To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

Best wishes to all. Think this should go into classics to preserve it.

I am self employed so it is variable income. I do prefer being my own boss though and luckily my overheads are low.

My 12 yr old is the same.
Sleeps all the time and won't leave the house.
I have no life, no job..no friends, abusive neighbours, ill health myself and because of all the stress I even 'forgot'to go to my pip tribunal.
Everyone else's problems on here are so much worse though and I really feel for you all

Being disabled at 55. Low mobility, low mood, two autoimmune conditions that have got so much worse since the menopause. I have to rely on DH to do everything around the home, he is my only blessing in this. Not being able to spend time with my DC and my DGC, as much as I would like because I’m too ill to go to them and my house isn’t big enough to have them all here.

i have to do a face to face assessment for DWP this week, so worried about it, I feel like they will try and catch me out, especially as mentally I get confused and lose or swap words.

Just got new glasses and am walking like a spaceman as they’re bloody bifocals!

I was very close to.my Dad took and he's been dead now for almost 30 years and occasionally I still cry when I miss him. I try to focus on the nice memories and can do this most of the time. I feel your pain. 💐

You deserve a break... sending virtual to you and all

This thread is really heartbreaking and I’m so sorry for everyone on it hurting from so many different reasons.

But I did want to address this: the idea that if you’ve read problems that seem “worse” than yours, you feel stupid, or somehow less than. Believe me, it’s just not true. Pain is pain, and hurt is hurt. We all hurt, and we all need support. There isn’t a grand scale where everything is judged and a loud, booming voice says, “Oi, you, your problem isn’t that big. Down to the bottom with you.” No! There is only the scale of your life, which I think is what this thread shows - whatever is the biggest problem to you right now is still the biggest problem, regardless of what someone else is going through.

And while it’s true that it’s a shame so many of us spend some of our prime years thinking we’re less capable, smart, attractive, or loved than we are, it’s also true that some problems will steal years away from us, and that’s not your fault. It’s not anybody’s fault. Pain, illness, grief, worry that eats you up from the inside, exhaustion from trying to do it on your own - it’s a lot to ask any human to take.

So when you see someone else’s comment and think, “Oh, I’m pathetic/ridiculous/stupid; that’s so much worse than my life,” no, you are not. Pain is relative. All lives are different. And I’m so sorry so many of you are hurting today. I hope that you do find some comfort and maybe even some solutions, if possible, as time moves on.

I'm overweight even after losing 4 stones last year.

I have terrible nightmares.

I just worry generally. I find it hard to not worry.

Thank you to everyone who has wished me well on this thread (I posted within the first 15-20 or so posts).

To the poster who advised I may be entitled to full pay while suspended, once I realised my registration had lapsed I basically found myself in a bit of a mental breakdown so I'm off sick. My company (ironically an Occ Health one) offer discretionary sick pay only. I doubt they will pay me though

Thinking of everyone who has posted, it just goes to show that you never do know what someone else is going through.

Life is fucking cruel and harsh. I hope everyone has support...whether from friends, family, online communities or pets!

Just got a couple of silly part time jobs and for first time in my life, I'm not getting anywhere with interviews for more. I'm massively bored and getting a bit panicky at being trapped and needing a change somewhere, somehow.

Dh chronic health issues tied with dparents late 80s and frail health.

I think we can bear our pain better than pain in our children - I can’t take it away but you aren’t alone 💐

Relationship with dp is pants and it effects everything. I wish I could leave, keep dc with me, and they be OK with it.

And in 4 simple words you stop my heart. I pray that you have support in facing this and that your child recovers.

It really puts things into perspective doesn't it. Thinking of all those who are really struggling for whatever reasons.

It’s actually tragically refreshing to read about everyone’s hard times on here. I really do hope for the best possible outcome for all these worrying situations you are facing. It’s refreshing not to read a thread about people having 4 holidays booked and just finding life a breeze though when my day to day life isn’t like that generally

Fat and unfit
leaving H and divorce
setting up a business as money will be tight with the split

This is a good one. I think sadly it would have to be money related. I’m trying to make the leap and put everything into my small business and quit my job but between trying to physically run it with young kids and having to constantly shelve out yet more money for stock without actually seeing the benefits yet, it does feel like a losing battle. I just wish we had enough money to comfortably afford the food shopping without having to check my bank app in the queue to see how close to -£500 we are 🤦🏻‍♀️

Losing my dream home with my horses at home due to the cost of living and covid redundancy which never got us the same salary. Our home is one we have renovated with blood, sweat and tears and someone else will enjoy it.

Had to show people round yesterday and today and it’s gutting.

I lay in bed and cry. It comes off the back of losing a parent too.

I’m so anxious I barely sleep.

Being a late diagnosed autistic adult woman, single parent, to an autistic child.

I'm not even 30, but I feel like I can't go on at work.

I work from home, I work part time, I'm entirely in control of my environment, but I feel like workplaces purposefully put barriers in place to weed the weak and disabled out.

My current employer routinely does an annual business reshuffle, will only approve 12 month flexible working agreements for people, and then declines the renewals on business grounds and you have to put up a massive fight to try and get your needs met again.

I just don't have the fight in me any more to explain over and over again why it's important I get my needs met, and that I'm not just being that woman.

This is the sixth job in my adult life I've had to justify this, and even when I win, it's not enough. The accomodations allow me to just about keep enough stamina to camoflage so my disability doesn't disadvantage any one else.

I've tried office work, I've tried working from home, I've tried retail work, I've tried service work, I've tried a lot of different kinds of work and I just can't do it.

On top of that, my son isn't in school full time, and even if he were I'd need wrap around care which he's unlikely to get approved for because he's got quite significant support needs as he becomes overwhelmed easily and has no sense of danger and is extremely resourceful and cunning, but with very little reciprocative language, and he definitely couldn't tell an adult about me or his caregivers if he was ever lost.

I obviously didn't plan on becoming a burnt out single parent, and before I got pregnant I didn't know I was autistic, I just thought I had a lower resilience than other people and I could just try harder and eventually I would be ok.

There's no support out there. I don't think I meet the requirements for PIP, I'm on universal credit but because I'm part time, and off sick with burnout again, they're keen to get me job hunting with weekly visits to an illuminated office with people who don't care about me or my circumstances to be penalised if I fail to comply.

Just want to acknowledge the posts and the pain Youve candidly shared. The relentlessness of it all
No solutions just I see you

Is it Cornwall or Devon by any chance?

I knew a lovely couple who settled in Cornwall {From a rural place elsewhere in the Country} and it was so unwelcoming and awful.

They moved back to where they were originally from and seem so much happier.

If it's your land, can't you kick the blighter off? - It's very rude to walk across someone's land without permission if there isn't a footpath there.

Maybe get a Ram on loan - Rams are very territorial.

See ''Angry Ram'' ''Rambro''. {He's now sadly RIP, but his son lives on.