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To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

765 replies

Biggybigbiggles · 06/04/2024 17:04

Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

OP posts:
Caffeineneedednow · 06/04/2024 18:54

Mould in my house. Money is secondary to that as if I had a magic money tree I would redo a load of stuff that should fix it.

Itsmeamandaberry · 06/04/2024 18:53

I'm 40 9 weeks today and I really hate myself. I'm just fed up of being over weight

Nicetobenice67 · 06/04/2024 18:51

Reading some of these posts has actually made me realise I don’t have any problems…hugs to you all

Nicetobenice67 · 06/04/2024 18:50

Mumaway · 06/04/2024 17:28

Newly diagnosed breast cancer. It's coming off next week though! I also hate my hair, so am having a wild dye job before it all falls out....

Bless you sending hugs

catherinewales · 06/04/2024 18:48

Bakersdozens · 06/04/2024 18:45

Cancer

Me too. Although not me it's my husband. Sending a hand hold xx

DrCoconut · 06/04/2024 18:47

It's a close competition between perimenopause and lack of money.

hagchic · 06/04/2024 18:45

My weight

I've tried everything but weight loss surgery and I can't afford that.

Nearly 40 years of dieting and probably 100 diets/exercise/healthy living/new way of being and each one seems to have added close to a pound when it goes back on.

I know it's hurting me, but I just can't seem to sustain long term weight loss

Bakersdozens · 06/04/2024 18:45

Cancer

RiverFlowers · 06/04/2024 18:44

Breast cancer - only one more treatment to go though - then the fucker gets removed.

This last treatment has left me feeling utter shite thanks to also catching something from the kids so it's been a double whammy - today is the first day I haven't had to have like a four hour "nap" during the day.

MiddleParking · 06/04/2024 18:41

I’ve had a horrible virus for three weeks that’s wasted a chunk of annual leave. That and the weather.

summersundays · 06/04/2024 18:38

I lost our only baby a year and a half ago, we still haven't been able to get pregnant again despite trying everything. We can't afford IVF, and I'm not sure we'll get any help from the NHS due to nearing the age limit. I'm 40 this year and still won't have the baby I always dreamed of. We'll just have to keep trying and wishing.

FilthyforFirth · 06/04/2024 18:38

My weight and debt. Both within my gift to fix, but massively struggling for motivation. I spent my 30s fat, I turn 40 next year and desperate to not do the same for my 40s.

Just applied for a promotion which would give £25-30k salary increase. So that would at least help with the debt which is servicable but takes up so much of my income.

TextureSeeker · 06/04/2024 18:38

Money here too.

Apart from that my hip, it's really sore and with a bad hip I can't run and I use running a way to de stress. So I feel like I have lots of pent up energy and feelings that I can't get out.

Bakingwithmyboys · 06/04/2024 18:35

My husband hates my job that I love.

I'm a teacher and he resents the time I spend out of school working. It is now down to 3 evenings and a bit of the weekend.

He did say he would leave me over it a few months back.

I still love being a teacher and was looking forward to moving up in my career now my 2 DS are in school. But I don't think that can happen now as I can't give over any more time.

He resents the current status quo, I will resent him if I end up leaving teaching before I'm ready.

Moulook31 · 06/04/2024 18:34

decionsdecisions62 · 06/04/2024 17:20

Grief and loss of my brother to suicide
Worries about my youngest daughter and her disability.
Boredom of my job- heart just isn't in it but I'm 57 and I need to keep going for the pension.

So sorry for your loss.

BCBird · 06/04/2024 18:32

Bereavement of partner in awful circumstances. It been nesrli 2.5 years and I just can't get onto.an even keel. Want him.back and the old me

Dweetfidilove · 06/04/2024 18:32

Money - I need more of it to facilitate the things on my ‘wish to do list’.

splashofcolour · 06/04/2024 18:31

LadyGooGaa · 06/04/2024 17:36

I live in Israel (married a man, went to his place etc). I’ve just turned 50 and I have 2 kids. I don’t feel safe anymore here and I’m desperate to return to England with our kids. But husband won’t hear of it. I can’t take them without his consent and I can’t stay because I think Israel is about to be wiped out, and it terrifies me every waking moment.
I wish I was 30 and living in the uk.

That's a problem. How is he not worried about the state of afairs?

mondaytosunday · 06/04/2024 18:29

My weight.

BingoMarieHeeler · 06/04/2024 18:29

I’m fat and unlike you OP I always have been. It’s a massive complex issue that affects every area of my life. So that’s what I’d change in an instant if poss!

ClawdeenWolf · 06/04/2024 18:25

WishesPromised · 06/04/2024 17:20

Money. Specifically not having enough. Not all of my problems would go away, but quite a few would and the others would diminish in debilitating impact on my life.

Same here. Sure I'm mid-40s, am single and have a young kid, and am probably perimenopausal, but most of my problems relate to the lack of money and the constant juggle to make things work.

CointreauVersial · 06/04/2024 18:24

DH has just been made redundant. He spent five months out of work last year, and it nearly killed us, so I'm gutted it has happened again.

BirthdayRainbow · 06/04/2024 18:21

I'm so sorry @the90s 🌷

BirthdayRainbow · 06/04/2024 18:17

That I can't prove that h has been taking money and keeping me short.

Ilovemycatalot · 06/04/2024 18:16

Still getting over my breakdown last year where I had zero support from family and having to pretend I’m ok now when really I’m not ( and realising most ppl are not there for you when you need them)

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