Husband embarrassed when I felt unwell

You'd be embarrassed and pissed off if the person you love was so unwell they felt like they'd collapse, so they tried to stop it?

Your poor partner 😔

It was a joke pet. Pull the stick out

Blame the hosts for not serving canapes with drinks, cheapskates.

Rather than the adult who's responsible for what she puts in her own body?

I couldn't be with someone who was embarrassed when I felt unwell.

I have fainting spells, and if I felt unwell at a wedding the last thing I'd do is stand up because that would be an instant faint. If anyone judged me for putting my head down until it passed enough for me to leave, that's disgusting behaviour.

As for the person who is supposed to care about me more than anything else, if they treated me like crap because I was unwell, and acted embarrassed about it - they'd be gone. Your partner should be comforting when you're at your worst, not embarrassed.

Putting your head on the table.

I'd have been embarrassed and pissed off at you too OP

And to pps I'm neither a snob nor sanctimonious. It's just embarrassing

Yes - I would have insisted he leave. Putting your head on the table is very rude.

However, there’s no reason why he couldn’t have left you later when you told him to.

So you were both wrong.

Blame the hosts for not serving canapes with drinks, cheapskates.

Clammy and Pale is a world apart from pissed tbh. And 2 glasses of prosecco plus a full meal and evening food would have no effect, OP said she still felt off all evening so clearly that wasn't her being unable to handle her drink ffs

DP sounds like an arse and more concerned about how he looks than taking care of his loved one, be it one who's taken a funny turn or is pissed up.

Literally no one will remember this by now anyway so forgot the evening but not how he treated you.

Putting your head on the table during the speeches is embarrassing behaviour OP as it's the sort of socially unacceptable thing people do when drunk, not when they're ill. You'd have drawn far less attention quietly asking your H to help you outside that acting in a noticeably odd way, so in his shoes I'd have felt embarrassed. After that I think I'd have either taken you home or if you felt happy alone booked you a taxi. I think it ended up the worst of all worlds with you enduring the event and his friends thinking you were drunk/odd so I'd be frustrated if I were him. I'm probably biased though after one to many events of my own ruined by a partner who despite being an adult never quite seemed to grasp that alcohol had an effect.

It's really worrying that your husband wasn't in the least bit concerned about you. Especially, if by his own admission you "never do this". You were expected to shut up and stop embarrassing him in front of his clearly more important friends.

Sorry but I would be rethinking the marriage if my husband did this. If my husband was close to fainting and acting so unwell I'd be so worried about him. I wouldn't be angry at him or treat him the way your husband did. Nasty.

I highly doubt 2 tiny glasses of prosecco was enough to cause a fainting spell. There's a big difference between feeling tipsy on an empty stomach and almost passing out.

Please. It's 3 units at the absolute most. It doesn't sound like she necked them both in 10 minutes either.

I am not sure how old you are, but I started having episodes like this as I got into my late 30s. I have no idea what they are, it's just something that happens if I don't eat for a long period and I will come over woozy and disorientated. Perhaps low blood sugar or something.

It sounds like your husband didn't believe how unwell you felt. He doesn't sound like a complete bastard, it just sounds like he was lacking empathy.

If you came here for reassurance, so you can feel validated then hopefully we can provide it: This happens, people can feel unwell and I know how it feels to be unable to sit up. You deserved empathy. My husband would have rested my head on his shoulder and been concerned. Sorry you didn't get that on the day you needed it.

I am also sorry some of the posters here are accusing you of being drunk. Having been to many weddings and worked in catering weddings in my younger years, I know the drill: 1 glass of prosecco per person during the drinks reception. 1.5 at a complete push. Another half glass at the table for speeches. You probably only had a couple, and it's obvious you were poorly and not pissed.

Same

And when it's happened to me I've owned it.

But no one is 'drunk' on 2 proseccos so posters need to stop being so sanctimonious.

Utter rubbish.

Plenty of people with low alcohol tolerance would get pissed drinking 2 Proseccos on an empty stomach.

@pootlin I was giving the perspective of the husband/ everyone else at the wedding. That's not my view. And I have gone into anaphylactic shock a few times in public and had to disrupt things and ask for strangers help. I.e definitely 'felt this ill in place with randoms'

I don’t think anyone is being sanctimonious. I’ve certainly been the person to drink on an empty stomach and feel like the op. It’s horrible and as sympathetic as I would be I would also be annoyed.

Yeah I'd be humiliated and pretty mad in his position. You didn't "come over ill " you drank too much then acted like a drunk twat during his friends wedding speeches. If roles were reversed you'd be speaking harshly about your pisshead bloke showing you up in front of friends.

The fact is you felt unwell and he was a dick. It wasn’t like you were pissed up. 2 glasses of cheap wine are probably tiny ones too as wedding always use smaller glasses than you would pour at home, so it was more likely to be just a feeling faint moment. The fact it lasted so long means the alcohol was long gone after all that time and you still felt the same so it was an illness not being pissed but he was a dick with no excuses.

Prosecco can have strange effects. I don't drink it often, but sometimes I'm absolutely fine on a few and sometimes just one goes straight to my head and makes me feel woozy and sick. I can totally see this happening to me and I would have done exactly what OP did for minimum disruption to the speeches, kicking myself while I did it of course. If I had a DH making me feel even worse and more embarrassed I wouldn't be impressed.

But no one is 'drunk' on 2 proseccos so posters need to stop being so sanctimonious.

Tbh, I think your post title should be DP embarrassed when I got drunk and was unwell at a wedding.

Absolutely 👏👏👏

Glad none of you are my friends, Jesus. Not a single sympathy bone amongst you.

My best pal fainted at my wedding, probably because she'd had too much to drink aye, but as I actually like my friends I was just worried about her and made sure she got some water and a packet of crisps down her. The histrionics on this thread over someone feeling unwell and putting her head on a table, and the irony of calling the OP dramatic is hilarious.

Exactly.

Whatever you say.

I get dizzy, clammy spells on a full stomach with zero alcohol. Still wouldn't stand up for fear of falling.

Unwell as a result of too many Proseccos midway through a wedding.

Not exactly shocking. Certainly won't be the first or the last.

But how would I react if my husband overdid the pale ale and lay his head down on the table during the speeches?
A wedding of my friends, that I had been looking forward to.

I probably consider him a bit of a twat.

On an empty stomach.

She was pissed.

OP's wellbeing is more important than some speeches.

She didn't make any noise, the B&G likely didn't notice.

Be thankful you've never felt this ill in place with randoms.