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Gym membership causing arguments

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polkadot24 · 08/04/2024 07:00

As above really!

Husband gets to go 3x per week whenever he fancies. I'm stuck to everyone else's schedules and cannot go during work time or early morning. I cannot go most evenings due to his work. I feel it is unfair and he takes it for granted that I'm here for the kids whilst he swans about doing what he wants. He doesn't get it, and thinks I'm being unfair to say that if I cannot go then he shouldn't get the privilege either. Maybe I am unfair, I'm just sick of men 🤣🤦‍♀️

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Momstermunch · 08/04/2024 07:05

How does he get to go when you don't? Is it just the way it works out because he works evenings and so has time in the day?

Or is it that he 'swans off' therefore leaving you no time to go?

If it's the latter then it's fair enough to ask him to share that time. If it's the former then you're not being fair really.

Chocolateorange11 · 08/04/2024 07:03

Why can’t you go early mornings? Can you pick set times to go and ask for your partner to work around them? I have set days - I’ve amended them this week after chatting to DP and asking if it fit his plans…

DP and I are trying to work at taking more of our own time as we are both quite bad at making it happen!

fieldsofbutterflies · 08/04/2024 07:03

Why does he get to go whenever he wants but you can’t?

PuttingDownRoots · 08/04/2024 07:03

So is he going during the work day, then making it up in the evenings?

FLOWER1982 · 08/04/2024 07:02

Can you book it in as such so he knows when he needs to be at home? If you stick to the same times each week may be easier. Not sure what to suggest if he doesn’t agree/ understand. LTB.

Callmejudith · 08/04/2024 07:01

Could you go Saturday and Sunday mornings and one evening when he has to get home on time?

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