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To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

765 replies

Biggybigbiggles · 06/04/2024 17:04

Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

OP posts:
Woodlandsocks · 06/04/2024 20:20

Losing ability to walk and having to hide it from everyone.

Dustpantsandbush · 06/04/2024 20:18

Debt and finances cost of living is on the verge of splitting up my family. Not because we want to but because we can’t afford to live together anymore.

NooNakedJacuzziness · 06/04/2024 20:17

Ilovemycatalot · 06/04/2024 18:16

Still getting over my breakdown last year where I had zero support from family and having to pretend I’m ok now when really I’m not ( and realising most ppl are not there for you when you need them)

That sounds tough, wishing you happier times Flowers

bzarda · 06/04/2024 20:16

Negative equity! Cannot afford to sell our flat in London to move close to my parents for support with my one year old. Also cannot afford the increasing service charge, ground rent and cost of living plus all the costs of a baby! Feel so panicked and stuck

Sharptonguedwoman · 06/04/2024 20:16

WishesPromised · 06/04/2024 17:20

Money. Specifically not having enough. Not all of my problems would go away, but quite a few would and the others would diminish in debilitating impact on my life.

Yes, money doesn’t buy happiness but goodness, it would make a lot of problems simply disappear.

Guavafish1 · 06/04/2024 20:15

Health
Hair loss alopecia
Joint and stiff pains
numbness in legs

Pickleeditor · 06/04/2024 20:15

this is such a good post, when we’re down we all feel so alone and yet we’re all fighting our own battles.

big hugs to everyone that needs them right now

Clarebelle878 · 06/04/2024 20:14

Shitty and protracted legal dispute with lying shites of tenants.

mother in law with alcohol induced dementia, living in a care home, endless admin

but I have a wonderful DH, two gorgeous DCs and my health. Not all bad.

ABwithAnItch · 06/04/2024 20:13

Completely wasted my talents and feel like I’m going to die never having done anything I really wanted to do.

I am very lonely. Married but despise him.
I am estranged from my other family members. But hey, DD likes me.

Ilovebees · 06/04/2024 20:13

Ohhh god If I could flick fingers and get one problem gone from my life , it would be my unexplained infertility , having no kids and not finding the cause it’s like I’m living in a nightmare , stuck in mud . Feeling left behind in life to others is heart destroying for me . :(

EC22 · 06/04/2024 20:12

Daughter being bullied at school.
Trying to find new school.

Pickleeditor · 06/04/2024 20:11

My weight, working long hours as a single parent. Trying to juggle the kids and make sure they are happy / sorted / settled.

trying to make time for myself and planning lots of things with friends, although feeling very low as every single plan in the last two weeks my friends have cancelled, nothing personal just circumstances but it has made me feel so isolated.

Helpagirlout29 · 06/04/2024 20:10

An emotionally abusive partner who won't engage with any help and blames me for his outbursts.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 06/04/2024 20:10

Flowers and hugs for everybody who is struggling .

Mammma91 · 06/04/2024 20:04

@App13 - my DS never spoke a word until he was nearly 4. He is now diagnosed autistic but has started to speak, he is just delayed. I felt the same fear as you do, but I just wanted to offer some reassurance that there’s still time for words to come. Sending love.

My major stress is all the problems we’re having with my husband’s work van. He’s self employed and we’ve paid a fortune into getting it repaired and it just seems like endless problems. We can’t afford to replace it so we’re pumping endless streams of money into getting it repaired.

Ihateboris · 06/04/2024 20:01

JohnRedding · 06/04/2024 19:58

Sons suidice death and alcoholism

I'm so sorry x

LoobyDop · 06/04/2024 20:01

I’m the only one in my family who is fit and healthy. My dad has terminal cancer. My mum is suddenly becoming frail, permanently affected by various minor things and obsessed with her own health, and my brothers have serious life-limiting conditions. My in-laws have all retreated into themselves and don’t want to know since COVID. My husband has had depression and anxiety for years, and he’s trying so hard and is much better, but he has his moments still. So it’s just me being the strong one. It’s lonely.

JohnRedding · 06/04/2024 19:58

Sons suidice death and alcoholism

Mixedvegetables · 06/04/2024 19:50

Health concerns.

Hugs to everyone struggling 💕 xx

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 06/04/2024 19:50

Take my cancer away.

Chipandcheese · 06/04/2024 19:48

I'm always skint. Everytime I get a "pay rise", my rent or some other bill goes up to wipe out the increase.
"Have you thought about retraining?" Yes, I have retrained in a better paid career but the problem is everything has gone up so much, there probably wasn't any point in bothering (yes, I know I'm being a negative Nelly).
The plan for retraining was to be able to afford a small house but that's out of the window with the cost of living crisis. The new plan is to strive to keep my head above water.
Right now, I'm getting into debt each month as I'm reliant on credit cards.
And that's with a part time job in addition to my full time job.
I'm a single parent with one child and the other parent pays a pittance in child maintenance (all he can afford to be fair).
I'm on the waiting list for an ADHD assessment. If I'm lucky, I'll only be waiting 18 months and then another 6 or 7 months for medication.

Everything is fucking shit!!!

But I try my best to keep going and keep making the best of things.

Jeezitneverends · 06/04/2024 19:46

My relationship with my dh is all kinds of fucked up but I don’t have the balls to leave

my dd is living with a drug dealer and my nerves are shredded

(name changed for obvious reasons)

Pottedpalm · 06/04/2024 19:45

Damage from my cancer treatment that affects me every day.
Fear of the bloody thing recurring.
DH health
Money

Pottedpalm · 06/04/2024 19:43

Daisy03 · 06/04/2024 19:37

Diagnosed with breast cancer today and thinking the worst

Wishing you well. Cancer sucks 🌷

Mayhemmumma · 06/04/2024 19:41

Marriage woes
Depression
Weight
Money or lack of

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