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Afternoon tea is a rip off largely aimed at ripping women off

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:16

Somebody suggested this to me and I’ve never thought of it that way.

You don’t get very men going for afternoon tea do you? The Mark up on afternoon tea is absolutely enormous aside from staffing and cost of the building and stuff- it must be money for old rope for the businesses concerned. Specially the ones that charge over 50 quid ahead.

Are we being conned by the whole afternoon tea debacle?

(yes cake is nice I get that)

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RJnomore1 · 07/04/2024 17:11

Coddy · 07/04/2024 17:09

It’s nothing to do with anything, but I feel I need to prove my credibility by saying I have seen all three Alvin and the chipmunks movies. And yes, occasionally I like McDonald’s

Well that settles it. There’s four chipmunk films… I’ve got my eye on you now

NeedToChangeName · 07/04/2024 17:11

Ilovelurchers · 07/04/2024 16:50

I agree OP. I got pissed off with all the shops I went in for Mother's Day that were selling a load of things for moms all themed around tea, flowers, cake and the colour pink, as if all moms are the same and we all like this stuff....

Maybe some people, male or female, do love tea and little cakes and dainty sandwiches and all that jizz. They must do I suppose. But why the assumption that this is what all women want?

It's not what I want. I don't even drink any more. But I would still much rather be in a pub with a Person Zero and a lasagne, watching the snooker on a big screen - i would be massively uncomfortable in a posh hotel drawing room eating a miniscule fondant fancy and not knowing what to do with a tea strainer.

Yet because I am a woman, people in the past have often made the mistake of assuming that afternoon tea was what I wanted. Afternoon tea has NEVER been what I wanted.

@Ilovelurchers not surprised you don't like afternoon tea if you were having it with jizz on the cakes.....

MaryFuckingFerguson · 07/04/2024 17:11

I can’t stand afternoon tea but my husband loves it. We recently met friends for weekend away and it was the 2 men that insisted on afternoon bloody tea which cost £160 for the 4 of us. That don’t even include a glass of crap prosecco. It’s so wasted on me as I don’t like any of the components. Sandwiches? Nope. Ditto cakes and scones, and indeed tea 😐

Not sure it’s aimed at women specifically but it’s definitely a rip-off.

Original poster
Coddy · 07/04/2024 17:09

It’s nothing to do with anything, but I feel I need to prove my credibility by saying I have seen all three Alvin and the chipmunks movies. And yes, occasionally I like McDonald’s

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Anyotherdude · 07/04/2024 17:07

IME Afternoon tea has been ruined by the women who go demanding cake, cake and more cake!
I expect at least half a round per person of at least four varieties of sandwiches, a couple of mini quiches, bottomless tea, a scone with clotted cream and jam, and ONE piece of patisserie. Prosecco if it’s for a Birthday only - but then I remember the afternoon teas of the 1970’s and have always retained a nostalgia for those days!

RJnomore1 · 07/04/2024 17:07

Coddy · 07/04/2024 17:01

But was it an exclusive sandwich?

Well not for me, I was far too hungry. It was more of a pile than an exclusive one.

At the Hilton mind you…😉

im curious to know where people are eating to get pub lunch for a family of 4 for £28 or three courses and bottle of wine for 2 for £60-90 mind you? Maybe £90 at stretch…

theworldie · 07/04/2024 17:07

The huge mark up guarantees exclusivity” in relation to some sandwiches and scones must be the funniest thing I’ve read on here.

Look, I know if I pay £100+ for afternoon tea I’m not going to be rubbing shoulders with plebs.

If I fancy seeing how the real folk live (which I do for time to time just to keep myself grounded) I go to Wetherspoons - just a sniff of the ale-soaked carpet and £3.99 roast dinner brings me back to earth if I feel I’m starting to disappear up my own arse.

EmpressOfTheThread · 07/04/2024 17:07

YaMuvva · 07/04/2024 16:56

Last time we went to Maccy’s a few weeks ago we as a family of 4 including a child getting a happy meal spent £28!! I could have bought us all a pub lunch for that. Not been since and have no plans to go.

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You could get a pub lunch for 4 people for £28?
Seriously! Where do you live?

RampantIvy · 07/04/2024 17:06

MagentaRocks · 07/04/2024 16:19

I enjoy an afternoon tea, usually because of the company and it is nice that there isn’t masses of food. There is one we have done that is fantastic value for money and you can take home what you don’t eat for £20pp. The food is delicious too.

All the ones I have been to have provided so much food that I have taken some home in a box. I have never paid more than £25 for afternoon tea.

AlpineMuesli · 07/04/2024 17:04

Hahaha I’ll enjoy the Rosewood Art Tea even more next time. I go by myself so might even have a tragic, ripped-off girly solo giggle. If I see any men though I’ll be sure to note them as gay or imaginary.

TheExclusiveSandwich · 07/04/2024 17:03

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MotherofGorgons · 07/04/2024 17:03

Gosh, MN has changed.

shellyleppard · 07/04/2024 17:03

I would love to go for an afternoon tea.....but I just can't justify paying the price!!!! Did try to go to one for my 50th birthday but too tight 🤣🤣🤣🤣

the80sweregreat · 07/04/2024 17:02

I'd love to have afternoon tea with Chris Martin . I imagine he'd decline (nicely) , but it would be awesome!

SaltBlossom · 07/04/2024 17:01

Not any more Ken. Not any more.

marshmallowfinder · 07/04/2024 17:01

Geebray · 07/04/2024 16:26

Ah, this old one.

Are you pricing in:

Kitchen staff
Waiting staff
Cleaning staff
Food wastage costs
Heating
Electricity
Water rates
Waste disposal
Insurance
Business rates
Upkeep

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Replacing broken crockery, cutlery, laundry costs, staff holidays, profit, advertising and investment, rent or mortgage...

Kendodd · 07/04/2024 17:01

Ooh, I love afternoon tea!
Little dinky cakes and fancy charity shop china. I like to go and pretend I'm the queen. I bet she has afternoon tea every day. Leave me alone and don't burst my bubble Smile

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 17:01

But was it an exclusive sandwich?

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RJnomore1 · 07/04/2024 17:00

“The huge mark up guarantees exclusivity” in relation to some sandwiches and scones must be the funniest thing I’ve read on here.

i don’t mind an afternoon tea. I’ve heard about savoury ones though which would be more up my personal street. My daughter took me for a buffet one for Mother’s Day last year, that was great, loads of sandwiches and scones and just a few wee cakes for me please.

saraclara · 07/04/2024 16:59

I'm not remotely twee or girly, but I enjoy a good afternoon tea with my daughters. At the level of our spending I don't think they're any more of a rip of than any other 'two courses and a drink' meal. The £4 comment is stupid. The sandwiches and cakes are hardly at the level of Tesco's offerings. If you bought them at a posh cake shop they'd be expensive too. And a pot of tea in a nice cafe isn't far off £4 on its own.

Kitkat1523 · 07/04/2024 16:59

I would never eat an afternoon tea so would never bother….I like a cream tea tho….far more reasonably priced

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:59

SaltBlossom · 07/04/2024 16:58

Which obviously Tony's money paid for.

As a boomer

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SaltBlossom · 07/04/2024 16:58

Which obviously Tony's money paid for.

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:58

Dying

D E A D

😂😂😂

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SaltBlossom · 07/04/2024 16:58

Don't forget that Carmela and Meadow Soprano always donned special white gloves for their afternoon tea experiences.

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