To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

I’m really bloated and uncomfortable from injecting myself with hormones everyday for the past 10 days… 😖 and feeling miserable due to not being able to exercise because of this.

My house. I absolutely hate it, from the first moment i saw it. (My DH had a mortgage on it and there were some debts so made sense for us to start off married life here.) I always hoped to move or get it renovated so we never spent money on fixing or improving anything. Now we are in a.position to get a badly needed extension and upgrade but the price of building work has tripled so we can't afford it any more . I am coming to terms with my family squashed into this dump all my life.
Other problems are my son with ASD's challenging behaviour and if he will ever be able to function in society without me scaffolding everything.
And my relationship with my DH is pretty bad also, too many years of dealing with the kids alone while he worked away, then him working 16hr days all during the Covid years, and the pressures of looking after a SN child and his siblings with no family help and can't get babysitter due to son's aggressive behaviour mean that we have not really any time for just us. We nag and bicker a lot. Had a big chat last night (again) and are both going to try really hard (again) to be kinder to each other but I worry its too little too late and the affection is dead.

Sorry, that turned into a right pity party. I havent read the whole thread and I know some people have serious health problems and suffered bereavements so my problems are not as bad in comparison. But I can only live the life I have, as the saying goes, and atm that feels hard and hopeless.

My exhusband committed suicide 2 weeks ago. He was not a good man. He shafted me and our tiny children, moved on to wife 2 and did same to her and their child. After their divorce he met another woman. He was busy conning her when he was rumbled. Nowhere to run this time and he killed himself.My sons are adults and are his n of k. They are dealing with the estate ( discovering bit by bit that he was completely penniless). I am supporting them emotionally through this. I feel nothing for my exhusband but the strain on my boys is obvious and painful to see. I hope it will be over and done soon and they can begin a life without him causing drama and pain in the background .

Where to start ?

Pretty poor health and my medication means I always get run down with colds.
Very dysfunctional family where I am the least favoured.
No friends.
Single
Living with stepdad. Can't afford a place on my own
Low paying and highly stressful job.
Very unattractive and as I approach 40, I am getting bigger without even eating much (As in I eat what I always have which isn't very much.).

I hate my life.

How I look, fat, frumpy.

Then finances, no money to fix a garden fence which is falling down. Feel my neighbours must also think its an eye sore. I can't take it down as it keeps my dog in. I'm saving to fix it next yr if nothing else burns my money up.

I'm realising this too, it's a kick in the guts. Hope you find your way forward soon x

I just feel quite crap all the time. My back hurts, I’m quite anxious a lot of the the time especially at work, my brian whirrs like a hamster on crack, I have just neck back and jaw tension when I sleep which means I hardly ever sleep for more than a couple of hours at a stretch. My guts are awful acid reflux, diarrhoea or bunged up.
I would love just to feel well for a few days a week. I gave up smoking and I feel worse. Im pretty overweight but it’s hard to lose now and quite frankly when I’m eating is a small portion of the day when my brain chemistry seems to tell me all is ok so frankly it’s all I’ve got to look forward to. Apart from that I’m grand.

To get my confidence back after being bullied out of my last job so I can start looking for work

To magic up more availability in my child's nursery so I could go to work if I could find a job

Magic up some money so I could survive until I found work (can't claim benefits)

Magic back my parents

Magic back my good health

Magic my child's health issues away

I don't have a partner, and I couldn't cope with one, but I would live to find a reasonably priced handyman to fix all the broken thing in my house

That's just the basics to keep me from topping myself

Needing some work done in the house, really overdue, struggling to find builder, just got the one quote which is eye-watering

Unexplained fatigue that’s gone on for two years and just brought my life to a standstill
Elderly parents with dementia

Best of luck to you and your little one, we had a meeting with the primary Senco and they had quite a few things in place already for children with SEN. It’s just a massive worry!
Hope goes well for you on the 16th!

I can also relate to the money worries, I have my youngest in preschool too, she’s 2 but we don’t qualify for the 15 hours free childcare as I don’t earn enough, but I can’t work more hours as there aren’t anymore at my work. But if I take another job, there’s nowhere with the same flexibility as where I am now!

it’s a tough world at the moment.

I was about to post then read this.

