To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

Ditto

You’ve probably thought of this but you can put some leak sealant through the system it costs about £10.

We are in the same situation past 2 years - no money spare to drill up concrete floor to find the leak - but the sealant has got us through 2 winters.

My H of 23 years walked & has left me with sole care (24/7) of 2 disabled kids.
I worry about their future. I worry about dying & l leaving them alone. I worry...

I am also disabled (whilst being their Carer). Just found out last week that my surgeon will no longer put me forward for the 2 mobility operations I've been waiting for since 2019. I've no money. I've no family. My roof leaks, my basement floods & my (interest only) mortgage is due up in 5 years. I'll have to sell it but the house floods so I'll be lucky to sell it too. I will lie awake for 5 years worrying.

I'm very isolated (exH doesn't 'take the kids' - ever - ) & very lonely. I cry daily.
I also try to be glad I am here & find joy in any small things with my kids.

Trying to get the NHS to put right my 2017 botched surgery that I have been disabled by. I have had one corrective surgery but need at least two more and they are dragging their feet. My DH has cancer and is currently ill from an infection too. He has been this way since November and the NHS are probably not going to treat him. We can't afford private for either of us.

This was me mid divorce. Everything else seemed to go wrong at the same time and the prospect of a poor financial future and loneliness of having lost all my friends was devastating
. Its so damned hard.
You WILL get through it somehow and rise again.
Hang in there. 🌻

Money is the main one. I’d love to be able to afford to own a stable home for my children.
My brain is rubbish. Constant anxiety, self hatred, agoraphobia and dissociation. I fear for my future because I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to work a good job, if any job, and that’s the only way to solve the main problem - money. Currently a SAHM.
Otherwise happy and blessed with my three beautiful children and partner.

Hard to pick a biggest problem really but right now I'm retraining for a new career and the problem is that its hard to find jobs in my area in this line of work because I'm British (living abroad) as most of the jobs in the area are military connected and they won't employ foreigners for this work, not even if they have duel citizenship. So if I could click my fingers and take away my Britishness my prospects would be a lot better but would I really want to do that just for a job?

To paraphrase Dr John Cooper Clarke, my biggest problem is that I'm not someone else.

I've been there got talking therapy after being diagnosed with GAD it was so good a great help good luck xx

Money worries

I have lots of other problems but having no money worries would make the rest a lot easier

I am so sorry. This sounds horrendous . Can you get any help with this?

That my 'fit and healthy' husband has terminal cancer with no prediction of how long he has left.

The last 5 years since his diagnosis have been a roller coaster or treatment/ hope/ disappointment for me, and our children.

Whatever problems you have in your lives, if they are under your control, just sort them.

The only ones that matter are the health of you and your loved ones.

Empty nest stuff
Health of various relatives
My ADHD sabotaging attempts to build a fulfilling life before I'm too old.

Recurrent miscarriage

FIL died last week, so supporting DH is top of my concern list.

I have a terminally ill friend in hospice care, so I feel like I'm in some sort of stasis, awaiting the grim and unavoidable grief.

For me, I'm kinda chubby, and I feel the pressure of being the primary "bread winner" (DH has a decent job, but mine is the one that keeps us afloat).

My back is fcuked.
I've had 2 major operations on it and I'm still in bits. The strong meds I'm on no longer keep the pain at bay.
It's having an impact on everything. Work, sleep, rest, social, physical, intimacy.
I can't sit for longer than an hour. So no meals out, cinema, socialising.

I'm miserable in my job but there is no way I would pass a physical for another.

I'm paying for physio every 2 weeks but have now reached a stage where I'm past my excess with health insurance so can no longer claim any money back on these appointments.

My God I’m so sorry to hear this! I hope they can sort pain relief for you. I’m also a person who can’t talk in real life when really sad/in shock. I use a counsellor when I hit hard times, as I can voice everything to a stranger. Would that help you? Love and prayers 💐

I hear you.

I left and emotionally abusive when I was a couple of months shy of my 41st birthday, and had high hopes of really getting stuck into building a wonderful new life for myself.

I worked out the other day that I’ve basically had 8 months of normal, stress free living since then.

I turn 50 next year and feel like I’m watching my life through a sand timer atm.

That said, many posts on here have given me some much needed perspective.

Money and mental health.

More money wouldn't fix my mental health, but money worries definitely make it worse.
Better mental health would help me have more money, but it doesn't seem to be getting better anytime soon.
Bit of a vicious circle.

Me too.

@Tumbleweed101

Dont know if this might help?

https://www.tiktok.com/@excel.friend?_t=8lKE3nZeKLh&_r=1

She still lives at home fortunately but she’s very distant. She’s lost all of her friends and just obsessed with him. All we can do is try to keep a supportive relationship with her. We’ve talked and talked to her but it’s like she’s in a cult. It’s heartbreaking. She’s absolutely beautiful inside & out.

Had my car stolen, its been found but don't know what state its in yet. Hassle and expense.

Incredibly lonely even with an active social life and good friends. Seems every man I date is a player and a user. I feel like an idiot for believing them.

53 and probably perimenopausal. Feeling depressed and like I have no future. Nothing feels interesting or exciting. Struggling to get anything done and feeling overwhelmed. Can't have hrt due to previous breast cancer. Don't feel its worth seeing GP

There are not enough hours in the day to get everything done.

If there were enough hours in the day, I would be too tired to do it anyway.

I feel like I'm on a treadmill that won't stop.

I would snap my fingers and have my wonderful 15 month old DD start sleeping through the night at last! We're all so tried and I think I'd feel so much more like my old self if I could sleep properly again.