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Afternoon tea is a rip off largely aimed at ripping women off

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:16

Somebody suggested this to me and I’ve never thought of it that way.

You don’t get very men going for afternoon tea do you? The Mark up on afternoon tea is absolutely enormous aside from staffing and cost of the building and stuff- it must be money for old rope for the businesses concerned. Specially the ones that charge over 50 quid ahead.

Are we being conned by the whole afternoon tea debacle?

(yes cake is nice I get that)

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SwedishEdith · 07/04/2024 16:25

It's usually a present for someone when they don't need stuff anymore. My gripe with afternoon tea is the ratio of savoury and sweet is wrong. I don't want to eat loads of cakes after a scone. More sandwiches and one sweet thing would be better for me.

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:25

Imagine if you went in your best soSandar get up and there was some really really hot men having afternoon tea. They wouldn’t be straight would they?

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Hoplittlebunnyhophophopandstop · 07/04/2024 16:25

Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:18

Well I see your point, but honestly the price of the actual team must be like £4

Only if it’s the cheapest crappest food and they’re not paying staff, for a premises, energy bills, insurance and all the usual business over heads.

TulipCat · 07/04/2024 16:25

Well I suppose bike manufacturers have convinced men they all need a £3k road bike for their weekend recreation so we ladies are getting off lightly with our £50 afternoon tea 😁.

But seriously, it's just a social option. I don't think many people feel obliged to book one.

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:25

Lol. Done that. Guilty!

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IHateWasps · 07/04/2024 16:24

And there was no giggling involved.

IHateWasps · 07/04/2024 16:24

There are good and bad Afternoon teas. Personally I love it and always go away full. There were plenty of men having it last time I went for Afternoon tea.

It was £28 for two. Buffet style and it was lovely. I’m more than happy to pay that personally. I was comfortably stuffed by the end.

Groovee · 07/04/2024 16:24

£17 a head for our local one. Can add prosecco. But we normally have to take the excess home.

Growlybear83 · 07/04/2024 16:24

I love afternoon tea. I see it as a real treat and try to go a couple of times each year. I've never noticed that there weren't many men in the hotels/restaurants I've been to!

SecondHandFurniture · 07/04/2024 16:24

Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:23

Bath is Hen do horror most of the time isn’t it from January onwards? I go there quite a lot

It is. Gin bars serving from teapots etc!

PerfectTravelTote · 07/04/2024 16:24

Everything aimed at women is more expensive. Afternoon tea is nowhere near the worst offender.

Twinstudy · 07/04/2024 16:24

My Dad loves afternoon tea. It makes him very easy to buy presents for. Maybe he is doing being a man wrong

I get what you mean really, there is a massive mark up but it's about the experience. He likes a dead posh one, I've bought vouchers for just about every posh hotel in a 50 mile radius over the years 😄

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:23

Bath is Hen do horror most of the time isn’t it from January onwards? I go there quite a lot

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Testina · 07/04/2024 16:22

And actually, in my local village (full of oldies) the afternoon tea market is all women of about 55 living it large on their slightly older (early) retired husband’s pension, with their boomer cheap housing long paid off. So the menz are paying 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

I’m really seeing this as a common sense issue not a feminist issue.

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:22

Ooh Prosecco. So naughty etc.

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Seashor · 07/04/2024 16:22

Champagne afternoon tea at the Barkley is absolutely fabulous and I’m happy to pay for the ambiance. Afternoon tea at my village tea room is also fabulous and I’m happy to pay to keep them open.
I love afternoon tea.

SecondHandFurniture · 07/04/2024 16:22

You're normally paying for the venue though - I live near Bath and there's a 70% premium for anything taking place in a mouldy old Georgian building with no parking.

TheNinjaWife · 07/04/2024 16:22

I reluctantly went to one around 6 years ago as part of a hen do, it cost £35. I don’t particularly like sweet things, and definitely don’t see cake as a treat, I’d only eat it if there was literally nothing else.
I did resent paying that amount for a cup of tea and two tiny quarters of a sandwich.

TonTonMacoute · 07/04/2024 16:21

Afternoon tea is a bit of a rip off, I grant you.

As a weapon designed to target women!? Since when are women forced to partake of afternoon tea, but men aren’t?

Your friend needs to find something else to get outraged about.

Youdontknowmedoyou · 07/04/2024 16:21

Marghogeth · 07/04/2024 16:20

Good point, OP. Women should meet at the local truckers' greasy spoon outlet (cargo container for bonus points) and have a round of bacon sarnies and a builders' brew apiece, all for a fiver. That'll show the patriarchy.

Oh god yes! Romany Jones on the Newton Road between Newton Abbot and Torquay. Oh the memories!!

FanofLeaves · 07/04/2024 16:21

I feel like it’s something couples and families do?! Why do you think it’s aimed solely at women?!

I go for the sandwiches, not the cake, and I’ve had some that were 100% worth it, but £50 a head is hardly the normal price. I don’t think it’s a con because…. Well no one holds a gun (a bun?!) to your head.

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:21

You’re all making me giggle.

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ThePoshUns · 07/04/2024 16:21

Now I want a scone

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:21

Oh you’re right probably, but it’s just a tweeness of it and the stupid tiered cake thing and the giggly. Oh it’s afternoon tea shite

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YellowDaffodilRedTulip · 07/04/2024 16:21

You don’t have to buy afternoon tea. It’s a treat. You expect to pay extra for a treat.
I could make sandwiches, boil the kettle and butter a scone at home cheaper, but it’s not really the same is it.