To think most women would be annoyed by this

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/apr/07/my-partner-ogles-other-women-and-it-makes-me-feel-unattractive

Just saw this and thought of you OP.

If he's 73 then he's just a disrespectful dirty old man. If he was 22 and in his first proper relationship and hadn't worked out you can't just blurt out any thought in your head without considering what you are saying to whom, then maybe there would have been some hope.

Gross. What a creep.

He sounds like a a bit of a creepy lech, tbh.

He might just have a degree in psychology. If he’s a clinical or counselling psychologist then he absolutely should know about self esteem. An under graduate degree in psychology wouldn’t necessarily equip you with that. BUT that’s just me being pedantic as someone that is relevant to and for this it’s irrelevant. He’s behaving like a mysoginistic twat.

A psychologist who knows you struggle with self esteem and then does things that directly worsen your self esteem, he doesn’t sound like a very nice person.

Christ. Why are you with him. Have some self respect @Kaylasmum49 and dump him.

Oh. Rank. 🤢

So he's not training to be a dirty old man, he's already there. Odds on he also knows exactly what effect his sleazy, lecherous behaviour is having on you, and doing it because he's a sadistic piece of shit.

I'm glad you're getting out of this, OP.

If he is a Clinical Psychologist then that’s even worse! He should be much more aware. I hope he’s not a practicing clinician. With his age I could be more forgiving as this was just the norm back then, but still, once pointed out he should stop. May be his frontal cortex is on the decline and he’s just saying what he thinks and has lost his inhibitions? Either way I’d find it pretty repulsive and see him as a bit unevolved and pathetic.

He sounds like a creep.

Good partners make you feel good about yourself and aren’t perving over other people when out shopping.

Get rid of him.

I hope you carry through with your decision to get rid of this man, he's no good for you.

You seem to be deciding to end the relationship. Hope you do and find a decent man soon.

insensitive

That’s horrible. I would then see him as a dribbling letch with his tongue hanging out for any other woman he/we met.
Is he trying to make you jealous or telling you he wants you to look more like these other women.
Bleugh either way. What an arsewipe.

We are like this.
And I say to dh 'oh what a lovely looking person/ woman ' and he'll agree
But he always makes me feel like the mist beautiful woman in the world anyway.

Creepy and weird.

Whilst you're in the process of breaking up (I hope!) change your screensaver to someone hot your age. Etc

He sounds like one of my cast-offs, who was also a psychologist. Is he Scottish by any chance? He'd be in his early 70s by now. We had a similar age difference between us, with him being 12 years older than me. He constantly commented on other women, telling me which ones he wanted to fuck. His excuse was that his male hormones made him do it and that he needed to express them. He also thought it was fine to tell me that it was perfectly normal for men to want to fuck as many women as possible because they're wired that way. My excuse for dating him is that I was in my early 20s and very naive. Saying that, he didn't last long. I look back on that time and my younger self with astonishment. How could I even think of having a relationship with someone like that? I hope you dump him, OP.

I'm sorry OP, this is horrible. I experienced this with a partner of 3 years. They do it on purpose, they know what they're doing. At his age and occupation it makes what he's doing even worse. Sounds like he is consciously doing it. I ended things, I hope you do the same. I felt so much better for not being exposed to it and it was only afterwards I realised just how bad it made me feel x

It’s a bit weird and unnecessary. He can think it but he doesn’t need to share.
I’ve no idea who else my DH thinks is attractive as he doesn’t tell me.

He's 73 and doesn't know how to respect his partner. I thought you were going to say he was in his early 20s.

You've only been together a year, that's easy to walk away from and I highly suggest you do.

Finding someone beautiful is one thing, but finding them “sexy” is objectification if he doesn’t know them.
I was once the subject of such a comment from a hairdresser that I visited on the spur of the moment. I had experimented with (very light) contouring when making up that morning. He noticed, and said it made me look much younger and very sexy, and he would ask me out on a date.
I felt very uncomfortable but laughed it off, mentioning that I had been married to my DH (and still was) for over 30 years. It still made me feel🤢though, so it’s a kind of negging, I feel…

He’s lucky to be with you. How dare he use this tactic to harm your self confidence. You can meet someone else who is nice with you. Put yourself first.

What a freak he is! That would put me right off him. I think you need to start talking about how sexy all the men you meet are.