Husband embarrassed when I felt unwell

Tbh, I think your post title should be DP embarrassed when I got drunk and was unwell at a wedding.
Because my personal reaction to my DP doing that would be different to if he was genuinely unwell with something wrong with him.
He was obviously annoyed and possibly didn’t react in the kindest way he could.
However, if my DP got drunk / tipsy on an empty stomach early at a wedding, put his head on a table during the speeches then wanted to sit a quiet room for the rest of the evening after saying he was worried about being sick and passing out, I’d be pretty annoyed tbh.
I don’t think this is the end of the world and I think you’re both wishing you had both behaved differently but it’s not something I would hold on to.

She had 2 bloody glasses of prosecco. She wasn't pissed. Jesus christ

Mn is honestly crazy sometimes.

She was pissed though.

Putting your head down when you've drank too much alcohol really isn't the best thing to do, as when you sit up again it makes you more dizzy.

Exactly.

It seems people just expect women to bear illness and pain to the point of putting everyone else's feelings ahead of their own.

People's attention wouldve been diverted from the speeches to the woman collapsed on the table. He was probably embarrassed and thought it rude of you not to get up if you physically could. The speeches are important to a lot of the people there

You would have been better to just say to him that you felt unwell and needed some air he could then have helped you get our of the room. Putting your head on the table and then asking to be left alone us a but embarrassing and dramatic

Nah, she’d be getting told to LTB as he has a drinking problem nae doot.

Does you husband have form for being overly dramatic?

You felt ill, didn't want to create a scene, did what you could to calmly handle the situation, and he starts making a drama our of it.

Instead of cracking on at the wedding he then makes a fuss because he can't do it without you holding his hand?! I'd be embarrased by his overreaction.

This is unfair. I'm rarely ill but when I have felt ill the need to get my head down or lie down/sit down is paramount, and the thought of having to walk somewhere else would have felt impossible.

OP, what's he like when you're ill at other times? Does he dismiss how you feel?

If someone is feeling faint, the correct thing to do is to put your head down. If OP had tried to leave immediately as people suggest here, there is a good chance that she would have passed out on her way out of the room, which would have been way more dramatic than putting her head down.

I agree. You weren't feeling unwell from a flu or something you ate that you couldn't really control. You had too much to drink on an empty stomach at a big event. That was on you. He didn't have to be so uncaring, but I understand his pov as pp have said.

I’d be embarrassed if my partner suddenly put his head down on the table and stayed there during someone’s wedding speeches. I appreciate you were feeling unwell and didn’t want to get up in case you were sick, but it didn’t look that way to him or anyone else, especially as it was an occasion where the Prosecco was flowing freely. Your partner probably thought, not unreasonably, that you were just tipsy and wanted to avoid a scene. Once he realised otherwise, he should have apologised, but I think you’re being a bit dramatic about all this. It’s done and dusted now. Let it go.

Seriously? Have you never felt like this? I'd be more embarrassed at the prospect of fainting in the middle of the speeches! Sometimes you just have to take the lesser of all the evils, and in this case that was to put her head down and hope it would pass with as little drama and chaos as possible.

You were boozing on an empty stomach. If my DH did that and then stuck his head on the table, I'd be embarrassed and annoyed too.

Having said that, I would've escorted him outside but it sounds as though you refused to go?

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I get it OP, I suffer from fainting spells and I know when you get that clammy, woozy feeling standing up is the worst thing you can do, you feel like you'll faint or hurl everywhere which would definitely have drawn more attention than putting your head down and taking those steadying breaths.

Your husband sounds like a twat. You were very reasonable considering you were unwell, trying to encourage him to rejoin the party and leave you be to chill a bit. Not your fault you were unwell and he doesn't sound very sympathetic at all.

What's he like when he's ill?

I would have been really embarrassed by you putting your head down on the table too. You should have just left at the first sign of feeling unwell, why try and listen to the speeches if you feel that unwell?

How would you have felt if he had put his head on the table?

It's actually better to put legs up and head back. Maybe you could have put your feet on the table instead?

It’s really hard to make good decisions when you are unwell. Especially when you are in public and there are other things to consider.

he is a knob for getting angry about this.

It depends where you were sitting. Somewhere at the back while everyone was watching the speeches, yanbu. On the top table, not so much.

I suffer with anemia and if I stood and tried to leave immediately the speeches would have most certainly been stopped.

Don't give a shit if some snob thinks it's rude.

If you were worried that suddenly getting up and moving around would make you feel worse/you'd collapse then you did the right thing putting your head down. You couldn't help feeling unwell, unless you have form for stealing the spotlight (only kidding!) then your husband was needlessly escalating things to a row.

Yep.

Yeah, bit of a dramatic thing to do during the speeches. I'd be insisting on helping you to leave the room ASP.