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Weetabixagain · 2024-04-04T12:28:43+00:00

A jewellery shop local to me closed down late last year. There was a gorgeous necklace in the window that I’d been looking at for ages, but I didn’t buy it. It was really unique looking and Ive never seen another like it. But at the time, I didn’t think I could justify spending that much on myself. Since the shop has shut I’ve had major regret about not buying it. So much so that I started googling and looking around for another necklace similar, when lo and behold, I’ve found the exact necklace on eBay! I did some searching around on sold catalogs for auction houses and it looks like the shop sold off some of its stock since they were shutting down, and it’s ended up with another seller who has put it on eBay. However, it’s £300. I’m currently on maternity leave, so things are tight at the moment. I have savings I’ve been keeping for clothes and makeup, but I feel guilty spending that amount in one go. However, I know I’ll be so sad if someone else buys it! It’s the sort of item I’d keep forever (18k gold). I feel like I’ve been give a second chance to buy it! Would I be unreasonable to buy it?? Help!

LuluBlakey1 · 04/04/2024 19:15

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 13:56

Thanks all!
To answer a few questions, it was £250 in the shop (closing down sale price), but I like it so much I’m willing to pay the additional £50.
It’s ‘but it now’ and unfortunately, the seller doesn’t give the option to make an offer.
I don’t want to put a photo on just in case someone on here likes it too and buys it 😂that alone tells me I should just go for it.
I can’t tell how long the eBay listing has been up, but it was sold by the auction house in January.
The guilt is real though, maternity leave is an expensive time, there’s always something else to be buying/ spending money on! And £300 is a lot of money for me.
Buuut I think you are all convincing me of what to do 😂

Make an offer anyway. Contact them and offer £240 then you can move up in £10s.

Trez1510 · 04/04/2024 19:15

Cherrysoup · 04/04/2024 14:19

Buy it. I massively regret not buying a beautiful carved bed because we didn’t need it, but could have sold our then bed. Still regret it 25 years later!

I agree.

I failed to buy a cat sculpture (I don't even like cats!) also about 25 years ago when I saw it in Debenhams.

It's still there, in my mind, and I often think it would lovely in this corner, or on that unit, just to finish off a room.

Buy it before someone else does and it's gone forever!

Evaka · 04/04/2024 19:14

I really need you to buy it! Get all the other stuff you need on Ebay and vinted to keep the universe in balance. I promised it will bring you joy x

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 04/04/2024 19:10

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 14:09

I technically can afford it, it just feels very extravagant for someone on maternity leave 😂 if I was at work I’d probably just buy it.

To answer your question, I had walked past it dozens of times and I was always drawn to it. That and I’m massively stubborn and was really annoyed at myself the first time round for missing the chance to buy it.

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I often think (and am proved to myself) that if you're thinking about it so much then it's a sign from the universe (or your bank or credit card!) to buy it.

If it's something that will give you joy whenever you wear it, then buy it. I often think that if I buy something extravagant - if I wear it a lot then I x (times) the amount of times I could/would wear it and if it evens out then I get it.

Mostlyoblivious · 04/04/2024 19:10

There was a one of a kind ring I wanted as an engagement / wedding ring and decided against it and regretted it. A year later on a whim I checked eBay and it was there! I made an offer and I now own the ring that I really regretted not getting!
Buy the necklace!

BreathingDeep · 04/04/2024 19:09

Overinvested in this now - please make sure you update us OP! Some things are just meant to be ours... you can't argue with destiny!

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 04/04/2024 19:06

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 13:56

Thanks all!
To answer a few questions, it was £250 in the shop (closing down sale price), but I like it so much I’m willing to pay the additional £50.
It’s ‘but it now’ and unfortunately, the seller doesn’t give the option to make an offer.
I don’t want to put a photo on just in case someone on here likes it too and buys it 😂that alone tells me I should just go for it.
I can’t tell how long the eBay listing has been up, but it was sold by the auction house in January.
The guilt is real though, maternity leave is an expensive time, there’s always something else to be buying/ spending money on! And £300 is a lot of money for me.
Buuut I think you are all convincing me of what to do 😂

Email the seller and say you like it and explain the situation. Either they'll sell it to you for less or they won't.

And if you need to justify it yourself think of it as a future (maybe) present to your baby (if it's a girl!).

Antibetty · 04/04/2024 19:02

The Universe is sending you a message - there is no such thing as coincidence. It is meant for you.

oakleaffy · 04/04/2024 18:09

viques · 04/04/2024 18:06

When Liberty shoe department first opened I was mooching through and there was a pair of the palest lavender slip on pixie( as in fairy pixie) Chloe ankle boots in the softest of soft suede. The sort of boots that you can almost guarantee that on the first day you wore them it would rain, or you would step in a dead pizza or something. They weren’t really boots for wearing, they were boots for putting on a shelf and stroking, but I wouldn’t have had the willpower. And if I had bought them I would have ruined them, worn them to death, but I would have loved them til the end.

