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AIBU to buy the necklace?

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Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 13:28

A jewellery shop local to me closed down late last year. There was a gorgeous necklace in the window that I’d been looking at for ages, but I didn’t buy it. It was really unique looking and Ive never seen another like it. But at the time, I didn’t think I could justify spending that much on myself.
Since the shop has shut I’ve had major regret about not buying it. So much so that I started googling and looking around for another necklace similar, when lo and behold, I’ve found the exact necklace on eBay! I did some searching around on sold catalogs for auction houses and it looks like the shop sold off some of its stock since they were shutting down, and it’s ended up with another seller who has put it on eBay.
However, it’s £300. I’m currently on maternity leave, so things are tight at the moment.
I have savings I’ve been keeping for clothes and makeup, but I feel guilty spending that amount in one go. However, I know I’ll be so sad if someone else buys it! It’s the sort of item I’d keep forever (18k gold).
I feel like I’ve been give a second chance to buy it!

Would I be unreasonable to buy it?? Help!

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abbey44 · 04/04/2024 21:07

That’s a beautiful ring! I’m so glad you managed to find it after losing out the first time. Finding it on eBay must’ve been the universe giving you a second chance - you were clearly meant to be reunited with it. I love the PP who said it was you, your DH and the baby bump 💕

BillieTheFish · 04/04/2024 21:07

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 20:38

Yes! Diamonds and 18k gold band.
I have no intention of selling it, but it’s nice to think I’d probably get my money back if I ever needed to.
I honestly feel so relieved that I’ve ordered it 😂

What is the stone, is it coral?

VerityUnreasonble · 04/04/2024 20:58

Oh yay! So pleased you bought it, it's lovely. It's even better it's a ring because you can wear multiple rings much more easily than multiple necklaces so you'll get more wear too!

Also, I don't mind the fudging of the details because if you hadn't I would never have searched ebay for either a £300 shrimp or yoda necklace and my life would have been a little less interesting today.

PossumintheHouse · 04/04/2024 20:52

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 20:22

Wow, lots of replies and pretty much unanimous 😂
The seller got back to me and agreed to let it go for £260! I’ve bought it!
I have a confession though, it was a ring not a necklace. I was super paranoid someone would find it and buy it! Sorry anyone who went looking on EBay, you were on wild goose chase. The rest of the story is true though!
I’m a bit nervous to share the photo, to most people it’s probably not that exciting looking, so don’t be too disappointed… 😂 however, I really love it and the photos don’t do it justice. In real life it’s gorgeous. Anything I’ve found similar is either far more expensive or not quite what I was looking for.

You dirty dog. I knew you'd changed the details! I thought it would be the price, but never mind. Well done, enjoy it.

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 20:50

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 04/04/2024 20:38

Aw I am so pleased for you !

it's a baby bump ring :) you, daddy and bump in the middle - it was meant to be.

Ohh you’re right - that’s so cute! Even more pleased I’ve bough it now!

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nononocontact · 04/04/2024 20:47

Nothing haunts you like the things you don’t buy. Buy it asap, and enjoy wearing it!

K0OLA1D · 04/04/2024 20:39

Love that op.

I did have a little hunt on Ebay 😄 not to buy it though!

So pleased you got it

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 04/04/2024 20:38

Aw I am so pleased for you !

it's a baby bump ring :) you, daddy and bump in the middle - it was meant to be.

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 20:38

Hoppitybobbins · 04/04/2024 20:31

If those stones are diamonds and the band is gold then that’s a great investment

Yes! Diamonds and 18k gold band.
I have no intention of selling it, but it’s nice to think I’d probably get my money back if I ever needed to.
I honestly feel so relieved that I’ve ordered it 😂

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JaceLancs · 04/04/2024 20:31

So pleased you bought it - you won’t regret it!

Hoppitybobbins · 04/04/2024 20:31

If those stones are diamonds and the band is gold then that’s a great investment

Butterflyfluff · 04/04/2024 20:28

So pleased you bought it!

