To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

Eye opening and sobering thread. Lots of posts putting my problems well and truly into perspective.

My biggest problem is probably my marriage. My husband is depressive, our relationship fell apart during infertility and IVF. He had an affair. We are now incredibly fortunate to have two beautiful children but our marriage is not good. I don’t trust him. He works away a lot (every week) and I found out recently he has breached boundaries messaging women at work - speaking to them about how bad our marriage is. I strongly suggested a trial separation but he is desperate not to - wants us to be together, says he loves me, wants us to be happy. He says he will sort his head out but I’ve heard this before. He also has no sex drive and I really miss sex and intimacy. I’m exhausted all the time doing most of the childcare alone. I wanted to have children so much and now I’m here with my own beautiful son and daughter I can’t even believe are mine and yet I’m struggling and unhappy a lot of the time. Bloody men hey.

I lost my lovely dad to cancer last year and still coming to terms with that. My mum is struggling too and I feel constant guilt that I’m not doing enough for her (only child).
Money and time- husband and I both work full time and there never seems to be enough of either.
weight- need to lose about 3 stone. I’m mid 40s so worry about health if don’t do something about it soon.

Arthritis

My four year old has type 1 diabetes and I live in fear of something catastrophic happening to disrupt insulin supply and watching him succumb to DKA and die. If no insulin supply issues, I'm terrified of what complications might ruin his life in the future.
My second son was stillborn and I worry I'll forget details of his birth. My liver and kidneys were failing when I gave birth so I was barely conscious. I don't want to lose what I do have.
These things both being true I worry what is coming for my third son. I desperately want him to be ok but I feel cursed.
I'm also a bit bigger than before I had babies but I just bought some new clothes and meh no big deal.

Infertility and failed IVF floored me. I very much hope you get your longed for baby xx

My disability which turned my life upside down at age 33. I’m now 39 and about to have my first baby and I’m absolutely terrified at how I’m going to cope despite putting everything possible in place to make it work.

Last year I lost my career due to my disability that I only qualified for at age 30 and had spent 12 years studying for. As a result of this we also need to move house as we can’t afford the mortgage on our current home anymore due to losing all of my income, it was meant to be our forever family home 😞

MSK pain. I’d love that to all fuck off.

I’m so sorry and I really hope you have the baby you so long for x

Infertility and another failed ivf attempt and trying to come to terms with the thought of a future without children.

There are organisations that can help saw this on Children in need.
Families come together where the child has lost a parent.

I'm worried about the future of my son with ASD.

I'm worried about mine and DHs health and the effects of long-term stress, poor diet and lack of sleep.

I'm worried about money and if I'll still have a job in a year.

I'm worried about mine & DHs future - pension/savings/housing.

Loss, confusion, sadness.

So great full for this thread I think it has opened a lot of ppls lives and also helped ppl to realise actually my life isn’t that bad …sending lots of special hugs to those who really do need them wishing you peace and happiness and lots of hope thanks agin for this thread it’s really helped me x

This thread is heartbreaking, there is so much pain in people’s lives. I feel very lucky to be healthy and to have healthy children, a reasonable job and a somewhere decent to live.

My biggest problem is that despite all this I am very unhappy. I’m heartbroken about a relationship that didn’t work out, lonely despite having friends and family, I can’t seem to find anything that brings me joy - I just go through the motions and go for walks, gym, work, cook, clean. I wish I could appreciate everything I have going for me. I fell guilty that I don’t, especially reading this thread.

My (70F) 77yo DH being diagnosed with vascular dementia, and the implications that has for his future, my future and our future together - that is to say, right now none of those feel like they exist.

He is going downhill slowly, slowly: I am watching and trying my best to care for him whilst still having some form of life for myself; and knowing that we have no real prospect of any kind of normal future from now on as his faculties ever so gently slide off into the sunset. Heartbroken ............... 😪

This!

Money would solve/greatly diminish all my problems

@GreekGod - two of my DCs did uni in London and I lived there for 17 years myself. It’s absolutely fine- try not to worry.

I’m so very sorry to read your post. That sounds utterly horrendous for you. Sending love and hugs. ❤️xx

Working full time and parenting. Feeling like I'm not able to give them everything they need (being there for all drop offs and picks ups, after school etc)

My housing situation. I live in a very expensive town in the SE and was allocated a HA property back when I had my DD at 21. Beyond grateful, had some idyllic years there until they moved in a neighbour who turned the place into a drug den, then moved me (finally) to a new flat with an even worse neighbour! The whole situation has given me PTSD and Ive turned into a shell of myself.

Constant abdo pain and bloating in a very specific area with diagnostics not finding anything wrong. Doctors making me feel like i’m being dramatic. Living with worry every day that something will burst and cause harm.

Lots! I'm overweight with high blood pressure and struggling with my mental health.
Dd1 has anxiety, likely ASD and is struggling to find a job.
Dd2 (teen) has major mental health issues and is under CAMHS.
My Mum has Alzheimer's and is fading rapidly and my Dad has just been diagnosed with cancer and is becoming frail.
I'm finding it all really hard! Thanks

my biggest problem is my stage four breast cancer with metastesis to liver, pelvis, chest wall and skin where my boob was.
It keeps spreading and since january the skin mets have caused a huge lumpy rash on my chest including some turning into a scab which is now open and wet. obviously covered in dressings. It stinks too. And to top it all its caused some lymphodema under my arm pit so I can't lay properly at night, or find a comfy place for my arm, and when I walk I have a horriffic ache in my arm. So, yeah, Its great.

Mine is a bit trivial compared to others :(

I could have written this post!! I feel the same