What a wonderful post! Liberty's is lovely - I know just the kind of boot you mean, Just for stroking.
I can imagine the smell of them as well, that sweetish new suede scent.
They would have had to have been house shoes only.

viques · 04/04/2024 18:06

When Liberty shoe department first opened I was mooching through and there was a pair of the palest lavender slip on pixie( as in fairy pixie) Chloe ankle boots in the softest of soft suede. The sort of boots that you can almost guarantee that on the first day you wore them it would rain, or you would step in a dead pizza or something. They weren’t really boots for wearing, they were boots for putting on a shelf and stroking, but I wouldn’t have had the willpower. And if I had bought them I would have ruined them, worn them to death, but I would have loved them til the end.

SeamsLegit · 04/04/2024 18:06

Buy it! A wee investment to celebrate this pregnancy 🩷 then show us, I NEEEEED to see it

TempersFuggit · 04/04/2024 18:02

Have you done an image search on google to see if it's stocked anywhere else? It may be something that is in stock all year round on another website and then you don't have to rush into it?
Do you have access to other funds if you needed an emergency three hundred quid in the future? If so, I would definitely go for it.

oakleaffy · 04/04/2024 18:01

@Weetabixagain I desperately wanted a large beautifully carved rocking horse {Antique}
I bought one -many years have passed, and I still get daily pleasure out of looking at him- I never had one as a child, and desperately wanted one.
My excuse ? ''It's never too late to have a happy childhood'' - his old owners were lovely.

Beaverbridge · 04/04/2024 17:57

Buy it, life's too short etc.

MrsMitford3 · 04/04/2024 17:45

A small local jeweller was closing down after 50 years and had a beautiful pair of pear earrings that I coveted.
Everything was 50% off.

I told DH as he was at a loss for what to get me for Christmas.
He went by the shop for a week but it was closed.
We assumed the closing down sale was complete.

The next day I walked by and it was open again-the gentleman owner had been poorly.

I never wanted something so much until I couldn't have them.
I bought them then and there and relieved him of the stress!

Enjoy the necklace @Weetabixagain

Lovemusic82 · 04/04/2024 17:45

I hope you manage to get it. I would look at it as a gift for yourself for going through birthing a child. I’ve just bought myself a pair of earrings after going through surgery, they were a gift for myself and I feel it’s justified 😁.

Whatifthehokeycokey · 04/04/2024 17:43

If it's not going to put you in debt or make you feel guilty, but rather is going to bring you joy, do it.

Goodadvice1980 · 04/04/2024 17:39

Oh crikey! This is bringing back memories of the house I regret not buying in the 1990’s 😂🏠

Whatwouldnanado · 04/04/2024 17:38

It’s less than a pound a day for a year’s wear. Go for it and enjoy wearing it, don’t keep it for best.

RogueFemale · 04/04/2024 17:13

@Weetabixagain I can’t tell how long the eBay listing has been up, but it was sold by the auction house in January.

If you do a very specific search for the item and sort by 'newest first' it'll give the date the listing started.

PossumintheHouse · 04/04/2024 17:12

Pieceofpurplesky · 04/04/2024 17:08

It's the hologram pendant of Yoda isn't it OP? 🤣

300 quid for THAT. And it's only 'small'. 😂

thesleepyhoglet · 04/04/2024 17:12

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 13:56

Thanks all!
To answer a few questions, it was £250 in the shop (closing down sale price), but I like it so much I’m willing to pay the additional £50.
It’s ‘but it now’ and unfortunately, the seller doesn’t give the option to make an offer.
I don’t want to put a photo on just in case someone on here likes it too and buys it 😂that alone tells me I should just go for it.
I can’t tell how long the eBay listing has been up, but it was sold by the auction house in January.
The guilt is real though, maternity leave is an expensive time, there’s always something else to be buying/ spending money on! And £300 is a lot of money for me.
Buuut I think you are all convincing me of what to do 😂

Message the seller directly and explain you'd like to buy for £250

dottiedodah · 04/04/2024 17:09

I would most certainly buy it .Every time you see it, it will remind you of your baby.Think of it as a maternity gift to you from you!

Pieceofpurplesky · 04/04/2024 17:08

It's the hologram pendant of Yoda isn't it OP? 🤣

BusyCaz · 04/04/2024 16:58

I have had a look and think I know which it is, does it have a pearl? If it is it's beautiful, good luck on the offer x