To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

I wish my parents had been more forthright about this. 'Let them learn by their mistakes' and all that when you're an adult, but some mistakes are too big to recover from. Can you do anything to help her get away?

In the very short term, my youngest has caught another stomach bug. It was 6 weeks ago he caught the last one and that lasted two weeks. Stomach bugs worry the life out of me since my middle son and youngest were hospitalised with one last year. A local hospital has had a severe norovirus outbreak and has declared a critical incident as a result, which is only adding to the anxiety.

Longer term, I’m in a job I hate but have no idea what else I’d do. Also need to lose 4 stone.

Feeling nervous and on edge all the time.
Feeling sad and empty all the time.
Feeling like I’m failing my kids all the time.
Feeling stressed all the time.
Mental health is just fucked.

My ex’s behaviour is a huge problem.
I wish I had more money.
I’m worried about my 13 year old.
My looks have plummeted over the past 5 or 6 years which ties in with when my mental health problems got worse.
I had a termination in 2017 and it still affects me. I have a hoarding problem.

So much more.

Gosh, when type it all out like that it really makes me realise just how much I have going on and why my mind can’t cope.

It’s so awful. I’ve remembered you’ve said about your DS before I think. My DD lives her life in 2 halves. I just want to see her with someone normal.
Thank you for your words of encouragement that really helps.

Not getting my printer to work.

Get a backdated sick note and then claim your AL back

💔💔Sorry to read that. Hope your DC and you can get some support xx

Just found out my spine has disintegrated and it is incurable. The consultant was so dog tired he had tears in his eyes when he told me. I ended up comforting him.
Walked out unable to imagine a future in this much pain. I am reeling this weekend - all the money in the world can’t fix this.
I can’t even speak about it in real life I am so sad.

-To just be in a new house I actually like.
-To see a real quality education in this country for my DDs as the area we are in is awful and I just wish I could create an aspirational environment for them outside their front door.

All the trauma my late husband brought to my life. And the trauma he’s still brining despite being dead for nearly 4 years. If anybody has a magic wand or something that’d be great!

My 40 year old son, married with two young children, announced he was a woman. He’s left his wife. I’ve been utterly devastated by this as it’s come completely out of the blue. He was a happy normal kid, no sign of what’s now happening.

I’m with JKR on this issue and I can’t accept what’s happening. He’s been deeply unpleasant to me and has bullied me. I’m broken.

Can I just say, for those who are battling with their weight, perhaps perimenopausal or post children, you absolutely can do something about it. You do have control and you can feel good about how you look and more importantly how you feel again. I know what it’s like and it took me 13 years and 5.5 stone to reach the point where I did something about it. But, it can be done.

@IKnowYouBetterThanThat for frizzy, wavy hair, I'd recommend this product https://www.amazon.co.uk/John-Frieda-Secret-Avocado-Frizzy/dp/B000S5TXEQ/ref=asc_df_B000S5TXEQ/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=310776493634&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=8131918849355004676&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1006948&hvtargid=pla-435029281183&psc=1&mcid=3b671342a34b308893649e1a94c2e87e&th=1&psc=1 It's a game changer for me. And, use hairspray. I used to keep it for special occasions only

Cost of living.
Arsehole ex partner who won’t contribute anything for our child in order to punish me for leaving him.

Winning the lottery would help immeasurably!

Suddenly becoming a 40 year old widow with two small DCs to look after in a strange country and having no support, financially or otherwise as everyone went back to their own lives and to hell with us.

Waiting for everything here to be sorted then have to somehow organise to move back to my home country and the little family I have left and hope can finally start to actually grieve for my soulmate.

Completely disillusioned by life.

I think in the grand scheme of things, I’m waiting to see if a pre malignant large cyst has grown back on my liver - that hangs over me daily.

the surgery from the above has caused me to gain lots of weight and lose all my fitness but that’s something I know I can work on.

SEN daughter - just the constant worry and fight for her is exhausting.

I have a message of hope for everyone who has teens/people in their early twenties who are suicidal and struggle with mental health and/or substance abuse. That was me, I am now forty. Happy, healthy, in a great relationship with a good job and a lovely home. There is hope out there.

Elderly mother dementia.
You could not get a fag paper between my youngest getting to 16 and this becoming an overwhelming issue.
So when do I get to live my life?

It actually wasn’t that for me - I currently have a huge surplus of annual leave and had it booked anyway, I’m just annoyed that I was sick the whole way through. I could change it to sick leave but then I’d still have too much AL to use and not enough time to take it!

Caring for frail DH. Feeling unsupported as my family is 300 miles away. Somehow we have to move.

My weight. I started putting on weight in lockdown and haven't stopped. I have been looking at holiday photos taken in Spain last week and I feel horrified at myself. I'm so .... round. I've got a wedding in September and I'm determined to shift two stone before then.

Time is flying. Every stage of life is fleeting. The kids are still young but are growing up, soon DS will be in secondary school and the primary years will be over. I want time to slow down; I want to savour these years a while longer. I guess that means I'm happy. I just wish I wasn't too scared of the future to enjoy it.

Whether to go back to Spain or remain in Australia. We're approaching retirement age and my eldest is in Spain. He married last year and my DDIL is expecting a child - our first g/c. My middle son is thinking of going back but my youngest is very happy in Australia. Whatever we do, we'll have children living a whole world away from us.

I feel worthless. I’m struggling to find the confidence to find a new job and in something I’d enjoy (no idea what that is either).

I think seeing this thread, you realise that noone's life is perfect, even if you really think it is. I've def got less to complain about than many though.

Money- My dh who has health issues(including bipolar) and has been out of work for most of his life is going to have to try and find a part time job in the next couple of years, no easy feet. Luckily we have savings that we can use for now.

My Anxiety/Depression. It has improved a lot but has meant I've not had a proper career, just a low paid job and it has hindered me learning to drive(aswell as the cost of the lessons)

Yep lottery win would help me feel less pressured.

Living pay cheque to pay cheque and it sucks. Last month we saved a grand total of £14 and our mortgage hasn't even up yet, we're still on 2%.