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AIBU to buy the necklace?

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Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 13:28

A jewellery shop local to me closed down late last year. There was a gorgeous necklace in the window that I’d been looking at for ages, but I didn’t buy it. It was really unique looking and Ive never seen another like it. But at the time, I didn’t think I could justify spending that much on myself.
Since the shop has shut I’ve had major regret about not buying it. So much so that I started googling and looking around for another necklace similar, when lo and behold, I’ve found the exact necklace on eBay! I did some searching around on sold catalogs for auction houses and it looks like the shop sold off some of its stock since they were shutting down, and it’s ended up with another seller who has put it on eBay.
However, it’s £300. I’m currently on maternity leave, so things are tight at the moment.
I have savings I’ve been keeping for clothes and makeup, but I feel guilty spending that amount in one go. However, I know I’ll be so sad if someone else buys it! It’s the sort of item I’d keep forever (18k gold).
I feel like I’ve been give a second chance to buy it!

Would I be unreasonable to buy it?? Help!

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blueandwhitesquares · 04/04/2024 15:36

Good luck

cellfish · 04/04/2024 15:36

Just buy it.

Concannon88 · 04/04/2024 15:36

@Weetabixagain you didn't buy it at 250 but want to now at 300? If you want it go for it. Also you can still message and make an offer, my dad sells antiques and jewelery and will accept emails with offers sometimes if he's skint or wants rid of it. Helps to be polite.

VerityUnreasonble · 04/04/2024 15:32

Buy it.

Life is short. Money comes and goes.

If it's not going to leave you destitute, then just buy it.

If you wear it every day for a year it will have cost you less than £1 a day.

If you keep it 10 years it's less than 10p a day for a something that will bring you joy for all that time.

krustykittens · 04/04/2024 15:26

I saw a necklace two years ago that I fell in love with (I used to visit it when it lived in the window) but like you, I felt I could not spend the money at the time. I regret it now and have spent two years searching for one just like it and have not come close. So I am in the buy it camp!

Fairyliz · 04/04/2024 15:07

Will you have 6 months of savings to cover essential costs when you go back from maternity leave?
If not don’t buy it. What if you/your partner loses their job? I think any money worries would more than cancel out joy from owning a necklace.

BrokenWing · 04/04/2024 15:05

£300 is not a lot of money for an 18ct necklace so sound like a steal! (unless it is plated then I would reconsider if it is indeed a forever piece or an over priced designer)

I would also think seriously if you really want it (if you did why didn't you buy while on sale) or if it is now just because you thought you couldn't have it that it seems more desirable.

But if you you can afford it, why not!

FlipCharter · 04/04/2024 15:03

Buy it!! You liked it enough to go searching for it after you thought it had gone. You will not regret getting it. That money could be spent on bits and pieces that you will have got rid of and forgotten in 5 years, or it could be spent on this which you will still be wearing after 30 years.

This is also the kind of thing that holds its value. So if you ever want to resell, you should get a good price.

P.S. hope they accept your £250 offer!

GasPanic · 04/04/2024 15:01

How much gold is in it ?

Compared with buying say furniture it is probably a good deal, because it probably has some half decent scrap value. And also the value of gold goes up over time mostly (at least over a long time period) so at some point in the future it will probably be worth more than you pay for it unless the amount of gold in it is much much less than the price you are paying. The same probably won't be true for something like clothes (unless they are very expensive designer ones).

jazzybelle · 04/04/2024 14:49

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 14:27

I’ve just done a search to match that criteria and I’m guessing you’re looking a shrimp necklace? 😂 if you are, no it’s not that one. Not to my taste 😆 It’s hilarious though. Whoever buys that, I want to be their friend.

Buy it and then post a pic. We all want to see it now!

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 14:49

Thanks all! I’ve send a message to the seller offering £250! I’ll report back when I get a reply 😆

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Toddlerteaplease · 04/04/2024 14:48

Do it. I looked at a ring in a jewellers, every time I walked past for 15 years. I decided to go ahead and buy it when the shop closed down, and it had gone. I've always regretted it.

LenaLamont · 04/04/2024 14:47

Buy it, wrap it up, and give it to yourself for your birthday/Christmas.

I did that with something I'd wanted for years, and it was definitely the right decision. I love it every single time I look at it. It also gave me something to look forward to (unwrapping it for my birthday 4 months later).

notanoxfordcomma · 04/04/2024 14:46

Please buy it. Life is too short for regret, and too long to not be surrounded by things that being us joy.

Also please do it now so that you can show us a photo, I'm nosey and impatient Grin

Luddite26 · 04/04/2024 14:43

Buy it. It's actually not a massive amount of money for something that will last forever. In the context that you are not stoney broke. Obviously £300 is a lot of money in some circumstances. Reward yourself.

neverbeenskiing · 04/04/2024 14:39

Do it! If men had the babies do you think they'd feel guilty for treating themselves on maternity leave? Would they bollocks!

Librarybooker · 04/04/2024 14:38

If there are no bids watch and see if you get a private offer

DollyBantry · 04/04/2024 14:38

Buy it! I just splurged on some beautiful earrings that I had been coveting for aaaages and always thought “nope, I shouldn’t, I mustn’t …”
They are honestly making me so happy just wearing them and seeing them in the mirror as I pass by, my kids have actually noticed them and complimented me on them (amazing!) so it’s totally worth not having a few other treats for a few months just to justify the splurge.
Go for it!

noctilucentcloud · 04/04/2024 14:37

I agree with others who've suggested buying it now and asking if it can be a birthday/christmas/both present from one or more people. That might ease your guilt? (Which I also get, but if you can afford it and love it and will use it then I think there's nothing wrong with buying it for yourself)

timefornewme2023 · 04/04/2024 14:33

Buy the necklace !

its2024 · 04/04/2024 14:30

@Weetabixagain yep it's the shrimp but I missed you said 18k gold. Cant believe that one has 28 watches, perhaps they watching thinking who the hell would buy that

LadyKenya · 04/04/2024 14:30

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 14:09

I technically can afford it, it just feels very extravagant for someone on maternity leave 😂 if I was at work I’d probably just buy it.

To answer your question, I had walked past it dozens of times and I was always drawn to it. That and I’m massively stubborn and was really annoyed at myself the first time round for missing the chance to buy it.

You risk missing the chance a second time, if you don't get a move on.

Ladyprehensile · 04/04/2024 14:28

Buy it.

In years to come you will look at it and think of it as a gift to yourself for carrying and birthing your baby.

A lovely reminder of a special time of life. Life’s too short for regrets.

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 14:27

its2024 · 04/04/2024 14:16

I must admit I'm a nosy bugger and just looked at eBay for necklaces going for £300 with no best offer. Couldn't guess which one it is but there's a interesting green one with 28 watchers, if it's that one it's certainly unique, and I don't think it's that one but if it is YABU

I’ve just done a search to match that criteria and I’m guessing you’re looking a shrimp necklace? 😂 if you are, no it’s not that one. Not to my taste 😆 It’s hilarious though. Whoever buys that, I want to be their friend.

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Prinnny · 04/04/2024 14:25

What’s that saying..never give up something you can’t go a day without thinking of..

I’d email the seller asking if they’ll take £250, shy bairns get nowt, if they say no just buy it anyway!

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