That looks every bit worth £260 if those are diamonds too!

Flopsy145 · 04/04/2024 20:27

It's lovely, and a very unique stone! Sometimes jewellery just calls to us 💚 that will be a lovely ring for life and will probably become heirloom if you have daughters or nieces.

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 20:22

Wow, lots of replies and pretty much unanimous 😂
The seller got back to me and agreed to let it go for £260! I’ve bought it!
I have a confession though, it was a ring not a necklace. I was super paranoid someone would find it and buy it! Sorry anyone who went looking on EBay, you were on wild goose chase. The rest of the story is true though!
I’m a bit nervous to share the photo, to most people it’s probably not that exciting looking, so don’t be too disappointed… 😂 however, I really love it and the photos don’t do it justice. In real life it’s gorgeous. Anything I’ve found similar is either far more expensive or not quite what I was looking for.

AIBU to buy the necklace?
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CantBelieveNaive · 04/04/2024 20:18

Did you buy it yet?? 😜

allthevitamins · 04/04/2024 19:44

I still regret not buying a really beautiful and unusual ring for about the same amount when we were on honeymoon nearly 20 years ago.

Just buy it and love it!

froggybiby · 04/04/2024 19:34

Depending how much money you have saved, I'd go for it. On ebay -which I didn't realise until recently- when saving items in watched items...the seller can then send you offers for the item.

FloatyBoaty · 04/04/2024 19:30

Yeah buy it.

I still think about a pair of leather lace front knee boots (sort of pirate-ish, but lovely) in my exact half size, last in the shop in the sale, that I didn’t buy 20 years ago. Regret it to this day. I feel like the whole course of my life might have been different if I bought them 😭😅

Mnk711 · 04/04/2024 19:25

We always regret the things we didn't do more than the things we did. Buy it!

Lavenderandbrown · 04/04/2024 19:25

Buy it. Just had a baby? It can be a “push present “ to yourself. Also the years ahead will be full of money spent on someone else. Treat yourself this time. May be handed down to this baby someday. Wear clothes you own and dig out some old makeup from under the sink or beg and borrow from friends for a bit to mentally make up for the $$.

caringcarer · 04/04/2024 19:24

Click on watch. Leave it for a few days and many shops offer you a discount.

GreyCarpet · 04/04/2024 19:24

In the circumstances you describe, I would buy it.

It's not a whim, it's something you really want.

The decision making process I employ when faced with similar decisions is this.

What will you regret most in 6 months time? Having bought it or having not bought it?

And, if the worst comes to the worst, you can always resell it in the exact same way that you bought it.

Simplelobsterhat · 04/04/2024 19:22

Do you have a birthday or anniversary coming up on the next few months? If so I'd be asking DH if it (or part of the cost) could be an early present. That's what I sometimes do if I want something that feels too extravagant - feel less guilty if it's a present!

Rosscameasdoody · 04/04/2024 19:20

Expensive items of jewellery tend to be slow to sell on eBay. If it’s £300 that suggests a buy it now item, or do you mean it’s been bid up to that price ? If buy it now, does the listing have an option to make the seller an offer ? If so try that first. If not, then you could also look at the listing to see how long it’s been on, how many ‘watchers’ there are and whether this is the first attempt to sell it, or if it’s been relisted. If it looks as though there hasn’t been much interest try messaging the seller and ask if they would be prepared to consider a lower price for a quicker sale. If they agree and relist with a lower price you need to get in fast before someone else does. Ultimately it depends on how badly you want it and if you can scrimp to afford it. Good luck whatever you decide.

saturnspinkhoop · 04/04/2024 19:16

Voting has closed now, but I agree with others- you can afford it, so get it. Sometimes we see items and like them, go away and think about it, and decide they weren’t for us after all. You’ve a done the thinking and gone looking for it. You clearly really want it and it sounds like you can afford it, so get it.
Then post a picture of it. 😊