Husband embarrassed when I felt unwell

Wedding size glasses of prosecco would be barely more than 2 bloody big gulps fgs.

She said she was capable of going out the room when she first felt unwell, but she didn't want to miss the speeches.. she chose to stay and get worse, then chose to dramatically refuse any offers of help and make a scene in front of his friends.

I'd not going to lie, I'd have been embarrassed by you OP, it was purely self inflicted because of drinking on an empty stomach, not some mystery illness which would have been different.

You should also either have both left after you didn't feel any better, like he offered, or you should have let him take you home so he could go back. He obviously felt like he couldn't leave you just sitting on your own in a side room while he went off to enjoy the party, but you clearly didn't want to be at the party, so you put him in an awkward position in fairness.

There's no doubt that you ruined it for him, obviously not intentionally but there were a few options which could have saved it after that point, but you decided to be a bit of a martyr instead so I'm not surprised he's annoyed about it all.

I can't use my arms to support my head. Fullstop. So there is that too.

Not generally no.

Just people who mention alcohol, mention not eating much, then mention drinking two glasses of alcohol before laying their head on a table in a room full of wedding guests.

I kind of think you know....why mention the alcohol at all then?

But you crack on and believe who and what you like.

I'd be embarrassed and annoyed with you too.

Walking out the room and potentially fainting would have been the preferable option, as nobody faints on purpose. But putting your head on the table draws attention and is rude.

I'd be pretty pissed with my partner if he made himself feel unwell with alcohol consumption and then slumped with his head down on the table during an important part of my friends wedding party.

It sounds like your sugar levels. I get like this if I don't eat little and often ( also pregnant so it gets worse). When my levels drop I cannot stand, i go pale, clammy and feel sick. You may want to keep some glucose tablets in your bag incase this happens again. And definitely get it checked with the gp. When you drink alcohol your body stops releasing glucose because your liver is processing the alcohol. It can cause a sudden sugar drop. I suspect that is what's happened here. Pair that with not eating enough and I imagine the drop was quite bad. May be worth getting a machine to keep an eye on your levels throughout the day.

Exactly this.

Sorry OP, to most people in the room it probably looked like you were pissed after a couple of proseccos when you put your head on the table and that would have been embarrassing.
I can see why your husband would have been annoyed about that, especially if it's not something you've ever done before and if he was really looking forward to the wedding.
It's unfortunate timing really.

Sorry you are having a bad time of it.
Don't drink on an empty stomach again, particularly not wine.

Except she has said she wasn't drunk.

Do you generally disbelieve women?

I've fainted 3 times in my life.

Did you read that the OP didn't actually faint, so her limbs would've been just grand.

You’ve clearly never fainted, did you know a fainting person loses control of their limbs? You can’t support the head with hand because the hand isn’t functioning, can’t believe I need to explain this.

Yes it's probably better than getting up and fainting in front if everyone but either option would have been embarrassing.

Putting your head down on a table at a wedding is juvenile.

The OP could've been more discreet, even if she put her elbow on the table and lent her head on her palm it wouldn't have been as noticeable.

She had been drinking alcohol on an empty stomach. I dont think a tipsy guest is more important than the speeches.

Not an unusual reaction, I faint quite a lot and I always put my head on the table - it's better than standing up and actually fainting as you can hurt yourself that way. If you put your head on the table it allows you to briefly pass out and potentially not harm yourself.

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Blimey, the knots people will tie themselves into to make something the man's fault is hilarious 🤣

The episode wasn't his fault but his juvenile and uncaring action was entirely on him I can't imagine being with someone who is more concerned about feeling embarrassed than for my well being when I am feeling faint.

The OP wasn't paralytic drunk. She had a couple of drinks that caused a sudden drop in blood pressure. It happens. It's not her fault but his appalling reaction is completely his fault.

I am staggered half the people here have voted you're being unreasonable?? WTF? How is it embarrassing that your partner is unwell? If you actually feel embarrassed about that you need to give your head a wobble. People make such a fuss of weddings like you're not allowed to step a foot out of line. Your husband was a dick OP, it sounds like he cares more about optics than about your wellbeing and that sucks. Anyone who tells you otherwise cares way too much about what other people think.

Imagine if someone had a tonic clonic seizure and were branded an 'embarrassment'?

Well if it was caused by Gin and Tonic it would be embarrassing, yes.

Drinking on an empty stomach is unwise but not the end of the world.

The OP did it, it was embarrassing, her husband was embarrassed.

Not a big deal but she needs to own it instead of getting pissed off at her husband's embarrassment.

OP, I feel you did the best you could under the circumstances. If you’d attempted to stand and leave during the best man’s speech and then collapsed in front of the roomful of guests, people would be posting, “Oh my God! Why didn’t you just put your head on the table and wait for it to pass?” And your husband would be even more embarrassed. Hindsight’s always 20/20.

People are well into their batshittery. The OP has a couple of drinks. They didn't agree with her. Presumably she normally can handle a couple of drinks on an empty stomach.

This was an anomaly where she felt sick. When you get clammy and nauseous it is generally a sudden drop in blood pressure. the right thing is to get your head down low. Standing up at this point will typically result in passing out.
People here seem to think this would be a better course of action.

Passing out can cause an immediate loss of bowel control and/or vomiting.

So the absolute wrong thing to do would be to get and and try and walk.

But the vipers on here think that would have been preferable

He should have comforted you, made sure you were somewhere comfortable and quiet and obviously asked if you wanted to leave. Not in an aggressive way. Like 'pull yourself together!?'. That's not how illness works. Ridiculous. Imagine if someone had a tonic clonic seizure and were branded an 'embarrassment'?
I hope he apologises profusely for being so cold hearted.

Not really. When my BP drops like it sounds like the OP's did I have to put my head between my knees to get blood back there. If I stand up I'd faint.

I doubt 2 tiny glasses of prosecco likely spaced out would cause that level of unwellness.

So you know more than the OP herself?

Blimey, the knots people will tie themselves into to make something the man's fault is hilarious 🤣

For the love of god. The op felt sick. Presumably she doesn't normally feel sick on a couple of glasses so this was an unusual and unpleasant episode. Anyone feeling embarrassed rather than concerned. Is an arse in my opinion