Bullshitter at work - could this be true?

OP, with some respect, are you envious of her?

When I worked at times I though WTH people fitted in going out to eat after work, visiting friends and doing shopping? This is because I wanted a rest and they did not

Everyone has missed a fundamental point re the OP re "speeding."
It could have easily been the woman had the KMP showing on her car in place of MPH and there only speeding a little ie 5 mph on a standard motorway

I recall the time when one lady who was really jealous of others doing well taking the p out of a young office assistant as the office assistant had claimed dad owned a plane - she'd only mentioned this as people were chatting about fear of flying. I told this girl to show us a pic and to all - there it was a plane, a twin propleer thing, dad as pilot as he enjoyed flying and did PT flights to cover costs as there are a lot of costs keeping a plane airworthy plus storage

Therefore, either ignore this lady or give her then benefit of doubt.

Why not live and let live and not waste your life thinking if someone at work really does what they say or not.

My DH and I used to know someone like this. Nice enough bloke but he'd served in all the armed forces, built several houses single-handed (replaced the kitchen and two bathrooms one weekend), travelled everywhere (usually sailing/rowing solo or flying his own plane) etc. We never challenged him because it was always interesting what he would come up with and we didn't spend much time in his company. We still, 40 years later, use his name to describe a particular kind of tall tale.

Some of these stories are completely batshit. It's really interesting.

I knew a girl at school who made up a boyfriend, sent herself texts from a different phone pretending they were from him, sent herself flowers etc. We started to get suspicious and then suddenly he had a horrible car accident and he was on life support and then...died! It all came out as a total lie in the end. In her case I think it was a self esteem thing, pretty sad really. I do wonder if she has graduated to adult bullshitter now or whether she grew out of it.

I also used to work with a lady who wasn't the bullshitter herself but her boyfriend was and she believed all of it, even though it was the most ludicrous stories - for example, he knew Beyoncé and had VIP tickets to see her but there was always a reason they couldn't go last minute etc. He had claimed celebrities owed him money so this nice lady was loaning him money. It was awful. We all tried to tell her but she just didn't want to hear it. Luckily she is no longer with him.

my uncle bullshits. I used to trustingly believe every word until one day, at work, I proudly told one of his stories. In front of the person it actually happened to. I was mortified.

After that I only believe half of what he comes out with, and I notice discrepancies in his stories but I just let him continue. I think some people just enjoy the attention and they don’t feel like they’re lying.

No it’s not. The guidelines are 6 points or a short ban. Plenty of magistrates favour the points as they follow you round rather than a ban which is over quickly and only a minor inconvenience.

I know someone who went 100 in a 30 and didn’t get banned (despite my protests to the contrary!).

https://www.sentencingcouncil.org.uk/offences/magistrates-court/item/speeding-revised-2017/

I used to work with one of these as well! She apparently lived a life of high adventure, her boyfriend was something senior in the Navy and was on the COBRA committee, some Eastern European men were plotting to abduct her so we had the police involved at work and she had to be escorted to her car (I thought we should have let them abduct her - they'd have brought her straight back again!). She used to make stuff up about other people at work and get them into trouble. She was definitely dangerous and not wired up right.

She now has a child who is permanently ill and either in hospital or being blue-lighted to hospital. She posts all the details of the child's illnesses all over her social media. Im very very suspicious about this, but very limited to what I can do. She's not getting so much engagement now, so the child appears to be getting more unwell. It's worrying.

These people are only entertaining as long as noone is actually suffering.

I'm married to a cop, and I have also been a cop in the past. No way in hell did she get a warning for doing 120mph.

But with all the other tall tales, you know she's a liar anyway.

I'd laugh at her tbh.

I bet if you've been to Tenerife, she's been to Elevenerife, eh? LOL.

😂The "H" in H Samuel stands for Harriet, and she died in 1908.

I used to work with a pathological liar. She just made things up. Ridiculous things. My line manager actually called her old work in the end to try to corroborate some of the stories and she was well known there for being a liar as well. Maths teacher!

Why didn't you just scroll past mine i stead of making something out of it 🙄

I worked with a (very average looking, 55-60 year old) woman (with a mullet) in the 90's who insisted she was in a relationship with French footballer (and sex-symbol of the time) David Ginola.

She'd talk about all of the exotic places he'd whisked her away to at weekends, all while the covers of magazines were covered with pictures of him and his model wife living an awfully glamorous life in Saint Tropez.

Absolute batshittery.

She was dangerous, though. I once sniggered at one of her tall tales and she put in a complaint about me, claiming I'd done something wrong at work when I hadn't.

Nod along and avoid her as much as poss, OP.

The pp who talks about the support group and the WhatsApps has hit the nail- it sucks all the oxygen out of the room and really stifles normal chat about people’s real lives. Exhausting!

Lol!

Lots of things happen that others might not believe.

When those lots of things happen to one person it becomes painfully obvious they have some kind of problem. I think this kind of behaviour and need for attention starts at a very young age and becomes a habit - I've seen it develop with a couple of friends ds used to have where they have always seen/done/got something bigger and better.

Hilarious one was when dh came home and told us he had been pulled over by police for not wearing a seat belt (he was, always does), and ds's friend came up with a whole story about his dad being stopped too, but for speeding, police putting him on the ground when he had done nothing wrong to put handcuffs on him, him going to police station. The friend was caught out when we commiserated with his dad about his arrest when he arrived to pick him up, but it never taught the friend to stop lying and ds's got fed up with it and stopped hanging about with him.

You say everyone else gets sucked in? I doubt it. They will be playing the - smile, nod and ignore game. It usually isn't worth the hassle challenging.

My husband got caught doing similar speed ( years ago now, when younger and bit less wise than now) and ended up with only a warning. He was very polite and apologetic.
So entirely possible

That's so funny, she didn't say her mum used to be married to the de beers or to the family who own Boodles.

I used to work with someone like this. It was something different every day, although she was quite unkind and bullyish with it all too.

One time we had some training where we had to share an unknown fact about ourselves - you know, ‘I used to live on Baker St’ etc…. She came out with a ridiculously hyperbolic story about being held up at gunpoint with really graphic violent detail

I used to give zero response and completely grey rock it

I went out with a guy about 30 years ago who was a “Mitty”. He was ex-army, I knew that to be true but he’d obviously saved the world single handed 🤣
He’d been undercover, infiltrated the IRA, in the Paras, a specialist motorbike rider and a diver.
Caught out by telling my neighbour some bullshit about diving not knowing my ndn was a trained diver. The lies went on and on.
After I dumped him I found out one fact was actually true ( just the one) I was gobsmacked.

Why not just scroll past? I’m finding this thread really interesting.

I have met a few people like her, I think they actually believe what they are saying even though it’s not true, maybe it’s some kind of mental illness?
I was very recently dating someone like this, everything was exaggerated and he would say he was going to do things (things that were not possible) and obviously never do them, he would then get offended if I asked why he hadn’t done them? I soon got fed up of his crazy stories, they were boring and clearly were not true.

I have been caught speeding in the last and let off. It depends if the police are out to specifically catch speeders, if they are not then they often just give a warning…..though not so much these days.

All you need to do is say "oh ha ha Janet, we know that's probably not true, what are you like eh, overexaggerating, so funny?!" Tinkly little laugh, head tilt. Just don't be drawn into it. She likes the attention and to be thought "wow she speeds and gets away with it!".

I knew a man who changed his title in his Driving Licence to View car because of this!

This is absolutely hilarious 😂!