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Afternoon tea is a rip off largely aimed at ripping women off

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Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:16

Somebody suggested this to me and I’ve never thought of it that way.

You don’t get very men going for afternoon tea do you? The Mark up on afternoon tea is absolutely enormous aside from staffing and cost of the building and stuff- it must be money for old rope for the businesses concerned. Specially the ones that charge over 50 quid ahead.

Are we being conned by the whole afternoon tea debacle?

(yes cake is nice I get that)

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WandaWonder · 08/04/2024 05:54

Yeah, it was all created for the sole purpose of conspiring against women as women don't have enough brains to work things out for themselves

I do know of lots of men who have it. I also just look around cafes and see couples

The world has gone mad

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 08/04/2024 05:37

@SusieLawson I would definitely say that £21 for a wash and haircut is very cheap! That's a bargain.

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 08/04/2024 05:27

@lumierplate the place I mentioned is 4 star and it's gorgeous. I'm in Scotland though so a lot more reasonable than down south.

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 08/04/2024 04:58

@GoldenSpraint that def sounds like one afternoon tea. I'd have asked for the manager to check that!

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 08/04/2024 04:57

@TheGiantEmperor did you not check the price when you booked? Even a glance?

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 08/04/2024 04:55

customers can’t be offered a double spirit or a large glass of wine. It has to be a single or small unless requested.

@BlueThursday ummm I live in Scotland and every place I go has the option of 175 ml or 250ml wine on the drinks menus. No curbing as far as I'm aware?

merrymelodies · 08/04/2024 04:16

Ah yes! A naice misogynistic shit-stir by the OG... Halo

HoppingPavlova · 08/04/2024 02:37

My DH loves these and is always trying to drag me off to them. He loves the ‘fancy’ aspect of them. Of course they are overpriced in that you could make the same at home for a lot less, but you can say that about eating out in general I guess. I don’t understand the problem, or why it’s a women’s issue. Surely, if you don’t feel its value in your eyes then just don’t go? How hard is it? No one is forced to go for the afternoon teas.

DreamTheMoors · 08/04/2024 02:05

Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:35

If I’m served a cucumber sandwich, I can smell a rip-off

That’s definitely not what I smell.

Longsight2019 · 08/04/2024 02:01

Oh. I’ve just booked afternoon tea with some reluctance for my wife’s birthday. And now I’ve read this and it kind of proves my fear/point.

It’s a bloody con!

Should I cancel?

nunsflipflop · 08/04/2024 01:12

We sent my PIL for their Golden anniversary for tea at the Ritz. FIL wasn’t impressed initially and did end up with his cuff in the clotted cream, but they both really enjoyed it. It was something they would never have treated themselves to, they both felt thoroughly spoilt for an afternoon. It was £50 each in 2013. He died two years later, so it’s a lovely memory for her to look back on.

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 08/04/2024 00:42

wizzywig · 07/04/2024 16:57

I get the giggling and tittering op. People should behave as if the experience is the norm for them

I've never, ever seen all the "tittering and giggling"

As others have said, OP would do better having a look at her own misogyny.

ThePoshUns · 08/04/2024 00:32

How perfectly lovely

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 08/04/2024 00:31

theduchessofspork · 08/04/2024 00:17

Have you thought about putting your internalised misogyny in a finger sandwich ?

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Or perhaps get some help with her lack of self esteem. You'd have to hate yourself quite a lot to want to waste time trying to boost yourself by such pointless put downs.

theduchessofspork · 08/04/2024 00:30

ThePoshUns · 08/04/2024 00:24

Who wants to be like other girls?

I like other girls, whether they like cream teas or not.

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 08/04/2024 00:28

theduchessofspork · 08/04/2024 00:17

She’s not like all the other girls.

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Isn't she just? I tried reading all the OP's posts- got halfway through. The internalised misogyny and the desperate attempt to be so not like the other girls are quite sad really.

ThePoshUns · 08/04/2024 00:24

Who wants to be like other girls?

theduchessofspork · 08/04/2024 00:17

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 07/04/2024 23:40

Right?

I can’t stand these ‘I’m so above it’ posts like the OP’s.

Yes, afternoon tea can be expensive for the basic ingredients but often you’re paying for the venue or a particular experience alongside it. You could say it about anything - a fancy meal, a spa day. You can do it all a lot cheaper in your local cafe/leisure centre but it’s not quite the same is it?

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She’s not like all the other girls.

theduchessofspork · 08/04/2024 00:17

Coddy · 07/04/2024 16:44

Yes you’re right I know about it being a choice, but it’s just so oooh and giggling all oooh afternoon tea and Prosecco and why don’t they do an all you can eat pie and mash buffet

Have you thought about putting your internalised misogyny in a finger sandwich ?

SpiritOfEcstasy · 08/04/2024 00:13

Fleetheart · 07/04/2024 19:08

You evidently haven’t been to Luton Hoo; the sandwiches and cakes are something else. Worth every penny!

Luton Hoo is one of my favourite places for afternoon tea 😊

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 07/04/2024 23:40

AlpineMuesli · 07/04/2024 17:04

Hahaha I’ll enjoy the Rosewood Art Tea even more next time. I go by myself so might even have a tragic, ripped-off girly solo giggle. If I see any men though I’ll be sure to note them as gay or imaginary.

Right?

I can’t stand these ‘I’m so above it’ posts like the OP’s.

Yes, afternoon tea can be expensive for the basic ingredients but often you’re paying for the venue or a particular experience alongside it. You could say it about anything - a fancy meal, a spa day. You can do it all a lot cheaper in your local cafe/leisure centre but it’s not quite the same is it?

MyNameIsFine · 07/04/2024 23:38

Crumpleton · 07/04/2024 23:11

Fortunately we don't..
So more profit for the Cafè.

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I suppose they could have a cheaper 'express tea' and give you a 10 min timer to glug it down and get yourself out the door. 😁

SallyWD · 07/04/2024 23:34

I had no idea afternoon tea was just for women. My DH, my dad and several male friends all enjoy it!

Retiredearly61 · 07/04/2024 23:33

SwedishEdith · 07/04/2024 16:25

It's usually a present for someone when they don't need stuff anymore. My gripe with afternoon tea is the ratio of savoury and sweet is wrong. I don't want to eat loads of cakes after a scone. More sandwiches and one sweet thing would be better for me.

Our local one offers a savoury afternoon tea which is cheeses, hams, pork pies , pickles etc and a traditional sweet one. My friend and I have one of each and share

nothingsforgotten · 07/04/2024 23:19

Surely women are able to make up their own minds if they want to indulge in afternoon tea or not? No-one is forcing them, and some people are happy to pay the price. Pretty sure there are men who also enjoy afternoon tea, and who presumably pay the same price as the women.