To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

@Nicetobenice67 you are 100% right and I need to get a grip on it. Think I'll go see the GP this week. Thank you for your response x

Sounds like anxiety...your catastopising sending hugs

Living in fear of relapse when it comes to a health condition. I feel ridiculous worrying about something that may never happen but it completely consumes me. Terrified of the potential pain.

Love to everyone 💐.

our twins

My DH lost all interest on me sexually when I got pregnant with your twins - they’re now 5

we don’t not get along, but wr’re more like friends. Sometimes I’d like to leave but I’ve worked so hard in getting this house to where it is, it’s perfect for us and DC’s. I’d never be able to afford to pay out equity and take on higher mortgage by myself.

I know I’d never get with anyone else, I am so overweight, peri menopausal, and just can’t seem to get on top of anything food or health wise. I make sure my kids eat well but don’t do it myself, and then I have a massive fear that my lifestyle means one way or another I’m not going to be around for my DC and the waves of anxiety are sometimes overwhelming

so like a PP said up thread, I wouldn’t swap my problems with anyone else, it’s not that bad compared to some on here and for those living in war zones etc but if I could click my fingers it would be my weight/diet

Aww OP, it’s so hard, but don’t lose hope hopefully before long she will realise. It so difficult to see it when you are in the situation. We had the same situation with DS1 a while back, he now has a fantastic girlfriend who we all love so much. He is so happy, loved, it’s a joy to see. Good luck.

Short term. Massive work project. Ex very ill in hospital so am supporting him and the DC.
Medium term. My three young adults ever being able to earn enough to move out of home (near London).
Being fat. addicted to nicotine.
Long term. Health and pension.

They are my worries because everyone is fighting some sort of battle all the time BUT I am generally very content and love life. I count my blessings and this thread has reinforced that my problems really not that bad. So sorry for many people on this thread.

I wish I could go back in time.

Fear of the future for my children: war (and rubbish UK defence) and climate change. But mainly war

I'm so sorry bless you ...but I bet your an amazing mum to your baby sending you hugs

You'd be best starting a thread about this on the relationships board, as you'll get some good advice there. I'm sorry he did this.

Being widowed in my late thirties with young DC has broken me. The worst thing is that everyone thinks I'm coping admirably. Ten years on and my mental health is worse than in the early years, because raising traumatised and neurodiverse children has broken my spirit. I'm sort of dead inside.

Bowel cancer I've been battling for nearly a year
Menopause symptoms (not allowed hrt yet)
My stoma bag. It saved my life but I hate it
A bad cold that I've had for over a week
Feeling like I'm not been a good mum to my baby

I have a lot of the same sorts of problems as most people (not the really difficult ones on here) but I think the biggest, deepest one is lack of self esteem. I think that affects a lot of the other things in terms of health, work, money, relationships.
I should work on that.
But I am very grateful for my lovely kids. I nearly didn't have them, I came to motherhood late and I really do not deserve the lovely young people I live with now. Motherhood is hard work and has taken so much out of me, but these amazing people are the biggest joy in my life.

Health anxiety

Infertile?

Leaking roof I can't afford to fix.
Boiler losing pressure every couple of days due to leak I can't find and also cannot afford to fix.
My DS has recently been diagnosed with ASD&ADHD, I cannot stop worrying about his future.
I'm roughly 5kg overweight.
My hair desperately needs a cut and colour, I can't afford it.
But, we keep moving forward!

Sending you all love and wishing you hope for everything that is afflicting you

Teeth & dental problems.

Horse stood on my foot and it’s so fucking painful. Co codamol helps but I still have to get up to go for a wee. It wouldn’t be so bad if I could just get comfortable.

After a very stressful 5 years, I’m happy to say that I don’t have any big problems right now, but of course… more money would make our lives easier.

My mum, 72 and recently retired, was crushed to death 6 months ago when a Sprinter van went into reverse without checking. She was opposite her house.
I still don't know if there is going to be a prosecution and she hasn't had her inquest yet.
MIL, 82, has cancer and hasn't done a single thing to help herself. She won't use any of the equipment she was given to help keep her mobile.
I am plagued with uncharitable thoughts.

My daughter has developed an eating disorder, made worse by her medical condition and she ate 1200 calories total in the 2 weeks after a recent trip to A&E when her medical condition was triggered and she felt extremely unsafe. Some days she didn’t eat at all and drank only s few ml of water.

This is a trauma response. She’s lost so much weight. Idk what to do because it is pretty much guaranteed her medical condition will be triggered again if we go to hospital and the eating disorder clinic. She has GCSEs in a month and I’m desperately trying to keep her eating for these and see what we can do after that. If she goes to the clinic, it’s probably game over for her exams. If she doesn’t, there’s a chance she will be able to sit them…

Her friends have been stellar at getting her to eat but she won’t do it for me. She’s so angry at her medical condition but has projected her anger onto me, punishing me by not eating or eating very little. Yesterday she ate twice, very small amounts.

Apart from that I have chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia and chronic pain. I’m disabled and haven’t had much of a life at all for over 10 years. All of this is making my life far more difficult. My dh is absolutely useless in all of this and he actually makes things worse. The arguments between us are ridiculous and caused by his inability to be flexible and help. He shouts at me when I am asking him to put up boundaries with her and her eating because he doesn’t want his life disrupted to deal with it or he goes ballistic at her and me. He’s clearly on the spectrum, undiagnosed and dd has some traits. The advice from the books and BEATS (ED charity) don’t work with her at all.

My little boy was stillborn last year. I’m now extremely fortunate to be pregnant again but I’m very nervous and finding it hard to think positively and imagine a good outcome this time. I still have flashbacks, although am at last getting proper help and EMDR therapy.

fat, 40 and fertile 😢

I'm having the opposite problem at the moment - I lost too much weight when my IBS was really bad, got underweight and I haven't managed to get it back. I'm really feeling a lack of energy. I'm still having a lot of digestive problems, stomach pains and acid reflux. If I could gain half a stone and get back to feeling fully well, I'd be delighted.

Also I love my work but my job is only secure through to 2026. If I could wave a magic wand, I would fix my digestion and make my contract permanent! Also I would make my little old lady cat immortal 😆. Don't get me wrong, she's well for her age, but definitely a senior citizen now.

Apart from those things its going pretty well right now!