To think people should wear fucking earphones?

Yup! As an autistic person I find the Japanese concept of thinking of others around them so mentally relaxing. My husband and I love it over there as that's how we live our lives too.

Hearing videos and music played out loud is a painful sensory nightmare for me 😭

YANBU but almost everyday I sit on the train next to someone wearing headphones but they have the volume so loud, it barely makes a difference

Because people who do this are morons and therefore will have inane taste in music.

I don’t have the confidence to ask someone to modify their behaviour nowadays. Similarly I find it hard to have to ask for a seat on PT, even though I am obviously less able to stand or climb stairs than the majority of other travellers. I’m conscious that makes me sound like a miserable old moaner, but selfishness has become normalised IMO.

I really like the idea of announcements about headphones, perhaps they could also include a request not to sit in a priority seat unless its a necessity.

Of course, but that's how it started. It's just become learned behviour now.

You are my person OP!!!!
I absolutely lose my marbles at people inconsideration these days
I ALWAYS ask them to turn it down

Why is the music played always rubbish? Never heard any decent music from them.

There’s those who don’t switch off their keyboard click noise.

I feel like snatching the phone off them and switching the keyboard sounds myself

There is Bluetooth! You aren’t forced to pay £160-220 for AirPods. I have a pair for £20 and are fine.

Totally agree, and there's this new habit or trend of talking on speakerphone with the phone held miles away from your mouth so everyone has to hear your loud gob plus the tinny scratchy loud gob of your friend on the other side! That or video calls constantly too, so wierd!

I'm always really passive aggressive and suggest loudly that they add a pair of headphones to their xmas list 😆

I hear you OP. It boils my blood.

Facetime calls as well. I don't want to be involved in your ridiculous inane conversation and video call!

Yanbu at all, I'm half tempted to buy a load of cheap headphones and hand them out to people doing this

I recently got a new phone and was extremely confused that there was no headphone jack. Didn't even occur to me that it might not (it's not an iphone) because why on earth would anyone remove it?!

I do have Bluetooth headphones, but making sure I have that one specific set of headphones with me at all times (and making sure they're charged) is a pain in the a**. I bought a converter for the USB slot so now I also have to remember to bring that if I need to use regular headphones 🙄

Would still never occur to me to listen to anything on my phone out loud in public if I didn't have the Bluetooth headphones or the converter with me

I actually had a run-in with someone the other day about this, and was called a Karen for my trouble 🙄.

I was sitting in a coffee shop which had (obnoxiously loud) music playing. Oh well, NBD. Then this kid aged about 20, at a guess, comes in and sits about 8 feet away from me and turns up his music on his phone. So now there's competing shit music in a public space 😡

I asked him politely if he had headphones and he did not receive my question well. Eventually he storms out and the coffee shop staff member came over to me. Said that this kid was "challenged" (by which I think he meant on the spectrum.)

I'm in two minds as to whether I would react the same way if I'm ever in that situation again.

It's not just when travelling on ie a train. I've noticed it a lot lately in cafes. I don't mind the sound of people talking but the sound of hands free phone conversations or ie videos etc is very different/more what I would call noise pollution. I can be quite gobby but I tend to hold back from saying something in relation to this as in my experience the types that behave like this look like they are doing it to be edgy/defiant and am pretty sure they wouldn't take kindly. I'd rather leave or move than engage with a rude loser

It drives me insane.

I think we should start a movement where all of us passengers having to listen to the shitty videos each play the worst song we can find on Spotify out loud for a minute (I choose Barbie Girl).

They'd surely get the message that no one would be able to hear anything if we were all that fucking selfish. I will have a word if needed but I'm in the minority.

DH always says something. One lad was watching a video and DH had a polite word saying he'd come over and watch it with him.

To be fair it doesn't bother me. I get irritated voices - phone calls, loud performance parenting and leery lads swearing. I usually say something to them. Well not the parents, they can't be told. One lady in Tesco was singing proper opera style to her child all the way round. Would have been better if she told her child not to handle all the baguettes though.

It is round here. Baffling. (And really fucking annoying!)

YANBU. It feels like a tiny threshold that's been crossed socially - that some people no longer consider others around them, and most people are too scared of repercussions if they challenge the behaviour, so say nothing. Which reinforces it.

I feel like there needs to be regular ads reminding people of everyday behaviour- say please and thank you, you may have to wait- that’s okay, open the door or stand back for people, perhaps don’t be so loud on your phone, use headphones!!!

Totally agree
we were on a train on Easter Monday, very quiet, me, DH and the 2 DC who are teens but would never dream of behaving like this.

Young woman in the next seat, playing some stupid video at full volume. DH leaned over and asked her to turn it down or use headphones. She said to him “What are you my dad or somethin” then flounced off to the next carriage, no doubt to piss off some other poor passenger.

We had a laugh about it and then when we got off the train we saw her in front of us, walking down the platform still blasting the damn video at full volume.

I take the tube most days and I always tell people to turn their volume down, I do feel a bit wary about it though.

Absolutely agree. I've just returned from a trip to the USA which included a 10 hour train trip. I'd been on the train for about 2 hours when I realised how beautifully quiet it was, and not a single antisocial bastard played their fucking phones out load for the entire 10 hours. It was a world away from train travel in the uk.

Is it also a thing these days that people walk around talking into their phone on speaker phone? Why? These people are dreadful.

All of the above.

Inspired by another thread on this subject I renamed my phone “FFS! Use headphones!” In the hope fuckwits will see it come up on their devices in public places, especially trains.

I too don’t understand with airlines don’t tag a sentence prohibiting it to their long announcement prohibiting smoking and vaping.

A recent trip to Japan was bliss: consideration for others is so ingrained and well policed.