My biggest problem now feels tiny, sending you, your DH and DD lots best wishes x

Same, almost certain the school my DD will be given on the 16th will be the one who have just come back and said they can't meet need. can't wait for the stress ahead in the coming months.

that and never having enough money, hating my job but feeling trapped in it untill littlest goes to school in 2027 😭 nowhere else will let me do the minuscule and mental hours I currently do.

Oh I feel sad for you, sounds like such a worry. I am worried about how my DD will cope when our 12 year old dog dies. She’s grown up with him.

I hope someone will take him under their wing when you’re older, I certainly would if I knew anyone in your position. Sending love, your son sounds lovely.

Infertility - I wish I could just snap my fingers and make all the heartache go away.

I think discovering that I'm ND as an adult - after having set up a life around me that I really, really struggle to cope with. I feel suffocated by my own brain every single day and I have no time or energy to help myself.

After reading the thread here, so many people have it worse though and I'm sorry for those going through a really tricky time.

@ChocoChocoLatte DH has stage 4. We also moan about the state of the house lol.

Solidarity to everyone struggling.

I'm 55.

Mum died from ovarian cancer during lockdown in 2020. Luckily in my home so we could be with her. It took two years of being dicked about on the Fodmap diet before an essentially accidental diagnosis by which time it was stage 4. Chemo crucified her.

In 2022 my DP died suddenly from what turned out to be metastised cancer only discovered at post mortem - there were symptoms but he put them down to lifestyle and thought the GP wouldn't take it seriously. His initial collapse was from a brain bleed, and he had asymptomatic Covid when admitted so he was transferred to another hospital for surgery and we were forbidden from visiting for two weeks. He managed one phone call with me (apparently on very good drugs) before his condition deteriorated due to a second massive bleed. I did spend the last three days at his side after they "pulled the plug" and he died after I'd nipped out to the loo for the first time in 10 hours.

Tried to keep our bricks and mortar retail business going but called it quits just before Christmas, in nearly 10 grands worth of debt.

Served section 21 in February as landlord is selling up. Have just had to tell the letting agents that I won't be leaving on the end date on advice of the council as I would be making myself intentionally homeless with nowhere to go. Won't pass credit checks, no guarantor and rent prices in my area are batshit even for a single room. Am packing up a house full of dead people's things and culling like crazy - there goes my life lock stock and barrel.

Am dependent on UC and appealing WRAG placement as not mentally able to contemplate a job at present, especially with no certainty of accommodation.

Have just been prescribed medication for high blood pressure due to stress (no shit Sherlock).

Currently have SM in local mental hospital since her longstanding issues or possible dementia have gone off a cliff. My 84 year old Dad is in poor physical health and stressed to the gills with worry. As an only child I'm their only advocate. SM will not allow me to move in with them even temporarily as she's paranoid I will steal her house - also I'm a big girl now and need to "sort myself out".Communication from hospital is dire and all wrapped up in patient rights and confidentiality yet we're being lined up as her carers. Beyond frustrating.

There's more but hey ho, it is what it is.

I have the sweetest cat though. Occasionally I think I should rename him Kleenex.

Survival out of spite is my new motto. Take that, Universe.

Stage four cancer with no cure kinda sucks but right this second the state of the house

Currently a business situation that is costing quite a bit of money until we can get it sorted. It's not a horrendous situation but it is worrying and is weighing down on me (it's our own business).

Constant kidney stones and peri symptoms and just always feeling unwell and tired, want to feel just not ill, have my energy back to exercise and lose weight

Worries about health, excruciating pain in shoulder due to tear in tendon and newly discovered rectal prolapse, both needing potential operations. Family problems with one child gone NC why I don’t know, but am broken hearted. Worried generally about health deteriorating, just been told hearing is not good and need aids. Many people worse off though, so I am grateful.

I have chronic conditions.

I'm in a lupus flare and a Crohns flare at the moment.

I've had my colon removed, and I wear a stoma. I have mouth ulcers again. There's blood in my stool, and I have a peristomal pyoderma.

Quite frankly, I'm a bit pissed off with it all.

This isn't meant to be a woe is me comment, but this was a perfect place for me to just vent it all.

This sounds so very tough. Even one of those things sound tough. I’m sorry you’re going through it.

currently 1 month into a 6 month course of chemotherapy, more surgery and radiotherapy to follow. 2024 will be a write off due treatment.