To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

Oh my Lord and all sympathy. Can your mum go into care for a bit? Is there support available for your partner? Can caring/nursing be organised in advance? Sounds very hard. I am so sorry.

Life is my biggest problem at the minute , my dsdad died on the 15th of June , it hit me hard because I helped care for him and was there at the end as I have been for the past 7 months when he started to deteriorate. Well just as I was beginning to get my head round not being awake 22 hours a day I woke up on the 20th of June to a text from my exdp to tell me the relationship was over and to collect my stuff . To sum it up life stinks I lost my dsdad my home my partner and my cat all in the space of less than a week .

My career has fallen into a bit of a black hole and I'm not sure how. I left a toxic job last year for a fixed term contract role, I had tried for permanent roles and struggled and as my mental health was suffering I thought the fixed term role was the best option. That role ended, as expected and I have since struggled to find the right thing. Took another short term role that was well beneath my skill set and feel like I now have lost all my confidence to get back where I was - and the job market in my field is really bad at the moment so I'm against stiff competition and getting nowhere.

Feels like the last 24 years I've spent working in this profession are all for nothing - I desperately need to get my career mojo back and out of this hole! Meanwhile I'm surviving off savings and DH's income so I am grateful that at least I'm not getting into massive debt or at risk of losing my home.

Some of our dogs are getting in in years.

I'd click my fingers and they would be five years younger.

Money. I have so very little money.
All my savings are gone, and there wasn't much saved in the first place.
All my jewellery has been sold.
All my good clothes have been sold.
I just sold my last pair of nice shoes. (And they weren't even fancy.)

I wake up at night and listen for the sound of the fridge so I know it's not broken.
I'm taking the child to the seaside on Saturday and it's taken me two months to save enough extra for her to go in the little funfair and have ice cream and all of it.
We're fed and warm and she's got nice clothes from Vinted and so on, but I'm so tired.

I've had much worse things happen to me and this isn't insurmountable, it's just really fucking demoralising.

Adhd. All the things I've been neglecting are coming to a head this month and I'm so stressed that every day I'm just more tired and less able to cope. I'm failing my two little kids because I can't get my shit together and I'm failing my parents who are in very bad shape and desperately unhappy. And work is just a battle that I'm losing daily. I'm working every evening and night but I can't catch up and soon everyone will find out. I don't have imposter syndrome. I am an imposter.

And I'm starting to see symptoms of adhd in my beautiful dd and it breaks my heart. This is not what I want for her. She's only 8 but she's already got so many issues. Our home is not a happy home. Dh is in constant pain and very unpleasant and negative. I'm all the time stressed and my stimulants make me feel cold and joyless. Dd is scared of her own shadow and soon I'm sure my happy bubble little toddler will be affected. I've wasted most of my life procrastinating. I can't forgive myself for not getting my shit together for my kids

Please, please get yourself checked out. I’ve recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Because of caring duties I delayed the mammogram which diagnosed it and had I not, the tumour would likely have been smaller and treatment not as radical as is likely now. It may be nothing, but neglecting yourself will just make things worse. I’ve been in your situation so I know how distressing it is, but you need to make time for yourself. Talk to your GP about what you’ve found and ask about some support.

My husband is terminally ill and I'm his carer. He probably has only a few months left. My life has effectively stopped to look after him (I returned to look after him even though I'd left him a year previously as he had no one else). I've recently felt some small lumps in my body but don't have the time to focus on me, so I'm burying my head in the sand and hoping it's nothing. I'm also fat and frumpy, but at 60 I doubt I'll be anything else now.

My parents ageing and my dog has just died. Both unsolvable and inevitable.. but painful none the less.

i suppose im quite fat and a bit ugly. But that doesn’t really bother me enough to actually be a problem

One of my friends has terminal cancer and has a maximum of 6 weeks left. Her family really need her and she is dying. It's really tragic.

I’ve got some fairly big problems as per my post. Doesn’t stop me being annoyed that my cucumber plant is under performing. Doesn’t stop me believing in a god either. I think I’m managing to prove to myself I can shoulder whatever burden comes my way. For now, at least.

There are some people who have no serious problems at some points in their life. That's a good thing, not a bad one. If everyone was hanging by their fingernails all the time then there would be no space to help others, work hard and effectively, create art, campaign for change and all the other things we need as a society.

This is not an "only people with really serious problems can post" thread: if it was then the OP wouldn't have posted for a start. It's a broad slice of life, where everyone can post for their own reasons and the ones who temporarily have nothing major to worry about can count their blessings.

Reading part of this thread is so depressing - some people currently going through hell and others filling their time with concerns over under developed home-grown veg.

Maybe there isn't a god.

Mine aren't doing well either. I just don't think there's been enough sun for them.

My courgette plant isn't doing well.

Every day I'm grateful for my stress-free life, I know my luck will change at some point.

I really wanted a new Loungefly bag to take to Disney Land Paris and someone was selling one on Vinted at a great price. Then I realised I’d not paid for a cabin bag so had no way to take it on the plane so couldn’t buy it as it wouldn’t fit in my regular rucksack along with my clothes. First world problems 😢

Waiting for my currently healthy 85 year old parent to become infirm and requiring care etc. and knowing the care won't be easily available or affordable.

It's a constant worry.

I know this post is from a little while ago but have you asked your doctor about having a stoma bag fitted - wouldn’t that give you your freedom back? - edit I’m actually not sure if I have posted that before? So sorry if I have it might have been I have replied to a similar post or could be repeating myself. If so sorry.

Knowing that my DH will never walk again and need bowel care and help with feeding himself for the rest of his life

Well, update: now my biggest problem is how to integrate and socialize my new young crazy rescue cat with my existing lady. I've been very lucky with my cat pairings before. This one, not so lucky. At least I have space for them to each be separate and resident cat spends a lot of time outdoors in summer by choice.

Its hard work.

The last couple of years have been a nightmare. Partner has vascular disease and is now a double amputee - second amputation last year. Has ongoing cardiac problems too. Mum lives with us, and was diagnosed with vascular dementia a few years ago. She’s now in the advanced stages. I have a disability from a birth defect which causes mobility problems and two years ago was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis, meaning l’m now a wheelchair user. To top it off l was diagnosed with breast cancer after a routine mammogram a couple of months ago and am on treatment to try to shrink the tumour. I’ll be undergoing surgery in the next couple of months - most likely a mastectomy. I have no idea how any of us are going to cope with the aftermath.

My lovely DD is 24 tomorrow and we will celebrate her birthday of course but she has not one friend to go out with and it makes me desperately sad. She has a learning disability and finds it hard to make connections and sustain them. Her birthday is always tinged with a slight edge of desperation.

I’m very sorry you feel this way. My friends who have visited family in Israel recently have told me they feel safer there than here. The dangers and stresses are just different. Could you come for a break?

Being relentlessly bullied at work
Losing family members recently
Health problems

I don't get much time to myself between two v young children, work and being a single parent. I also haven't had any sort of romantic or sexual relationship since the second was conceived > 2 years ago (XP, father of both, good friend now) which is a bit lonely sometimes, I'm only mid 30s.

That's about it. I have a good life, I'm happy and very lucky.