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To find it inappropriate to describe your children in this way?

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Snoopy104 · 07/04/2024 18:54

A friend of mine (well, more of an acquaintance) has 2 young children. Her partner is very active on social media and frequently posts pictures of them, but he always captions them with swear words.
It's seemingly meant in an endearing way, however it just feels uncomfortable. He posted a picture of their 3 year old daughter and wrote 'Happy birthday to this cheeky little bitch!'

And called their son 'A little shitbag'.
Like he uses words like that about his children publicly, nobody seems to comment about it on the posts. It just seems very odd to me, or am I overreacting?

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shoppingshamed · 07/04/2024 20:16

Revolting, I dont know anyone who would say it but if I did I'd keep well away, can't abide that kind of chavvy language

Frazzledmummy123 · 07/04/2024 20:08

I don't like this either. Another thing I can't stand is when people refer to children as 'cockblockers' because of less/no sex when they are around.

I am not a prude in any shape or form and yes, I do know it's only in jest, but I think it's in poor taste

Maray1967 · 07/04/2024 20:02

That is vile, truly vile. I know absolutely no one who does this.

tracktrail · 07/04/2024 19:56

I knew a family that referred to their daughters as the little bitches. 3 year old walks into the room. 'whadda you want bitch?'I hated it, it sounds so wrong.

TwigletsAndRadishes · 07/04/2024 19:52

Calling a little girl a bitch is absolutely horrible, even if said in jest.

ShiteRider · 07/04/2024 19:46

I wouldn’t do it personally but I don’t find it any less disturbing than crotch goblins, bean, bear or any of those names

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 07/04/2024 19:45

Some folk will say scroll on by or unfollow/block, and while that's definitely an option, I do find it really sad that people would refer to their children in that way. Constantly posting their lives online is bad enough tbh.

PersephonePomegranate23 · 07/04/2024 19:45

They're both horrible, but bitch is absolutely awful.

TheChosenTwo · 07/04/2024 19:43

I know someone who referred to her young daughter as a sexy little bitch, just found it really weird. The bitch part is more common that I though going by this thread but the sexy bit is frankly bizarre isn’t it?

NCFTS · 07/04/2024 19:41

If they were acquaintances, then I would drop them of SM. I think it’s horrible describing kids like that.

CallMikeBanning · 07/04/2024 19:38

It is gross.

Geebray · 07/04/2024 19:31

Horrid. They would be increasingly distant acquaintances of mine.

coxesorangepippin · 07/04/2024 19:30

Just awful

AtrociousCircumstance · 07/04/2024 19:29

It’s really uncomfortable because it reflects boundary crossing in a family. Pushing boundaries using swear words about little kids. It reeks of problematic ways of relating.

Sorrentino · 07/04/2024 19:28

I wouldn’t allow my DD (or DS if I had one) to be within 100 yards of that creep.

evertheblue · 07/04/2024 19:26

I hate it. There is a car parked near us with a bumper sticker that says "little shits on board" and I think it is horrible. Not funny at all

oldestboy · 07/04/2024 19:24

I ended a friendship with someone who called their newborn a ‘fat little bitch’.

Gross behaviour.

SoozyWoozy5 · 07/04/2024 19:21

Horrendous

MissyB1 · 07/04/2024 19:17

Eugh they sound awful, I couldn’t associate with people that did this. I’ve heard that some people also call their kids “sexy” equally weird and horrible.

TheaBrandt · 07/04/2024 19:06

Dreadful. Dont know or have anything to do with anyone like this thankfully

Sparklybanana · 07/04/2024 19:05

If you get told you're a shitbag often enough, children often become shitbags because that's what they believe themselves to be.
Stupid move imo.
When my kids say or do something that gets praise, you can see how proud they are if told. I can't imagine how badly it affects your self belief if you're constantly told something negative. Poor kids.

Froggy99 · 07/04/2024 19:02

Calling your daughter a bitch is awful 😏

Ladyluckinred · 07/04/2024 19:01

Yeah it’s odd. I wouldn’t like to be called a bitch as an adult, I certainly would not consider calling a child one.

ATGforever · 07/04/2024 19:00

Not unreasonable. I knew someone recently who kept calling his kids crotch goblins and - even worse - cum trophies.

Trying to be funny, I suppose but it's just gross.

Inmydreams88 · 07/04/2024 18:59

Calling him "a little shit bag" sounds better somehow than saying "happy birthday to this cheeky little bitch" which is just very strange...