To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

Reading so many of these, I just wish I could make everything better for everyone here, whatever that looks like for people's individual circumstances.

Infertility struggles seem so small in comparison, I am so lucky in lots of ways, and will try to do better to remember that.

Going through a divorce, started dating again and was dumped.... feeling sorry for myself!

Feel the same.. and my heart goes out to some people on this convo who or whose partners are very ill..😢

Where to start, lost my dearest sibling (closet to, I have lots of siblings) died tragically. Most recent my uncle I was close to and a cousin to cancer.
Family treat me like shite, taking a lead from my mother. Basically I am the family maid, whipping boy and scapegoat.
Retrained in accounting to get a job as a technician, at considerable cost. Nope, employers are fickle.
Then I completed an intensive course to become an IT technician due to demand for these roles, again nope no chance.
I am also dyslexic although I find ways around it.
Have a great business plan, but I’ve given up.

I'm so disappointed with the men in my life. My Dad is lovely but had a gazillion hobbies as I was growing up and I feel that because of this I've craved male attention and love... I've never been very beautiful, just average and I just haven't attracted any men that I might fancy physically. I have settled quite late in life. My DH is a good Dad but is unfit and tired all the time. Quite grumpy also. I'm the breadwinner and I feel overwhelmed and unsupported.

I have the same problem, I bought a cycle cross trainer and it has made such a difference. Low impact on my hip but I can really go for it and destress.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Husband

Overweight, fat and in massive debt, also bordering on accidental hoarding.

House is a terrible mess in almost every room.

Clean stuff, like clothes, ( I will add again, they are all clean, just not put away anywhere) as have a damp problem in a wardrobe area
Lack of wardrobe space

my youngest having a mental health illness and worrying about his future when we are gone

I'm coping with a DH who has a number of issues that makes it hard for him to socialise and engage with daily life and impossible to work. So I'm in charge of the house and all that entails, dealing with any relationships we have including his various doctors.

Mother is in her 90s, in poor health and lives in another country. Every couple of months there's a "she's dying" panic from my brothers and then I hear nothing so have no idea what's going on.

If that wasn't enough I work, which I enjoy and don't really want to give up even though I'm also collecting state pension. I'd like to be able to relax and not worry about others and have time for me. Sounds greedy but hey ho.

Can't your relative claim universal credit/housing benefit etc?

My lovely mum is dying and the palliative care team are struggling to manage her pain. I’ve never felt so helpless.

FFS edit doesn't last long enough. I meant better for you all.

My mum living with us. She’s doing my head in so much that we’re considering buying a buy to let property just so we can let it to her 🙄 😜

Relationship breakup. Starting over at 34. Feeling suicidal most days.

Someone else having a huge problem doesn't make yours go away. We all want to support each other. Talk to us if you want.

My drinking.

I’m sorry about your ds. I hope he will be ok. Dd is already at private school because she was finding mainstream difficult. It is important to her to get her GCSEs because she’s planning to stay there for sixth form otherwise she will have to repeat the year, which will actually be far worse for her mental health than sitting them now. If this happens it’s fine by dh and me, albeit pretty crap for our finances as the whole thing is being funded through savings. She actually doesn’t feel under pressure from the exams and if she doesn’t study and as long as I can keep her eating she should still pass… and passing is fine, the school will accept this. I need to figure out a plan of action for therapy now.

Trying to manage issues due to my ASD/ADHD PND and ARFID alone. Cannot ask for any help from professionals at all as when I did in the past they were all over it from a safeguarding perspective and they weren’t supportive or kind at all just basically saying my dc will be affected it was horrible. So I’m trying to manage it alone , might access private care if gets to that point but absolutely not my nhs gp etc

This is so true, I would even dispute the "money can't buy happiness", as it certainly can smooth so much of the rough edges off from life. I have had times in my life when money would have made so much of a difference, money to buy decent food, money for a day out or in my wilder dreams, a holiday, or even just to have the heating on without being worried sick about the cost. Money buys freedom, it give you the space to look at the other things in life that need addressing, it frees you from the stress of just surviving.

I've wasted my life, some my fault, some circumstances.
I struggle with wanting to live, though I know I'm not allowed to do anything about it.

Me too. 🫶🏻 we will get through this!

For me, it's where I live, it is horrible, so dirty and unpleasant. I worked so hard on my own as a single mum to bring up my child and pay off my mortgage and do feel grateful that at least I now have no housing costs as the situation is horrific now for so many people. However I can hardly bear to leave my house, there is rubbish everywhere, bins left out for years on end, my neighbours are vile, dirty and noisy. I cannot afford to move and the thought of ending my days where I live make me so depressed. It didn't used to be like this, I would never have bought my house if it had been, it is just that so many houses near me are now owned by BTL landlords who just let the properties rot. Then I feel bad as really my problem is nowhere near as bad as some people's

For those saying they feel their problems are too insignificant to post. Remember it’s your life and perception that counts, if it’s worrying you - feels too much - it is just as valid as any of us.

Life changing news does change perception and the magnitude of some problems can dwarf others but you can still worry about the gas bill, and say so.

I'm fat and broke. However I am working on both of those things!