To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

Please try your best to get through this for your children. They need you.

*biggest one is my mother's health. Its not going to get better, she is living in a different country (I can't up sticks and move to live with her) so it dies worry me alot. My father passed away aged 60 three years ago, and whilst we weren't close, I still missing him, and miss my kifmds having a hands on grandfather.
*my eldest (9) us suspected to have autism, and whilst it's likely to be at the lower end of the spectrum, I worry about him, about his prospects, and about being crap mother to him.
*career (or lack of it).

Well..... I'm poor. I'm a single mum to two with a big age gap between them. I'm a parent carer and likely will be until I pass away. My postcode and my own health conditions both mean I'm likely to die at a younger than statistically average age. I am a survivor of child sexual abuse and theres not generally a day goes by that it's not in the back of my mind.

But the main thing I'd change is get rid of the feeling of fatigue I've been living /struggling with for years. It's affecting every aspect of my life and I'm sick of it.

Cost of living and being the breadwinner on stat mat pay.
However we are getting by, just, and some of these responses and challenges but all of our problems into perspective.

I have the same…. Finally got the energy to separate but scared all the same.

@mum2monkeys88 sorry to hear that. can I ask how old your DC are and if boy/girl/both?

my daughter is in an abusive relationship, she wants and is trying to leave

I have to sit and can't make those choices for her
I can't control what happens
I can point her in the direction of help and have done
I can support
I can listen

It hurts to watch and be helpless though, the waiting is painful

My biggest worry is that my daughter is moving out shortly and I don't know how I'll pay the rent without her contribution. The thought of moving fills me with dread. I've had so much sick leave and time in hospital lately, I barely have the energy to work and do the necessary, ie shop, feed myself and keep reasonably tidy, and the thought of packing up a whole house where I've lived for 10 years makes me feel physically sick...

Horrendous legal dispute. Dealing with Psychologically warped individuals.

keep reminding myself that only hurt people hurt people and that these specimens deserve my pity but difficult when dealing with such vile entitlement.

Long distance caring for a 95 year old dad. I do everything from his supermarket shop to his tax return. He never asked but just assumed I would. He retired at 60 and with mum spent the next 15+ years travelling the world. And that was my plan. But at 63 I’ve reduced my working to two days and drive down to him every other weekend. I know I should feel that caring for him is privilege but we have absolutely nothing in common and I’m not a natural carer so I just don’t. I do go on holiday but I want to travel… just set off and go.

Not being able to find a boyfriend and feeling suffocated by loneliness as a result 😢

I never thought my life could get this hard, my darling husband of 34 years died of a stroke after i nursed him with Parkinsons for 7 years, I went into deep shock and the rare illness i have called Bechets disease caused me to go deaf and affected nearly all my joints so i struggle to walk, i have horrible ulcers all over my mouth and genitals, my teeth are falling out and i'm losing my sight very gradually, the painkillers make me drowsy and i've just had a telephone review from PIP, being grilled for over an hour even though i struggled to hear her, i really need this money to live on but i've still not heard from them, my son lives with me but he has mental health issues and stays in his bedroom all the time, now my little rescue cat that i've loved for 16 years has lymphoma cancer, she's wasting away, Blue Cross could only give me steroids to put in her food, i'm sitting here listening to my awful upstairs neighbours who never take their children out and just let the 4 kids run up and down the stairs all day and night, think i'll be glad when my hearing goes completely

DP's chronic mental health problems and his autism.
Getting older and not being able to work as much as I used to.
Being fat with ugly, water-filled legs that need heavy stretch stockings.

Having read other posts on here that are so v sad it makes me realise that not owning a home isn't a massive thing.. sorry

50s and need to lose weight.
Teen having issues with school like so many others nowadays
Can't afford deposit on a house so still renting..impossible to save with living costs and one income..despite a decent job
Life's hard at times

It's hard isn't it.. need to lose weight but it's much harder now in 50s. Teen moods.
But also have a lovely dog and my hair did what it should today too :)

@EilonwyWithRedGoldHair Sorry to hear that's happened to you, that sounds painful and irritating. I feel like it should be a priority because it effects everyday life but there are so many other things we need to pay for/think about paying for...perhaps wanting a lottery win is another thing!

@Ani21 I get you on the teeth & dentistry thing - I had to have a tooth out last year - crown came out, snapped off the remaining bit of tooth. It's really bothering me, but we don't have the money to do anything about it and if we did I doubt if I could cope with the procedures right now.

Hank you, I'm planning to see a surgeon later this year to ask for one. I've been on long term steroids and piled weight on so I know I need to lose that first. 2 stone off, 1 more to go. Then I shall see the man

Not enjoying parenthood

Being early 40’s on minimum wage, part time job, living in a shared house, no family or friends close by, feeling isolated, lonely & unloved. Just been diagnosed with gallstones, might need an operation to remove my gallbladder, nobody to help me if I do, can’t afford to lose what little money I make recovering afterwards. Sorry feeling a bit down & nobody to rant too.

Heartbreaking. Such burdens everyone has to carry. Life is not easy. Definitely adding my sympathy to everyone. It doesn’t make a material difference, but MN can be a place to share. ❤️🌷❤️🌷❤️🌷

We all have real problems, yours are not insignificant to you. Feel free to share them.

I want to send my heartfelt thoughts to those experiencing heartbreaking circumstances on this thread,
My life sentence is being estranged from my only son. After years of the consequences of addiction, I had to say goodbye to save some level of sanity for myself. Multiple episodes in prison, child protection plans were just some of the consequences. My heart is permanently sad and wounded. Like so many others, I paint a smile on my face and keep going.
Hope and peace to all on this thread, thank you for sharing