Hello, looking for some perspectives on this situation…
My closest friend recently got engaged. We have been friends for over 10 years, she was my bridesmaid, she is my daughter’s godmother, we have been there for each other over the years and I (naively) thought I would be her bridesmaid and share in her happiness, now she is getting married.
I accept we haven’t seen as much of each other over the past year but I have 2 children, I’ve done a masters, she has a business, moved house etc and we haven’t had any fall out or anything so I just thought we were both busy and haven’t thought anything was wrong. My feelings towards her haven’t changed in the slightest!
She has chosen her bridesmaids, one of which is a friend that didn’t have her as her bridesmaid and who wasn’t as close as we were and it’s like we are just pretending there isn’t an elephant in the room.
I’m delighted for my friend and she has so many amazing qualities and has been there for me over the years and I don’t want to lose her as a friend.
Am I being unreasonable to feel hurt about this? I couldn’t have imagined not having my friend with me on my wedding day or as part of my children’s lives. She was like family and she would have to have done something pretty bad for me to cut her out of a special occasion. I feel so hurt that she doesn’t want me supporting her on her big day. I don’t want to create drama relating to something that is all about her but I want to know what’s changed and what I might have done to make her not want to involve me.
thank you for reading!