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To not send my child to nursery at all?

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Nilin · 05/04/2024 05:17

Our childcare is currently covered by DH and I both working part time, plus grandparents.
We had intended to send our DC to nursery in January 2025, at age 3, for 2-3 days a week.
We have been trying since January to find her a nursery place thinking a year's notice would be enough- we were very wrong!
A lot of nurseries reported no places until 2026, only taking full-time, etc etc.
There are about 8 nurseries within a 30 minute walking distance and they are all a no, so had to widen search to one we could drive to.
We have had just one offer us a viewing- it's hard though as obviously I feel obliged to take it as we don't have another choice! It's going to be really awkward though when we work from home and commute by public transport when we do go in, to then get her in the car to get to nursery to then drive home and then head into work.
I did want DC to be able to socialise and make friends, but I'm now wondering if there would be any harm in just continuing our current arrangement until she goes to school? We go on lots of days out but we don't really meet up with children the same age. I could make more of an effort to attend a local playgroup regularly though so she is seeing the same people. I'm just keen to do right by her really.

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lifesrichpageant · 05/04/2024 05:26

Very overrated and not necessary imo. It is not the norm in many countries. I put my 3 yo in nursery due to peer/social pressure and then regretted it. Ended up pulling him out. He was fine once school started.

Stressedoutforever · 05/04/2024 05:22

Have you looked at pre school as well as nurseries? But I think if it works then why change it! My boys love nursery, but we have a friend who's little girl doesn't go for allergy reasons and that is little girl is leaps and bounds ahead of my two in everything so I don't think nurseries are the most important thing for child development!

haveyoutriedturningitoffandonagain · 05/04/2024 05:22

We go on lots of days out but we don't really meet up with children the same age

This is key to me. I would go to playgroup regularly if you're planning on sending her to school or it's going to be a massive shock.

Have you looked at childminders?