Husband embarrassed when I felt unwell

Can you not read? OP felt ill AFTER she had eaten. She has had a spell like this before when she hadn't drunk any alcohol. She had two glasses of prosecco.

I've also said that it isn't just about the OP, who probably isn't disabled, but about the judgement and the language used towards someone who was ill.

I'm sorry that you can't grasp the very simple concept that being disgusted and embarrassed by someone having a funny turn in public is horrible behaviour.

Shame on you for defending it. And no, people don't pay for training 👍

sounds like a twat to me-whats his problem with going bak in by himself-sounds very image cocnsious

Someone feeling ill through drinking on an empty stomach has no relationship to anything concerning "disability rights". Shame on you if you really peddle this crap to people who are presumably paying for this training?

OP I used to feel like this when I was having panic attacks, I didn't realise what they were at the time but trying to eat seemed to set them off and also social situations. I have fainted a few times due to this. Could it have been something similar?

I had someone on my table at a wedding who suddenly put their head down on the table. Everyone was sympathetic and helpful and no-one appeared to be embarrassed. Turns out she had suddenly had an excrutiating headache. She didn't normally have migraines, but that was obviously what she was suffering from. Someone found a pair of sunglasses for her and she stayed for the meal and speeches (probably gritting her teeth) and then left.

If OH treated me as unsympatherically as OP's I would be mightily p**ed off and would have had a few choice words for him. If he felt this unwell I would be looking after him. Unless someone has form for this kind of behaviour OP's DH was unreasonable.

Yes it is. I'm disabled, and I work with disability rights. I train people in Equality and Diversity. It's ableist.

Because they're both boring and socially awkward 😁

The issue isn't wedding's. It's the people on this thread.

The pettiness and small-minded focus on etiquette on this thread, as opposed to someone's health has reminded me how much I dislike (most) weddings

Why on earth do people need to get drunk at weddings??

Has anyone on this thread ever been lightheaded or fainted before? You quite often cannot move before you pass out. I am a fainter and my legs turn to jelly before I go. OP was just trying to avoid creating more disruption by staying put.

You were unwell, what could you do. You could have passed out. It prob didn't look great, but you didn't do it on purpose. Everyone who's passed out or been close to it, knows how horrible that feels. He could have shown some empathy.

I said the act of being disgusted/embarrassed/mortified/whatever other ugly words you want to put there, about someone who has come over ill, is ableism. Because it is
God almighty! It is not!

He was unhelpful and YANBU.

Is he normally like this around you if you’re ill?

As a fainter I get the urge to put your head down but would probably have left the room at the first sign of feeling unwell. To be honest, I would rather someone put their head on the table than spewed on it BUT if it was my DH I would probably have been mortified. It's a no win situation. Nobody knows what they would do until it happens to them.

100% agree with this.

What am I making up? Do tell.

I would have thought you getting up to go out and risking collapsing would be even more disruptive especially during the speeches and I can definitely get how drinking on an empty stomach can cause you to become clammy and feel nauseous. If he is embarrassed rather than concerned about your health that says more about him than you. As for the refusing to go back and leave you to recover in peace because you need to be there "as a couple" I think quite clearly that is ridiculous.

I would have been more embarrassed at him having to stop the taxi to get out and vomit on the way home. As you say with events like this where you get plied with drink but food takes a while to come out it is best to either eat beforehand or just refuse the drinks or wait until the food comes out to start drinking.

I didn't say it was, "the definition" of ableism. I said the act of being disgusted/embarrassed/mortified/whatever other ugly words you want to put there, about someone who has come over ill, is ableism. Because it is. As someone upthread has pointed out, people with illnesses such as diabetes, epilepsy, POTS etc often feel suddenly ill and have to take actions such as putting their head down. Why would someone be disgusted by that? It's bizarre behaviour.

Oh god, sorry, I read it wrong 😂

Judging someone you don't know for taking an action to protect themselves, that doesn't harm anyone else? That is ableism 👍

Ah, come on, you're just making stuff up now.

No, that is not the definition of ableism. It really isn't.

I'm very far from an etiquette book wielding pearl clutcher. If you could only see me! I'm actually just being realistic. There are a lot of people on Mumsnet who aren't realistic. Their children always eat curley kale, their MIL's are always bitches, their teenage sons always whip the hoover out. Unfortunately life isn't like that and sometimes, just sometimes people get embarrassed. I really defy anyone who says they have categorically never, in their entire lives, been affected by what other people/society/their parents/their employers/their mates think of them. Never to have known that feeling is to be a robot and not human.