To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

Me and Dh are struggling to have a baby. Had 4 MC in the last 14 months and we really are losing hope

Perimenopause has caused so many physical and mental health issues. I dislike the way I look and constantly
compare myself.
money worries. DH has recently had surgery and only on stat sick pay so eating into savings. Also a possibility he may be made redundant as his boss wants to sell the business.

I'm currently going through breast cancer treatment. Almost halfway through condensed chemo, then on to rads, but I start hormone treatment in a couple of weeks. It's going well but I'm living a weird half- life, one week too ill to do anything so trying to catch up on my good weeks.
Will also be moving house in between treatments which we are very excited for but feel so ready to get done. DH is stressed with work and helping me round the house, and getting impatient to go.
Just want to fast forward to summer when at least some things will be a bit more manageable.

I have a child with a disability, my father has cancer, my mother is deceased and I miss her, I'm constantly stressed and anxious.

Mine is too much month and not enough money. Probably like a lot of people.

So many people I want to message privately but then I'd worry I'd miss someone equally deserving so I'll say I'm sorry for all of you with worries, big and small, sorry for those with health and money worries and I really hope everything gets biter for you very very soon.

I can't accept my MIL won't give me what I need and would like. I have zero family other than my dc and my life has been turned upside down. But I have to believe I will be okay and whatever happens it can't be as hard as what it would have been if I'd not split up with STBEH.

🌷🐶🐱💐🌼🌻🌸🌞👶🍼🧁🍹🍸🥃🍷☕️🥛🚙🏠💵🛌🩷take whatever you need

Please don't dissuade her. London's a great place to live and the risk of crime is no worse than any other city. Don't make her give up this opportunity over your anxiety.

Seeing people who actually have real problems makes me feel pretty bad worrying about my insignificant ones. I don’t even dare to mention them on here. An eye opener.
Sending strength to all of you out there having a tough time.

So sorry you’re going through this, been there, every miscarriage breaks you more and more… x

Dad having cancer for the fourth time. I just want him to be healthy so he can enjoy everything he's worked for.

On a smaller note, on annual leave and have had food poisoning and a cold for most of it, so feeling shattered and very unproductive - if someone could come and organise my life/house/admin/finances while I have a nap, that'd be lovely!

Money. In the thick of it with balancing PT working and child care costs. Just trying to break even.

Infertility.
I just want it to be my turn now.

I have the same problem of frumpy and ugly that's dominating everything in my life. Perimenopausal and absolutely need to lost at least 30 lbs. Have been struggling for years. As PP said, also feel stuck and invisible.

It takes ages for me to get pregnant and, when I do, they end in miscarriage. Feel like all I do is fake happiness for other people/in front of their kids.

I've just finished reading the thread so far.
❤@SoSadForPoorDH

Much more love, and hopes for improvements where possible, and peace, and safety, and virtual hugs for any of you that want them right now.

As I read, I just kept thinking of the quantity of sheer strength and endurance that is being given a voice here.

@SoSadForPoorDH - I am so, so sorry. Thinking of you.

@SoSadForPoorDH oh no, I'm so sorry to read this! 💐💐💐

I don’t know if this helps, but I’ve struggled with my perception of my body since as long as I can remember. I’ve had every ED under the sun and spent most of my life hating what I see in the mirror.
Now I’ve just turned 50 and of course I’m noticing changes in my appearance that I realise is me becoming old. I lol back at photos of myself when I was in my 30’s and I feel so sad that I wasted so much energy on it because I looked young and alive and slimmer than I ever believed. At the age of 50, I’m now seeing a new “me” on so many levels. I’m appreciating my beauty and my strength, I’m proud of how I’ve dealt with trauma, grief, motherhood, a difficult marriage. I wear skinny jeans and DM boots, I have waist length (greying) hair and I’m not afraid anymore to say no or to care so much what others think of me.
I hope you’ll see yourself differently too, and I hope it happens in your 30’s and not when you’re much older and with less in your future.
Life throws many challenges at us, but the one gift we can give to ourselves is to learn who we are and appreciate our appearance and our strength.
Much love.

DH died.
I feel frozen in panic and disbelief.

Cat piss on my carpet....

Very sobering to read that so many of you have significant health issues yourselves or with loved ones. Also that money is so much of a limit to what you want and need.

I have a lot to thankful for, even if sometimes it is not perfect or I am dissatisfied.

I'm so sorry for those facing bereavement or life-limiting illness. In fact, I'm sorry for all of us on this thread. Life can be ridiculously testing.💐

After reading this thread I feel that my problems - fatigue, persistent cough and hair loss - are nothing compared to what others are going through. Sending all good wishes xxx

Trying to decide whether to stay or go in a relationship. Blended family, moved to his city. Partner publically screamed at my ds for an unintentional misdemeanor. I can see that anger was really coming from panic about the wherabouts of his (younger) son, but it's not an excuse. Because of the complicated history with my ex, I fully expect my exh to report this to Social Services.

Partner becoming increasingly irritable and combative with everyone, including randoms. He's stressed about the house, a crumbling pile that he bought as a doer-upper, about money, his job. I think he's on the verge of a breakdown

Despite this son is really happy in this city. Doing really well in school despite ASD and approaching GCSE's, and doesn't want to move back. Loves having a brother, gets on well with partner. But it's about a year since he screamed at my son again, so I'm at a crossroads

I have a constant nagging worry about my job in the back of my mind. It's high stress, I don't think I'm doing it well and always feel on the verge of a huge fuck up. I wish I could give up work.