Am I unreasonable leaving to drop my dd

Omg please leave him.
I was understanding when you said he wanted to spend more time with you.
But 'hitting the roof' over this? No.
Not staying at your house because your ex used to live there? No.

He's petty and childish and sounds like he will create a stink about anything he doesn't like/want.

Well done for seeing him for what he is!

Enjoy your holiday with your children

This. He doesn't treat you "amazingly well". Time to cut your losses on this one, OP. It's also an awful example to set to your DC. Dump him. Also, I'd recommend some counselling for yourself so that you can learn to recognise red flags and to have a higher bar going into your next relationship because your bar is pretty low right now due to your ex.

Once the scales fall from your eyes and you realise how many men are used to having things done "their way", they don't question their own opinions or decisions or even want to inform their partner what they will be doing, never mind consult, it is mind blowing

He does treat me amazingly well, I’m starting to realise though that it’s only when he is getting his own way.

Keep re-reading what you wrote here ⬆️
He is only treating you well when he's getting his own way, he treats you badly to control you.
A once in a blue moon moodiness I could handle, but it shouldn't be because he wants you to just do what he wants.

Your Ex must have been awful if you had to get a restraining order so I would suggest that perhaps this man does not treat you well as you said earlier but that he doesnt treat you as badly as your Ex. Thats a pretty low bar
You are worth more and perhaps it would be a good idea to be single for a bit until you get better at recognising Red Flags?

So glad you can see more clearly now. He’s controlling and those behaviours very very rarely get better, unless a person acknowledges they are controlling and makes a good effort to address them, such as by attending a perpetrators programme. You deserve to live a life where being treated kindly isn’t conditional on you being compliant or prioritising the needs of an adult over your child.

Please do call it a day op.

It's difficult for you to understand if you've never actually had a good relationship or even had one modelled.

Actually the modelling bit is a great reason to call this a day because if your daughters. Please don't model to them that this is all a man has to do to get a compliant woman, they'll end up doing it themselves because it's all they know. Like, unfortunately, for you. Break the cycle for them.

He does make me happy

But only sometimes. At other times (when you have to prioritise your or your children’s needs - or perhaps even when you just slip up and forget or don’t understand the ‘rules’?) he makes you feel anxious, wary and insecure.

He sounds like a toddler having a tantrum. Why couldn’t he go to the gym by himself? Plus you offered to spend the rest of the day with him.

This one's not a keeper, OP.

Throw him back and spend some time alone working on yourself before you enter a new relationship, to ensure you set higher standards next time.

He sounds awful, and this whole drama sounds like a symptom of a much bigger problem.

Does he make you happy? does he bring stability and love to your family?

Honestly OP are you so scared of being single that you would put up with this rubbish in a relatively new relationship?

Cut and run whilst you have no ties to him...he sounds awful!

Oh god he sounds like my controlling ex. It will only get worse.

Bin. Run. Don't look back.

Doesn’t just make him sound ridiculous - he is ridiculous, what a baby!

This will get worse and worse. Don't move in with him or you'll be back in a few years asking how to leave. Sorry OP.

I was going to say is he 5 😆
Wouldn’t be driving back there again, what a giant twat.

He doesn't like you prioritising your children over him. Sounds like everything in this relationship is on his terms.

This

Time to put this one in the bin, OP.

It doesn’t have to be that deep.

He likes having a compliant woman around.

He has no interest in inconveniencing himself for a woman.

This behaviour sounds like training so that the next time your daughter needs help you will decide it’s less hassle to manage the situation in a way that prioritises his wishes.

You and your children are worth more than this.

Don’t ever move in together, op. He’ll be trying to run your and your dd’s lives quicker than you can say ‘coercive control’.

I'd do what he says... go straight home... and stay there! He sounds awful OP. He isn't treating you amazingly well. It probably seems not to you as he treats you better than your ex.

Get rid. Just tell him it's not working for you.

He thinks your loyalty is solely to him. When you divert your focus from his agenda, he has a tantrum.

Shocking that he should be so self-serving regarding the travel. His excuses are terrible. Selfish thing.

It's impacting on all of you...but you must see that your loyalty is to your kids, not this man who wants it all his own way. He sounds controlling.