I feel like my daughters dance school is inappropriate

I understand why you feel uncomfortable.

It's possible for teen students to learn how to dance in heels without performing overly sexualised routines.

To be honest if it’s a genuinely high standard dance school then a good number of the 15/16 year old girls will be going to dance college in September. They will be expected to be able to dance in heels and be able to dance in all styles including musicals and dance video content. What you’re saying isn’t unusual. I assume the parents had all seen (and paid for) the costume before the show. You can remove your DD but leave it to the other parents to parent their children.

Just leave if you are not happy. Not worth the angst of complaining.

If they do GCSEs will they be regulated by Ofsted? That might be the place to report it to

Whether this is true or not, for anyone looking for a dance school that is strict about modesty and appropriateness for children, IME Cecchetti ballet teaching does this.

I’d also look for a school that rarely does competitions, and look at it a social media to see if only the same few feature or if lots of children of various body shapes are shown.

Could I suggest taking a deep breath and letting the spelling observations slide 😉

We simply changed dance schools. Easy enough.

DD does dance and martial arts. Brilliant combination.

"The late Middle English word center came before the Old French centre (pronounced “saunt” in French). It began to refer to “the middle of something” in the 16th century, and center was Shakespeare’s preferred spelling as well, as it turned up ten times in his plays (centre appears only once). However, the French-inspired centre became the British spelling convention in the 17th and 18th centuries, especially after British writer Samuel Johnson included centre in his 1755 Dictionary of the English Language."

Education is a wonderful thing. "Centre" is the one that "crept in". American English is generally truer to the etymological origins.

Good to see Muphry got you though.

Presumably the parents of the girls doing Chicago were well aware of the costumes?

I agree some dances are way over the top and sexualised for young girls and it makes uncomfortable watching.

The charge for drop of is appalling, I’d approach the owners of the industrial estate.

"She"'s also said further on she is definitely pulling the daughter out. That was quick...

When do the schools go back? These threads are tedious.

I don't feel like it's enough to pull my daughter out though

You've literally used the word 'grooming'.

It's pervs when teenage girls and skimpy clothes are mentioned.

But surely they don’t own a public road on the estate?
I can’t believe they would actually have staff manning cones. I’ve never heard anything like it.
What if someone warns to access the estate who works there? You could surely report this to the council. Or just drive through and say no. They’re not the police. Who would pay an extra £20 per lesson!

Totally agree with you.

They aren’t grooming them. It’s a show. Give over.

i would guess the only place you can escalate this to is the Dance School owners. They’re clearly not breaking any laws or it would have come to the attention of the police and authorities. And it’s doubtful the owners are going to change what they do, and it will only ostracise you and your daughter. Your options as far as I can see are to either complain then pull your daughter from the dance class, or allow her to continue as you say she loves it there.

If you don’t like it , then don’t send your daughter there - but the fact is that the parents of the girls actually dancing this dance and wearing these outfits are clearly ok with it so you can’t really do anything about it and I don’t think you should either . You’re going to try and stop girls doing something they enjoy , which they have permission for , as well as probably affect the dance teachers career just because YOU don’t agree with it?!

Burlesque is actually about empowering women . It’s not the same as pole dancing or stripping ( though I would just like to say I have no issues with those either - although wouldn’t agree with a child doing it ) . Nothing is being removed . Dancing in heels is an art form , a skill , and fantastic for fitness . My stepdaughter does this with her dance class , she does other styles of dancing too but does this - and yes when I first saw I was like “ wow - wtf “ but then when I really watched and I saw the amazing skill of her dancing , the way she changed as a person in terms of her confidence , the way it helped with all issues she had had in her life with school, mental health etc and just made everything else in her life positive I realised that it’s that what should be focused on not the fact that every time a female shows a bit of skin it gets sexualised !

Dancing is an art form . They’re not getting these girls to strip off and have money slipped in their suspender belt ! Suspenders belts themselves were there to make women more comfortable and stop their stockings falling down but once again - sexualised ! 😡

Im sure people will disagree with me , and quite frankly I don’t really care , but in my personal opinion OP you need to open your mind a bit and step back too .. not your children , not your business . Calm down .

Also - they’re not going to let random men just buy tickets for the show 🙄

OP I'd try to talk to your daughter's friends' parents, see if there's a couple who are also interested in changing school. So your dd doesn't lose the whole network by changing dance school.

And indeed, what's with the trolls? Ignore BettyShagter, she's off her rocker. Hope it all works out.

There's no obvious about it from reading your posts. Chicago is a popular musical, I personally don't think it's that big a deal at ages 15 -16 and don't know what it is that you'd be reporting.

I picked my kids dance school to avoid this sort of thing. Sadly many are like this.

You need to find somewhere else.

Time to find another dance school. I’d be horrified as well. My kids do sport and this is good for team work and they all have fun. Perhaps change to sport but otherwise find another dance school.

Yes. All dance schools near us like this. Dd has left now as said not fair the same children are chosen. Parents also not allowed to wait in the cafe in the building but outside in the rain.

@grossedouteurgh if it was a ticketed performance, your local authority have probably licensed the show, via a BOPA or individual performance licences. Flag it with them if you have concerns, just search child entertainment and employment in whichever LA you're in and you should be able to find an email, contact number.