Husband embarrassed when I felt unwell

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Honestly, it sounds like most posters have never had a sudden drop of blood pressure.

And how awful it feels.

I had a c-section 2 weeks ago, and one of the side effects of the epidural was BP drops. Near enough an hour of it! And I was already lying down, not even able to move (because - epidural!!). Wasnt able to hold my baby for that period, as I was soooo out of it.

Im sure most posters would judge me for not being able to hold my baby, because clearly, I should have been able to control myself and not feel "unwell"🙄

Her BP was likely already on the up then.

I assume you have never had a sudden drop on your blood pressure. If you had, you would know that getting up and leaving is not always a choice!

I suffer from recurrent episodes of my BP dropping. And while I dont usually faint, I often vomit. Trying to move makes it worse. However, eventually it passes, and then, while you might still be feeling iffy, you can move. Though for me, thats usually when the vomiting happens, when things starts going back to normal.

But she did get up and leave, after her husband objected to her sitting with her head on the table.

She wasnt. Her BP tanked. If shed gotten up and tried to leave, there is a very good chance she would have fainted, which would have been a lot more dramatic than putting her head down on the table.

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Unless you're a drunk or a hypochondriac who repeats this behaviour time and time again.
I have a family member like putting their head on the table would be nothing compared to the number of times they have embarrassed us. Honestly the amount of bizarre incidents they have done when their drunk. But it's never their fault though I definitely put my disclaimer about people like this in my post. Obviously if that applies then it's completely different.

To OneBrightCrow pass no heed on the horrible messages here and people really need to relax abit, you put your head on the table, not like you were dancing half naked on the table. Everyone so worried about everyone except how you were feeling ill and should be more concerned about you which your husband was not and only about himself. He is the one making a big deal out of all of this and for his text so out of order. If I were you I would text the friends and say you felt ill and nothing to do with alcohol and don't know what your husband is on about. He sounds like a gas lighting narcissist and you need to let him know how you feel. I could not be with someone who did not care if I was ill but only about themselves. Hope you are ok. The comments here are laughable people saying you were making a show of yourself. She only put her head on the table for a bit calm down. Bet those making those comments are great fun NOT.

If my partner had put their head on the table during wedding speeches at a wedding that was my friend’s / family’s I would struggle to even look at you again, let alone speak to you again. Leave discreetly, ask me to take you out, anything. Just don’t make show of me like that. Just awful.

Unless you're a drunk or a hypochondriac who repeats this behaviour time and time again.
I have a family member like putting their head on the table would be nothing compared to the number of times they have embarrassed us. Honestly the amount of bizarre incidents they have done when their drunk. But it's never their fault though.

@OneBrightCrow, you really must return to GP and explain latest incident and request additional tests / specialist referral. Perhaps begin with endocrinologist?
Husband is very immature and unsupportive. Also, a jerk for email sent.

Men who behave like this are usually the ones that deep down think of you as property...an extension and reflection of them. Rather than an individual independent of them, acting behaving speaking and yes, getting ill, independent of him.

He wanted you to get away from the table because of how he felt your actions reflected on him.

Someone with ego integrity and respected that you are a autonomous human being would have quietly checked if you were ok, if you needed anything, then just let it be.

I'm on the fence here. To be fair, once you felt like this, you were in a difficult situation, however drinking on an empty stomach was on you, and I would have been embarrassed in his situation too. Having said this, I have misjudged the food drink ratio in the past, so have a certain amount of sympathy. Thankfully not at a wedding. So in conclusion, you learned a hard lesson and he could have been kinder.

This is why I always have a cooked breakfast before going to a wedding. Usually alcohol involved and you don't know what time you will be eating. He could at least have got you a glass of water.

I was Team DH the other day, but that message to the bride was unnecessary.

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Sounds like half the story.

How excited/happy were you to go to the wedding?
Were you having a lovely time together until you became ill?

Why didn't you let him escort you from the room to somewhere quiet?

If my partner was ill to the extent of putting their head on a table, I would be extremely concerned.
He would also look a dick if her carried on, like nothing was happening, while people were raising eyebrows. You said people at the table could clearly see you were unwell.

On the other hand that doesn't excuse him from not being totally focussed on you and staying with you, if you're unwell.

There's no excuse for him, if he got arsey because he couldn't show off his wonderful partner who had just face-planted into the table.
There's also no excuse for him, if he spent the day focused on old uni friends, and didn't keep you close and make you feel special.

As a couple you both fell into a crevass at this hurdle in a relationship. And couldn't communicate or support each other.

Is he right for you? There's another 4 billion male people on the planet. The odds are high in finding someone better, kinder, more suited to you.

YABU. Putting your head on the table in a room full of people is really obvious and quite attention seeking, it’s would appear youre really drunk. I think quietly excusing yourself and asking him to come with you if needed is very reasonable. If I saw someone with their head on the table I would think it rude.

he sounded like he wanted to be with you and was asking you all the right questions. So YABU.

@OneBrightCrow I'm so happy I left the U.K. and have a Spanish DH who doesn't understand this weirdness. Some English people are so preoccupied with what other people think it's crazy. In Spain if you did that at the wedding people would have given you sone water and asked how you were. Nothing to be embarrassed about, nothing ruined etc. The fact that you had to think so much about the best way to behave and the fact people are chastising you for said behaviour just shows how odd English people actually...and yes, we appear that way to the rest of the world lol.

Op, I can't believe these responses. I've felt that too and I would have encouraged you to put your head in the table.

Some people are very sensitive to alcohol , especially if they don't usually drink.

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If I was in that situation, I'd have quietly excused myself and gone to the loo.
I'm a lightweight when it comes to alcohol, so usually avoid it.

At a family member's wedding {On London Eye} I'd not eaten breakfast, was on opioid painkillers, but thought it would be ok to have a glass of champagne - {I don't drink alcohol usually }

I had to drink the champagne 'fast' as one couldn't exit the London eye capsule with alcohol for some reason.

When the cold wind hit me when we got off, I felt I was flying! It felt quite unreal.

Thankfully it passed off with food.

I feel for you OP. Two proseccos arnt going to make anyone drunk especially with food/water.

I suffer intermittently since being young with random blackouts. Luckily I always get warning such as feeling clammy, sweating profusely, randomly I get back pain just before I start losing vision. When I have blacked out it's a few minutes then I come.round completely exhausted and weak.

I've only ever hit the deck approx 5 times but have found I need to get myself sat on a floor.

If I catch it early like you I can just sit with head between knees or resting on a table and it passes.

It's not alcohol related for me more blood pressure but it comes on and goes so quickly that despite GP and hospital intervention they havnt found a full reason.

DH was a dick for relating it to the alcohol which may not be the case.