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To not want to throw in my job to live in France for a year?

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Puppalicious · 06/04/2024 17:05

My DH is always complaining about where we live (the weather, the day to day slog) and he is desperate to move (either to the country, or to another country). He has now become absolutely adamant that he wants to move to France for a year “for an adventure”. This would involve me giving up my job, which he says I haven’t been happy in recently. I have been struggling at times recently, because of various factors, and he says I’m obsessed with it do the detriment of my family, it is stressful but ultimately it’s well-paid, senior, my boss is fine and it works ok with my kids given it’s full-time and senior (flexible, short commute, hybrid). It’s far from guaranteed I could find job similar when I come back (could be less well paid, less senior (I like working at this level) or longer and less flexible hours with demanding clients or indeed I could struggle to get a job. He says we could live off our savings but we have 3 kids to put through college, the youngest of whom has just started school and we are not young. At the same time, we only live once and it does feel a bit samey. He is putting me under pressure, but would AIBU to say no?

OP posts:
Zanatdy · 06/04/2024 17:14

No I wouldn’t give my job up for a 1yr move

Bramshott · 06/04/2024 17:14

It would be a hard no from me unless it was something I really wanted to do too. We're all allowed to moan about our jobs...

Puppalicious · 06/04/2024 17:13

EU passports.
i lived in France for a year when younger (so this wouldn’t even be a totally new adventure for me!) forget a lot of it but could probably pick a lot back up, unlikely to be fluent but can get by. Not enough to make French friends though I think.
4-11.

OP posts:
Bigearringsbigsmile · 06/04/2024 17:11

Do you have European passports? Do you speak French?

Chersfrozenface · 06/04/2024 17:09

What passports do you have? This will determine whether or not you need a visa.

Do either of you speak French?

What ages are your children?