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Dp going away with brothers?

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Holliegee · 07/04/2024 21:05

So, this year is a very big birthday for me, my past life was quite dysfunctional and birthdays always bring about a lot of emotion for me.
Dp has arranged to go away with his brothers for 5 days to celebrate his brothers birthday the very weekend of my birthday.
aibu to be a bit fed up? I have no other family except my son to see during this time.
im
quite prepared to be told I’m a marry arse !! But I’m feeling a bit emotional about it.

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Holliegee · 07/04/2024 21:12

Hatty65 · 07/04/2024 21:08

On the surface, I'd be very pissed off about this. Some questions would be, how long have you been with your partner? How long has he had this holiday with his brothers booked? Did he suggest doing anything at all to celebrate your big birthday?

9years, they’re just booking it now and no, I just assumed we’d go out with my son - selfishly it’s just the thought of being alone at a time I feel very vulnerable emotionally and I think I feel abandoned which is ridiculous but I do

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CraftyBum · 07/04/2024 21:12

So yours is a big birthday and so is his brothers?

Allfur · 07/04/2024 21:11

That's a very clear indication of his priorities

Dearg · 07/04/2024 21:11

Do you share a birth date with your BIL? If so, I could see why the problem has arisen, but otherwise not.

It seems very uncaring for your DP to plan to leave you on your own for a significant birthday.

Have you been with DP for a long time? Other than this, is he usually quite considerate. In your shoes I would be telling him that I was unhappy with this decision. I would probably be doing a bit of re-evaluation of the relationship if he could not at least see my issue.

Mamaspegg · 07/04/2024 21:08

You're not being unreasonable at all, I would feel the same way. I also get emotional on my birthday due to childhood issues and even if you don't want a fuss or anything made, you still expect your partner to spend the day with you. I don't really have any advice, but sending hugs!

Hatty65 · 07/04/2024 21:08

On the surface, I'd be very pissed off about this. Some questions would be, how long have you been with your partner? How long has he had this holiday with his brothers booked? Did he suggest doing anything at all to celebrate your big birthday?

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