In laws and baby's first steps

I am a GP . My first GC took their first steps with us while we had them for childcare . When we took them home I must have "forgotten" to mention it as later that eve I got a little video sent to me of GC walking " for the first time " . . It's not about them being in laws, ( i am a MIL too ), it's about them actively trying to take experiences away from you .

That is absolutely awful of them - but it won’t take anything away from your parenting if you don’t let it.

If you can’t claim it wasn’t the first steps, because you’d told them that, and it it wasn’t just thoughtlessness because there is a back story of them trying to take ‘ownership’, then the visits would stop if i was in this situation and my DH would be very aware of my feelings on the matter the minute he comes home. I would expect him to call them and ask what they thought they were doing.

If no back story, and it might just be thoughtlessness, I’d let it go. But not if you know they repeatedly try to downgrade your status as mother. This would be the final straw for me.

That is absolutely awful of them - but it won’t take anything away from your parenting if you don’t let it.

If you can’t claim it wasn’t the first steps, because you’d told them that, and it it wasn’t just thoughtlessness because there is a back story of them trying to take ‘ownership’, then the visits would stop if i was in this situation and my DH would be very aware of my feelings on the matter the minute he comes home. I would expect him to call them and ask what they thought they were doing.

If no back story, and it might just be thoughtlessness, I’d let it go. But not if you know they repeatedly try to downgrade your status as mother. This would be the final straw for me.

That is absolutely awful of them - but it won’t take anything away from your parenting if you don’t let it.

If you can’t claim it wasn’t the first steps, because you’d told them that, and it it wasn’t just thoughtlessness because there is a back story of them trying to take ‘ownership’, then the visits would stop if i was in this situation and my DH would be very aware of my feelings on the matter the minute he comes home. I would expect him to call them and ask what they thought they were doing.

If no back story, and it might just be thoughtlessness, I’d let it go. But not if you know they repeatedly try to downgrade your status as mother. This would be the final straw for me.

Encouraging a kid that’s nearly able to walk to try and do it sounds like a pretty normal thing to do with them IMO

TBH, I think many people would be encouraging a baby at 13 months, so I don't see an issue.

Yea it's just one of those things. I'm sure they where not doing it to spite you

My lovely PIL and DH did this with our youngest. I was a bit upset (she was 18 months and it had been coming a long time!), hid it from PIL but told DH.

They're lovely people and they just got excited, I know they didn't mean anything by it. She's 3 now and it doesn't bother me any more beyond an eye roll.

Blimey, my family and friends and me and DH were all encouraging my DC to walk. I mean, it's a bit annoying if they are purposefully trying to outdo you, but I struggle to get worked up about these sorts of things overall.

But if its part of a long history of boundary pushing, I can see how it would wind you up.

What absolute peaches. My MIL tried to claim similar something similar (except DS had walked a few days previously, so she looked daft).

All 3 of mine took their first steps at nursery. I’ll be honest - this is not something I would get worked up about, but it seems from the first few posts I’m in the minority!

Knobheads.

That's a shitty thing to do.

In my pettiness I would tell them it wasn't his first step actually.

My mother (now nc) would do things like this when my oldest was a baby, I would leave the room for 30 seconds and he miraculously had his first roll, or laugh or whatever, she was bullshitting, but she took great pride in feeling like she took an experience away from me.

His first step with you is the one you'll remember anyways, whether he teeters between two adults pushing him to do it or not, you're his mum, and the stuff he does with you is the stuff that matters.

They know that and that's why they are trying to insert themselves into these important moments, but they can't take anything away from you, or your relationship with your boy.

No, that’s an arsehole thing to do