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Biggybigbiggles · 2024-04-06T16:04:33+00:00

Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me. If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

PassingStranger · 08/04/2024 17:06

My foot. Can't shift heel pain. Spend quite alot at the Podiatrist so far and still not right.
Wondering if it will ever shift.

ERest · 08/04/2024 16:04

Starwomanwaiting · 08/04/2024 07:59

My 2 yo isn’t talking, at all.
I worry they will be like my sibling, who is in a care home, non-verbal.
I see autism everywhere I look, even on here. I am terrified.
I hear about late talkers anecdotally all the time, especially with pretermers, but I wonder if I’m just deluding myself. No one professional seems to think late talkers exist so there’s no reassurance, just more fear.
My husband can’t cope.
I do not regret my child but I wish I had met a partner who was stronger.
I try to practice gratitude every day, for the things I do have, but it’s hard.

There is still time for them at 2, so please cut them and yourself some slack. If you feel pressured, they will feel it too and that will only make it worse. Stated as one with a kid who didn't speak properly till they were 4.5 and now cannot shut up for 5 minutes.

gmor6787 · 08/04/2024 14:40

WickedSerious · 06/04/2024 19:35

My son,it's always been my son.

Also the house still needs a ridiculous amount of work more than twenty years after we moved in.

My problems too.

ChocoChocoLatte · 08/04/2024 14:31

@Blackcats7 me too, the ability to give the same level of fucks as before has completely gone.

peakygold · 08/04/2024 12:47

My weight. It goes up and down. Mostly up.

valensiwalensi · 08/04/2024 12:02

NippySweetie16 · 08/04/2024 11:26

Had breast cancer last year and been through surgery and treatment. Can't shift worry that every ache or pain is it's return.

I feel this. Had surgery last year. Every ache is a worry.

NippySweetie16 · 08/04/2024 11:26

Had breast cancer last year and been through surgery and treatment. Can't shift worry that every ache or pain is it's return.

LouDeLou · 08/04/2024 10:44

LadyGooGaa · 06/04/2024 17:36

I live in Israel (married a man, went to his place etc). I’ve just turned 50 and I have 2 kids. I don’t feel safe anymore here and I’m desperate to return to England with our kids. But husband won’t hear of it. I can’t take them without his consent and I can’t stay because I think Israel is about to be wiped out, and it terrifies me every waking moment.
I wish I was 30 and living in the uk.

This is so sad and scary - strength and hugs, every day I’m hopeful that this terrible war will end. 😘

Swanbeauty · 08/04/2024 10:31

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fiddleleaffig · 08/04/2024 10:20

I need to find a job and I have no idea what I want to do.

Finishing uni this summer (teacher training) but I'm not really sure I want to be a teacher (I've worked in schools for 7years as support staff, I think I've had enough and want a change), and the long resignation dates scare me, like it's a massive commitment if I hate the school. I haven't worked a full time office job since dd was 2 (and she's now 20 but I have another 3 younger dc), so going back to a 9-5 and working all school holidays, having to put youngest dc into holiday clubs etc, also worries me. I just don't know what to do, or what I want to do. And I really need to decided asap.

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Blackcats7 · 08/04/2024 09:46

Cancer
then Chronic pain and increasing disability.
If this happens to you it will make you see what you considered were big problems were nothing in comparison.
I have a short fuse for people whining about minimal issues these days.

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MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 08/04/2024 09:41

FuckOffTom · 06/04/2024 17:27

I wish I could boost my self esteem and start being more disciplined with myself in terms of having a good routine. I’ve stagnated and been stuck in a rut for quite a while now. Being able to wfh whenever I want hasn’t helped me at all!

I procrastinate something rotten

OMG are you me?! I completely understand this.

Are you also in a place where you look at your set up and think this is perfect...on paper this is the most perfect environment for the best routine ever to achieve soooooo much stuff...

...and yet.....😂

I've lost count of the amount daily planners I have bought, made myself etc...

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Fartly · 08/04/2024 09:34

I would cure my youngest daughter's lifelong condition that requires 24 hour management and has caused us so much stress trying to care for her that I have developed an autoimmune condition and my other children are struggling mentally. If it was taken away the relief would make all of us want to run through the streets singing. I am sure the weight lifting from my shoulders would make me float away.

DotAndCarryOne2 · 08/04/2024 09:23

Notthatcatagain · 07/04/2024 18:57

Hank you, I'm planning to see a surgeon later this year to ask for one. I've been on long term steroids and piled weight on so I know I need to lose that first. 2 stone off, 1 more to go. Then I shall see the man

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A dear friend of mine was in similar circumstances after cancer treatment. She eventually had a stoma, and although it was difficult to come to terms with and the management of it took a little time to get used to, she has never looked back and says life is so much easier. I do hope the same will be true for you. Sending you a hug.

Hakunatomato · 08/04/2024 09:23

Waiting for the results of my cortisol tests. I have two nodules on my adrenal glands and if they are affecting my cortisol levels, (Cushing disease) they have to come out….. On a lighter note I am waiting for them to bring the latest iPad out. Mine is on its last legs after 5 years, and I don’t want to replace it for them to bring out a brand new one the next day!

Frostinmyface · 08/04/2024 09:12

my weight, have put on stones since developing chronic illnesses, medications, lack of mobility, menopause. I don’t recognise myself anymore…. also
my health, I’d love to feel well and normal like I used to be, even if just for one day.
Not having to worrying about money constantly would be bloody lovely too!

Rosscameasdoody · 08/04/2024 09:02

nunsflipflop · 08/04/2024 01:24

Being disabled at 55. Low mobility, low mood, two autoimmune conditions that have got so much worse since the menopause. I have to rely on DH to do everything around the home, he is my only blessing in this. Not being able to spend time with my DC and my DGC, as much as I would like because I’m too ill to go to them and my house isn’t big enough to have them all here.

i have to do a face to face assessment for DWP this week, so worried about it, I feel like they will try and catch me out, especially as mentally I get confused and lose or swap words.

Just got new glasses and am walking like a spaceman as they’re bloody bifocals!

I’ve PM’d you.

Maray1967 · 08/04/2024 08:25

Nsky62 · 07/04/2024 22:40

My worsening Parkinson’s, 7 years in at nearly 62, too much too son.
No real breakthroughs tho, it seems all about cancer, which is very frustrating

My DF is dealing with this although at an older age.

It is so frustrating that there don’t seem to be any breakthroughs in treatment.

Other than that, my problems are behind me hopefully . I gave myself a good talking to a while ago that my significantly thinning hair was no big deal compared to infertility and miscarriages and I should be grateful that I have my 2 DSs after all my difficulties conceiving/staying pregnant. I hope it works out for all of you with infertility.

Starwomanwaiting · 08/04/2024 07:59

My 2 yo isn’t talking, at all.
I worry they will be like my sibling, who is in a care home, non-verbal.
I see autism everywhere I look, even on here. I am terrified.
I hear about late talkers anecdotally all the time, especially with pretermers, but I wonder if I’m just deluding myself. No one professional seems to think late talkers exist so there’s no reassurance, just more fear.
My husband can’t cope.
I do not regret my child but I wish I had met a partner who was stronger.
I try to practice gratitude every day, for the things I do have, but it’s hard.

rainontherooftop · 08/04/2024 07:50

Two of my closest friends have fallen out badly with each other. Trying to be supportive to both is very tricky.