In laws and baby's first steps

@KoolKookaburra lol, thank you. There has been many a time I sooo wanted to give advice but kept my mouth firmly shut! However my daughter is an awesome mother and I tell her that frequently.

I had similar with my sibling. They were walking dd along holding her hands (as you do) let go and the momentum kept her going a step or two, as had happened before. Sibling smugly pointed out dd had taken her first steps with her. Same sibling couldn't bear me to have / do anything she didn't have / hadn't done and does not like the fact I have the only grandchild. I knew if I said anything I'd get moaned at but, quite frankly, I don't consider that dd took her fist steps until a week after this when she let go of the table she was holding on to and actually walked of her own accord.

Yes, this was what our nursery did - at the time I was clueless and didn’t realise it probably meant DS had already taken his first steps at nursery, but now I’m really grateful that they were so tactful about it.

Yes, this was what our nursery did - at the time I was clueless and didn’t realise it probably meant DS had already taken his first steps at nursery, but now I’m really grateful that they were so tactful about it.

Yes, this was what our nursery did - at the time I was clueless and didn’t realise it probably meant DS had already taken his first steps at nursery, but now I’m really grateful that they were so tactful about it.

My dd walked first while her teenage cousins were playing with her-coaxing her to walk between them. It never crossed my mind til this moment that I should have been angry or resentful or think they were egotistical or domineering. I suppose I now have to somehow vent 20 years of vitriol onto them....

Yup that's the way to do it

That's the way to do it. You're classy af

The correct etiquette is to say ooooh keep an eye on them I think they'll be walking soon!

I would just say " oh I forgot to tell you, DC took a couple of steps yesterday - sorry you missed it ! Oh well never mind".

Why are so many grandparents like this? Utterly egotistical and domineering? It’s not about the baby’s development it’s about them - feeling they were ‘having’ the ‘first steps memory’ and that it was their encouragement that meant the baby did it. They should fuck off

Why are so many grandparents like this? Utterly egotistical and domineering? It’s not about the baby’s development it’s about them - feeling they were ‘having’ the ‘first steps memory’ and that it was their encouragement that meant the baby did it. They should fuck off

Why are so many grandparents like this? Utterly egotistical and domineering? It’s not about the baby’s development it’s about them - feeling they were ‘having’ the ‘first steps memory’ and that it was their encouragement that meant the baby did it. They should fuck off

Well unless they have superpowers, it was just a coincidence that the baby walked at that point.

I think that's rotten of them. I look after my grandsons and dgs1 took his first steps at my house. I never let on and when DD told me he was walking I was delighted for her and dgs1. It's such a pleasure when your baby begins walking. Why would you take that away from a parent?

This. Sounds like they’d been encouraging him to walk for a while and it just happened, very unfortunately, whilst you were out of the room.

That is so kind of you. And very thoughtful too. I’m pretty sure that DS had his first steps at nursery and they never told us. His first steps with us consisted of suddenly walking a meter. We were so stunned…and then a few months later I remembered that nursery asked me very randomly a few days before he walked if he’s taken any steps yet.

I’ve not told DH I suspect he was already walking before we first saw it, but I’m so grateful for nursery for letting us think we had that experience.

What was awful? The perfectly normal playing with a nearly walking baby, or using their special PIL super powers to make sure it happened when you were in the loo?

Sounds like they were just occupying him whilst you were in the loo and encouraging a child who is nearly able to walk, to walk, is a normal thing to do with them. I don’t actually recall when DS2 actually walked as he was almost walking, cruising round the furniture and maybe 1 independent step or walking pushing stuff, for so long before he actually got any distance independently that I don’t know what properly counted! Unless they have previous form then I doubt they were doing it to spite you.

Did they deliberately make him walk while you were in the loo? Or was he t a coincidence while they were playing with him.

Tell them it wasn't his first steps, he did those last night all on his own

It's the fact they did it when you went to the bathroom which shows it was deliberately done to undermine you.

How often do you see them?
Make it less.

I've just remembered that my DM and Dsis did precisely that with my first. It was a little disappointing at the time that I'd missed it, but I was mostly proud that my baby had done it.