To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

I had this in both feet for 7 months unable to walk - I was waiting for surgery it was so bad and by sheer chance went onto Clarkes and brought my kids school shoes and saw these shoes with comfort insoles really thick insoles and I brought a pair they were £100 - oh my giddy aunt within two weeks the pin on both feet had totally gone - I chucked out all the cheap loafers I had brought from the factory shop and garden centres etc and brought 4 more pairs. It has never ever come back.

I'm so tired. I have a vitamin b12 deficiency and I have to take vitamins for 3 months to see if it goes away but I don't think it is, and I don't know how I'm going to tough out the remaining 6 weeks. And I'm just busy all the time.

Similar. One of ours sheds everywhere, both can be a pain but DS adores them, misses even while we're away on hols, and family members just lost theirs - hard to see them hurting so trying to appreciate them

Have you had your b12 levels checked as they are all symptoms of deficiency

You have had a truly tragic experience re your brother. Please, please take care of yourself. Moment by moment

I’m so sorry to hear this, sending you both healing wishes and hope you get the support and positive news you need soon x

Thank you ❤

My first problem is 10 stone extra I’m carrying around
my second problem is that my oldest has autism and another medial issue that makes open days at secondaries HORRIFIC and no school gives a shit around here and no one will agree to a show round at a better time for him.
my final problem is money - I never have enough

weight. years of therapy, overcame eating disorder, now weigh half of what i did a couple of years ago. obvious benefits, but i absolutely hate my new "normal BMI" body.

neighbours. just about finished repairing the garden destruction caused by one side leaving a firepit unattended; other side chop about three feet off our hedge (fully on our side of boundary, not shared) unannounced, destroying various nests in the process. felt like the worst kind of violation. but it can't be that both sides are arseholes - it MUST be us, right?

exhausting, difficult in-laws. constant background hum of concern over climate change, geo-political situation - the future, basically.

but on the plus side - grateful that i have somewhere to live, that i'm not worrying about money every single waking second at the moment, that i don't panic about abusive relative finding me as much as i used to (20 years on). and menopause rage feels like a superpower.

💐to everyone.

Urgh..how long have you got?
Almost 45 and fat and frumpy with bad skin issue all of a sudden.
Someone hit my car 6 weeks ago and caused a shitload of damage..and she was uninsured! Great!
Difficult adult children.
My brother took his life at Christmas and I think it’s only hitting me now.

My relationship broke up when I was 37 (no kids) and it was horrendous. I'm now with someone else who is absolutely amazing and the love of my life. It was completely unexpected but he came into my life and has made it infinitely better. Keep going, I promise this is just the start of the rest of your life ❤

@gillefc82

"Add into the mix 3 large dogs (including a recently adopted rescue dog) to care for, a house that needs some maintenance work doing and seems to constantly dirty from dog hair and muddy paw marks on the floors"

Just to say we have two large dogs and so the same cleanliness issues! However, I saw something the other day which was a lady whose dog had died. She was walking round her house saying how much she missed the muddy paw prints, dog hair, toys and bits of chews everywhere and how quiet and unlike a home it felt. She said the whole time she had him she wished she could have a clean and tidy house and now she would give anything for the mess again.

So now I try to think that whenever I walk into the kitchen 😊I'll take the mess, noise and general chaos over not having our two absolute whirlwinds in our life.

Such a different thread to so many I seem to come across where there is so much antagonism and lack of compassion.

My biggest one will have to stay inside as I can’t face torrents of abuse
My over drinking leading to overeating leading to being several stone overweight
Conflicting between 14 years being single loving it to 14 years single poor me
In general too much poor me and this thread made me wake up

@Iom92 I am so so sorry to hear that. Sending you hugs x

Hey love. That all sounds really tough. I know you'll be great in your new job - you sound like a coper! Sometimes we just don't have the choice, other than to cope, but dealing with everything you have on your plate, I bet you have lots of coping experience. Perhaps you'll meet new people you might like to consider as friends in your new job. The chronic pain is a nightmare, it can really change your whole outlook on life. 'Private' doesn't necessarily mean magic though, they might not be able to do any more than NHS. If it's debilitating, then be that squeaky wheel and try to get your GP to refer you on. Just because back pain is so common, doesn't mean you can't be helped to help it. I'm finding pilates really helpful (cliche!) and it's cheaper than a private physio! And mobilising, with painkillers, to avoid seizing up - you know all this, but it does help.

I also have a 13 yo autistic son and worry so much about the future. He'll never be able to live without a high level of assistance, and I sometimes don't even know if he's capable of living in supported living accommodation. Anywhere he went would have to be secure and eyes on him at all times, and that's basically at home, or somewhere akin to a prison. It's very hard for people who don't have this in their lives to understand what a shadow it throws over the future.

oh, shitloads of stuff! Some of it really a lot less critical than the other stuff. Some of the stuff I'm not thinking about and is on the back burner, I really need to prioritise. But that's always the way, isn't it? I'm going la-la-la and getting sidetracked by the fact that I want/need to lose a stone and a half in order to get back into size 14 clothes, when actually I ought to be ringing round some roofers to sort out our many and varied damp issues before they get any worse, and trying to sit my recalcitrant parents down for a grown up chat about their very complex financial/property situation.

-weight (fixable, just dull/hard to do it)
-no pension apart from state one (head in sand)
-13 yr old son with severe autism/LDs, getting violent, already too strong for either of us to control if he's being stubborn, despite existing on fresh air and the odd crisp
-older child getting depressed about GCSEs despite being really very bright and doing well at mocks, etc. Concerned about MH there.
-Parents and their intractable personal situation. Massive unexploded bomb there, ticking away.
-perimeno loss of what libido I ever had, testogel making bugger-all difference.
-roof/house in worrying state of disrepair
-having difficulty getting on with my side hustle and have an exhibition to make stuff for
-joint and back pain becoming increasing problem, GP was crap, NHS and private physio didn't help, pilates helps with stiffness but not pain, and I can't accept that at 50, this is my lot in life and walks are just not a thing for me any more.

But that aside - nobody I love has died yet. We have a (leaky) roof over our heads and enough money to heat it, buy food and go out, and on holiday. We have a car. We have a nice view. We have lovely cats and as far as I know, we're all broadly healthy. For all of that, I'm grateful. to those battling with much worse issues.

Are you and your child getting support? Its such a worry when there are developmental concerns. I'm in Ireland so the system is different here but if I can help let me know. I got lots of support and info on what to do next from parents' groups. Xx

Have you thought about hypnotherapy,my aunt was terrified of the dentist but was in so much pain with tooth decay,that she got hypnotised and was able to have treatment

Well, if she’s anything like her mum she certainly will be brave and strong. X

I just read this and I think will stay with me for good.
I cannot admire more your spirit. Big hugs.

I truly hope everything is well for you, and if it isn't you hold your head high and face it straight on! Take everything that is given!
For me I forget I have a terminal illness until it comes to new pain or scans, and then I make it a new normal, but it's shite and didn't ever think it would happen to me or that I would potentially leave my only child, my daughter before she makes it to adulthood, but I'm determined that she will be a strong clever independent woman and that makes me happy xx

Plantar Fasciitis? It feels like it will never go, but honestly it will. Different things work for different people as you'll see from all the MN PF threads, but almost everyone finds something that works for them in the end (for me it's rigorous attachment to appropriate shoes)