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Am I unreasonable leaving to drop my dd

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Fellik · 08/04/2024 07:31

Me and dp have been together 16 months and live an hr apart. This weekend I went on Saturday afternoon and I always have to leave at 5pm on the Sunday to be home for when dd2 arrives home from her Dads house.
DD1 is 15 and often comes with me at the weekend (we have 4 kids between us, so his ds’ were there too, they left around 12 to go back to their mum).
My DD wanted to go to the cinema this weekend with a boy, I said I’d drop her at the train station as dropping her at the cinema was an half and a half round trip for me. Due to train strikes I had to drop DD, meaning I needed to leave at 12.30 and would be back by 2pm, I offered DP to come with me and we could have done something in the city or I’d be back and we could have lunch together before I left.

He hit the roof, because he wanted to go to the gym and didn’t want to go on his own. He was so annoyed that I’d done this he told me not to come back again after I’d dropped her and for me to just go home.

He spends a lot of time complaining that we don’t get enough time together, yet I go to see him 3/4 nights a week and he hasn’t come to see me since the beginning of December because he doesn’t like the fact that my ex used to live in my house (If I could move I would).

I think he’s being completely unreasonable and unable to compromise, or is it just me who was wrong?

OP posts:
HoppingPavlova · 08/04/2024 07:48

Why can’t he go to the gym alone and you meet up after? How does just being present together at the gym while working out constitute ‘quality time’ together. I’d think going out together after the gym would facilitate more interaction between you?

Bernadinetta · 08/04/2024 07:47

He “hit the roof”? Never know exactly what posters mean when they use euphemisms like this- he shouted? Called you names/swore? He banged his fists on the wall, slammed doors?

Anyway, after 16 months can you really be bothered to be with someone who “hits the roof” with you over anything at all?

Summerbay23 · 08/04/2024 07:46

You did absolutely nothing wrong, part of being a parent is ferrying our kids around to places. He really is acting like a spoilt child, and I suggest he visits you on alternate weekends/dates from now on.

scruffydogstinks · 08/04/2024 07:46

Really op? Re read your own post with fresh eyes and ask what is it he is actually bringing to this relationship.

Fellik · 08/04/2024 07:45

Yes, I do all the travel, usually 3 times a week.
He drives so that wasn’t the issue.
We had no firm plans, but we usually go to the gym together on a Sunday.
He just didn’t want to go alone again, I had offered to meet him at the gym after I’d finished dropping DD, in fact I suggested lots of options - meeting at the gym after, going into the city together, him going to the gym and me meeting him back home for lunch.
Instead he just told me to go and not come back again yesterday.

If we had a firm plan of something that we had planned to go and do, I would have told DD that she couldn’t go but it was just our usual Sunday stuff.

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ninkynonk22 · 08/04/2024 07:44

Sounds like a drama queen and control freak. How can he complain about not spending time together when he makes zero effort to come and visit you...and for such a silly childish reason.

YADNBU even if you had made plans to go to the gym beforehand. Plans change. He needs to grow up.

Nevermindtheteacaps · 08/04/2024 07:44

What kind of mad man thinks needs a friend to go to the gym?

He's unhinged

NeverDropYourMooncup · 08/04/2024 07:41

What on earth are you doing with a twat like that?

Sirzy · 08/04/2024 07:39

The only thing that may have made you unreasonable is if you had already planned to go to the gym with him at that time

DoreenonTill8 · 08/04/2024 07:35

So you do all the travel? Do you chauffeur him to the gym and thats what this is about?

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