To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

I have been thinking about this thread all day.

If you had asked me four years ago, my list would have been grim. It's not perfect now. But I realise that today, right now, I do not have that many problems, at least compared with many on this thread. That stage of life has passed, and whilst I struggle with parts of it, things are ok again.

Thoughts especially to @keffie12 @Completelydonechick

Oh poor you I’m so sorry for your loss. Hope you can find some solace.

Accepting the reality of my life and working out what to do, finding the strength to either make changes or accept things as they are and be grateful for what I have.

I can so relate. I’m prone to what is known as ‘agitated depression,’ which is a hideous mix of depression and anxiety. I had a mild bout recently. It’s different to worry, or being fed up. It’s more like an illness - a physical illness. It isn’t just in the head. I feel it in my body. It’s in my guts, in my arms, in my legs. Hideous. I’m frightened of depression. Genuinely terrified. I can endure the day to day shittiness of life, but I can’t bear depression. You’re in hell. I’m more afraid of depression than almost anything, even death.

My Mum being very ill. Also mental health issues causes by the realisation that I will never have a family, and as an only child, will grow old and die completely alone.

My late husband, being passed. It's been 6 years. It doesn't get better. It gets different.

I have a rich, fulfilling life, adult youngsters, family time, my grandchildren, friends, and fellowship.

My earlier life before I met my 2nd husband was very difficult. I've had a difficult life.

Today, life has grown over the years more peaceful etc however I still always will love and miss my husband

My relationship with DH. It’s made me chronically unhappy. Years of resentment mean our relationship is toxic and we should split, but it will make my life so difficult. I wish he would make the move to end it, I’ve tried twice.

Life circumstances mean I've hit 40 with no savings and no pension.

There are so many problems shared on this thread that could be overcome if people were properly supported- and by that I mean community to wider sociopolitical mechanisms.

A society should judge itself on how it treats its most vulnerable people. I’m imagining a utopia of fair wealth distribution to properly fund health, local government and education. To imagine children not living in poverty and each citizen having a safe, secure and comfortable home. We don’t ask for much but it seems like meeting basic needs is becoming much less tenable as each day passes.
Sending my heartfelt love to each and every person who is going through the tough and unimaginable. If ever there was a reminder to have gratitude and to strive to be a person who lives their lives with compassion and understanding then this thread embodies this.

Hello,

I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you are facing - it does sound quite full on. Have you spoken to your GP about your MH and how you are feeling?

Please remember that even though you may wish you could help your DD more, you ARE helping her by being there and caring.

Going through a divorce sucks, and even more so when your ex is being so horrible, but it will pass. There IS light on the other side.

Regarding work, hopefully the process is a formality and you can explain that you've had your mind elsewhere and forgot to renew your registration.

Please remember to do some things you enjoy, and bear in mind things will get better with time. Take each day as it comes and be kind to yourself.

Your GP might know of local support groups for carers/ relatives with difficulties and they might offer a starting point for you to reconnect with others. Sharing your story is a powerful thing and can really help you unpack things.

Keep talking and good luck!

Me too x 10000000000 🥴

My biggest problem is lack of time to do the things I want. I had a week off work there and it was great. I barely made a dent in all the stuff I had to do, but the break from having to go the office was so much better than I thought it would be.

2 under 2
burnt out. Skint. DH self employed and out constantly working to still scrape by. No breaks.

@Notallhereanymore i am so very sorry for your loss

Depression. I count my blessings every day, have a home I can afford and friends and family but still feel deeply, deeply miserable, had cancer a couple of years ago and they medical staff were fantastic and thought I was a model patient, they didn't realise it was because I didn't care if i lived or died.

to anyone else who has deep depression, beware of Mirtazapine, side effects were Rage, hatred and when that calmed down everything hurt, could hardly walk.

We were so lucky to get a diagnosis quickly for DS - by which I mean we were only on the waiting list for a year, but now everything is dropping away, with them all listing all the other interventions we're supposedly having as reasons why we don't need their particular service.

And we still have a ten year old who hates himself and wants to die.

The system is completely inadequate and is falling children.

My autistic dd11 unable to attend school due to ebsa.

A new massive eye floater appeared in late February and I keep thinking about it. It’s making me not want to go on holiday.

I love my 6 month old daughter but it’s hard work and I’m struggling to get things done. I don’t have enough time with my husband since she was born.

I don’t qualify for a mortgage as a freelancer but really want to but a house to feel more secure. Currently stuck renting. Nervous about money as everything is becoming so expensive.

Husband has cancer and is depressed by life in general.
I'm still avoiding driving and keep making excuses to walk or bus everywhere instead, despite car parked outside...phobic avoidance setting in.
But on bright side my ASD son is out the other side of an EHCP (to all those wrestling with SEN applications) and in final year at uni, sociable, motivated, happy.
House is always a state of mess but I try and do tiny bits now instead of just feeling paralysed ...it used to be one of my biggest problems ...now not so important. We survived the mess and had fun.

Weight.
My broken back in 4 places that hospital is dismissive of.

Currently....
Grief I think.
4 deaths in a short span.
The last one just a month ago. Cancer is an absolute fucker 😪
Currently not dealing with any of it.
Hermit, overweight, smoking too much, eating shite.
Not making GP appts for important stuff because I actually don't give a fuck.
My only child bleeds me dry, heaps their shit on me then gives me vile messages.
I blocked them.
I hate this life.
(NC for this)
Hugs for those who want them 🤗

Also have nieces and nephews about to buy in 20s and I can't in 50s...hugely depressing

My mum’s dementia. Rules my life even though virtually everything else is near on perfect. Has done for last 2 years. I love her and will do/have done everything I can but it isn’t enough.

Same as always the worry landlord will sell..
And exactly the same..friends paying off mortgages and I can't even get one.

Thanks, I actually have a lot of friends but it's not the same as a relationship for me I'm afraid.