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Afternoon tea is a rip off largely aimed at ripping women off

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:16

Somebody suggested this to me and I’ve never thought of it that way.

You don’t get very men going for afternoon tea do you? The Mark up on afternoon tea is absolutely enormous aside from staffing and cost of the building and stuff- it must be money for old rope for the businesses concerned. Specially the ones that charge over 50 quid ahead.

Are we being conned by the whole afternoon tea debacle?

(yes cake is nice I get that)

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BeaRF75 · 07/04/2024 16:38

You actually need to go top end and pay closer to £100 for a good one. With champagne, obviously, and definitely not Prosecco. The tea at Claridge's is fantastic, and good VFM considering the surroundings, level of service and constant refills of both tea and sandwiches. Plenty of men there, too.

BigFatLiar · 07/04/2024 16:38

We've always done afternoon tea. Even when 'courting', though we tended to do tea dances. Even now we sometimes feel like the youngest at a tea dance.

When the girls were little they loved going for afternoon tea.

If you're using it as a means of socialising you could always do your own afternoon tea. Get the china and fancy plates out that you never use, do your own cakes and sandwiches.

KoolKookaburra · 07/04/2024 16:38

Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:32

But it might be their boomer husbands money silly

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Don't be ridiculous why are you assuming they are reliant on a man and whats with the "boomer" shit

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:38

DinaofCloud9 · 07/04/2024 16:37

So women are giggly and think prosecco is naughty do they? You're the sexist one op.

They do Di

its the law

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:37

EmpressOfTheThread · 07/04/2024 16:36

Plus women over a certain age are obviously manipulative beeeetches.

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I see myself as the Stephanie Beecham of afternoon teas
like a carb - stunning but evil

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Testina · 07/04/2024 16:37

theworldie · 07/04/2024 16:29

And actually, in my local village (full of oldies) the afternoon tea market is all women of about 55 living it large on their slightly older (early) retired husband’s pension, with their boomer cheap housing long paid off. So the menz are paying 👏🏻

What a disgusting misogynistic comment.

How the hell do you know they’re paying with their husbands pension?

You sound really bitter.

It’s clear my joke didn’t land, so that’s on me.
But I did think that the “so the menz are paying 👏🏻” made it clear that I was joking about women getting their own back on the patriarchy.

DinaofCloud9 · 07/04/2024 16:37

So women are giggly and think prosecco is naughty do they? You're the sexist one op.

Purplebunnie · 07/04/2024 16:36

Had afternoon tea on Friday. DH, DD and myself. Every table was mixed with both male and female. Paid £22.50pp. Had to bring the brownie and Victoria sponge home with us as we were too full - so recommend Bluebell Tea Rooms at Battle right next to the Abbey. Can also recommend the Fourteas in Stratford upon Avon which is themed around WWII and Amberley Castle. No idea ho much Amberley is as it was a birthday present but a stunning venue - best pot of camomile tea I've ever had - had to have it topped up it was soooo good

EmpressOfTheThread · 07/04/2024 16:36

Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:32

But it might be their boomer husbands money silly

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Plus women over a certain age are obviously manipulative beeeetches.

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:35

If I’m served a cucumber sandwich, I can smell a rip-off

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IHateWasps · 07/04/2024 16:34

And bacon and sausage sandwiches instead of cucumber and cold chicken.

Some places do a breakfast “Afternoon tea”.

BiggerBoat1 · 07/04/2024 16:34

I bloody love a cream tea.

I suppose that means I’m being oppressed by the patriarchy but I just don’t care - those little sandwiches are just so good!

Kalevala · 07/04/2024 16:34

Not something I'd do as I don't like the food. Much rather a burger, fudge brownie and a pint of cider

MississippiAF · 07/04/2024 16:33

Itsokish · 07/04/2024 16:29

Exactly what I was going to write ! Double the sandwiches and halve the cakes !

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And bacon and sausage sandwiches instead of cucumber and cold chicken.

EmpressOfTheThread · 07/04/2024 16:33

ilovesooty · 07/04/2024 16:31

Oh undoubtedly. We've had boomers and gay men brought into it. Just add the trans and we'll have a full house.

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Yep. Let's make sure all the dated stereotypes continue!

shepherdsangeldelight · 07/04/2024 16:33

I think takeaway coffee is a bigger rip off. So many people getting (sometimes multiple) coffees every day. At least afternoon tea (the fancy one) is just targetted as an occasional treat. And coffee is aimed equally at both men and women?

dimllaishebiaith · 07/04/2024 16:33

Given premer league football tickets cost between £25-100+ for a game I dont think its the silly women being conned out of their money...

And yes I know some football fans are women, but some men buy afternoon tea so it seems the madness of spending money on things that aren't necessities isnt actually gendered after all and we are all as daft as each other.

But then what do I know, I dont do afternoon tea or football but Im a knitter so my hobby would probably finance a small bakery or local football team

CranfordScones · 07/04/2024 16:33

aside from staffing and cost of the building and stuff

You come across as someone who's never run a business.

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:32

KoolKookaburra · 07/04/2024 16:32

Can we not just accept women know what they are doing with their money?

But it might be their boomer husbands money silly

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DojaPhat · 07/04/2024 16:32

You mean some marketer somewhere has cottoned on to a marketing ploy and is exploiting it to boost profit margins over some tea cakes and nice tea? Absolutely not!!!

But what I will say is that the biggest rip off ever is football. A season ticket, the cost of the merch, the whole shebang seems so pointlessly expensive but then again to each their own.

dullestofall · 07/04/2024 16:32

MagentaRocks · 07/04/2024 16:19

I enjoy an afternoon tea, usually because of the company and it is nice that there isn’t masses of food. There is one we have done that is fantastic value for money and you can take home what you don’t eat for £20pp. The food is delicious too.

Where please?

Chickenrunning · 07/04/2024 16:32

I would have thought that a considerable number of afternoon teas are a present bought by a man for a woman in his life. Because (for some men) paying is easier than making it! So I do t think it is ripping women off.

EmpressOfTheThread · 07/04/2024 16:32

Testina · 07/04/2024 16:22

And actually, in my local village (full of oldies) the afternoon tea market is all women of about 55 living it large on their slightly older (early) retired husband’s pension, with their boomer cheap housing long paid off. So the menz are paying 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

I’m really seeing this as a common sense issue not a feminist issue.

Well, you're certainly making it an ageist issue 🙄

KoolKookaburra · 07/04/2024 16:32

Can we not just accept women know what they are doing with their money?

ilovesooty · 07/04/2024 16:31

missmollygreen · 07/04/2024 16:26

So is afternoon tea another instrument of the patriarchy to oppress women?

Oh undoubtedly. We've had boomers and gay men brought into it. Just add the trans and we'll have a full house.