In family courts. Have been for years. Fact finding proved significant DA. Ex was refused contact for a number of years. He did a perpetrator programme and started seeing DS (5). Now he sees him every other weekend for 8 hours. Lots of manipulation going on. DS likes seeing him, but comes home saying 'I told daddy you don't let me have chocolate breakfast cereal and he said when I stay at his house I can have anything I want' which I fully believe. I suspect things will ramp up again once we are out of court proceedings. Cafcass are pushing for him to spend every other Christmas with him, splitting Christmas and NY, so each year one of us will miss the whole Christmas period. She argued that dad has had to cope with this for 4 years, which infuriated me because the only reason that was was because he was deemed unsafe/dangerous.
The courts are the courts, and I know this is going to happen, but how the hell do I cope with it? Knowing he's with the man who abused both of us at such a special time?
I know already that I will just have to withdraw from all celebrations as I won't be able to hold it together. I also feel that it will be quite traumatic for DS, as he's never been away from me before and courts are suggesting one week every end of term holiday.
How do people cope with this? It makes me tear up thinking about it.