To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

I'm fat and struggling to lose weight. Everything else in life is fine, but this one thing. I am considered obese according to my BMI and I feel gross. Really need to start disciplining myself regarding calorie intake.

You've probably heard all the treatments anyway, but just in case... for me, keto diet MASSIVELY improved my endo - to the point I didn't even realise when I came on, if you can believe it.

Loneliness in older age
financial issues

Similar for me too. DP has suspected ADHD, and as a consequence is in and out of work all the time, or doesn't understand what an agency is paying him and it turns out it's much less than he thought, so we're compering up for groceries by the end of the month...

We have two very little children too, so have them to consider. I wanted to continue working part-time a little while longer until they at least got their 30 hours childcare at 3 years old, but have asked work if I can go back full time, as have lost hope of him being able to get it together.

My wish would be that he could just hold down a job that paid enough for a modest lifestyle, where he wasn't miserable (and with my part-time contributiob). Or that we could win the lottery so none of it would matter.

You are all amazing women. I salute you x

For me it’s the relentless pressure of caring for an ND teen, my other child and now poorly parents alone. I’ve been missing late DH for so so long now. He was so supportive and fun.

Childcare struggles.

DS has SEN needs and has been excluded from after school club and holiday club as he’s too challenging for them to accommodate.

DH and I both work f/t and can’t afford to give up work. I’ve reduced hours temporarily but the financial impact is huge.

no scope for benefits top ups.
no family to help.
every childminder and nanny I’ve spoken to has backed out.

I just want childcare where he’ll be happy and they can meet his needs.

To Swordtoflamethrower please go to Citizens Advice and see if they can have someone to advocate for you as know how difficult it is with all the forms and then the intimidation as they make you feel nothing wrong with you. It is worth a try as here in Ireland they have staff that will go with you if have a meeting or review and advocate on your behalf.

Remo22 your post for the op was just lovely and you sound so loving and kind. Op please be kinder to yourself and write down your positives and do not be so hard on yourself...Wish I was 30 again. To all the people going through illness and poor health wishing you all the best and especially to Mumaway, wishing you the best and have fun with the hair and remember it will grow back.
I wish I had my energy back as diagnosed with underactive thyroid which was undiagnosed for years as useless doc. Need my meds upped but he is such an arse. Also wishing I still had my mum in our lives as she was the one person who was always there and we just 'got' each other and never judged each other unlike rest of family. Also worry about my son if anything happens to me as just the two of us.

Abusive partner
Feel like I’ve screwed up my life and am trapped because if I leave I don’t end up with what I want from life but if I stay I don’t either

Pip renewal
Autism
Adhd

I think all you can do is maybe say, completely out of the blue, "I know you're introverted and don't like to talk much, but you know you can always come to me if your anxious or worried about anything. I'm your mother." Then just change the topic or leave the room and not approach the subject again (unless you definitely see something). xxx

My dad is dying.

I am so sorry. I hope they get excellent treatment and recover quickly xx

i have a strange discomfort under my ribs and pain around my boob area (one side) sometimes. I’m scared. I have three young children. Don’t want to go to doctors as I want to take out health insurance first.

under immense pressure in work. Marriage is crap. Very unhappy. Feel like I’ve lost all of my friends the past year.

Reading this thread makes me think of some beautiful lines from a Philip Larkin poem:

”We should be careful
Of each other, we should be kind
While there is still time”

DW having a chemical pregnancy last week. I know it probably will, but it feels like it will never happen for us.

Yes, so true. Pain is pain. It isn’t a competition. So long as you sympathise with others, you have every right to vent your grief. It’s only the people who don’t care about others but are full of self-pity who deserve a slap.

Another breast cancer one here, seems to be quite a few. Sending well wishes to all of you.

@Iom92 I’m so sorry to hear that. Sending positive vibes out into the universe for you and your family.

Huge financial pressure
Relative’s divorce from narc husband and the effect on their children
Trying to help disabled relative with complicated problems
Poor physical and mental health
Full time exhausting job

Don’t apologize. It’s all relative.

Suspecting I have tonsillitis.

❤️ for each and every one of you

Me, my anxiety, the bad things that have happened that have left me a bit scared of life.

I’m really sorry for what a lot of you are going through,

What a heartbreaking thread. I'm a bit sad and lonely, but my heart goes out to all of you dealing with such overwhelming problems. There's nothing I can say to help, but it's good to know we're not alone with our struggles in life. X