's never bought any and would have them walking around in rags tbh). I pay for school trips, clubs, sports, uniforms.

When my kids spend their time with their Dad I can guarantee they text me asking for money in their account for bus fare home, to go out with their friends etc.

He does nothing more really then putting a roof over their head and feeding them in "his" time. His excuse is because I get the child benefit that should cover everything and he doesn't need to do more.

I provided so many receipts to CMS, but it made no difference.

They didnt care about the different incomes in our case, or that day to day costs aren't split fairly. They were only bothered about the court order that says the children "live with" us both.

I got sick of fighting it and gave up.

The calculator doesn't work for 50/50.

Anyhoo, it's based on nights, and in some cases CMS is still payable but generally that's when you go through the courts. Put in a claim via CMS and see what happens? Nothing to lose.

Edited to add, we're 50/50 and I don't receive any CMS.

You’re completely wrong. Do not give advice like this. Ever. It’s not ok.

It’s utterly depressing how few women actually know their children’s rights to financial support. Do yourselves a favour - never ever reply to a post like this.

Wrong.