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AIBU to buy the necklace?

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Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 13:28

A jewellery shop local to me closed down late last year. There was a gorgeous necklace in the window that I’d been looking at for ages, but I didn’t buy it. It was really unique looking and Ive never seen another like it. But at the time, I didn’t think I could justify spending that much on myself.
Since the shop has shut I’ve had major regret about not buying it. So much so that I started googling and looking around for another necklace similar, when lo and behold, I’ve found the exact necklace on eBay! I did some searching around on sold catalogs for auction houses and it looks like the shop sold off some of its stock since they were shutting down, and it’s ended up with another seller who has put it on eBay.
However, it’s £300. I’m currently on maternity leave, so things are tight at the moment.
I have savings I’ve been keeping for clothes and makeup, but I feel guilty spending that amount in one go. However, I know I’ll be so sad if someone else buys it! It’s the sort of item I’d keep forever (18k gold).
I feel like I’ve been give a second chance to buy it!

Would I be unreasonable to buy it?? Help!

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Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 06/04/2024 08:53

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 06/04/2024 08:04

I regret not buying a ring from an independent jewellers in 2019 and i still think about it.

I regret buying some diamond stud earrings from a very good young independent jeweller who then moved business. I did get a nice engraved ID bracelet in gold for my 21st birthday from there though and a diamond pendant. The earrings were such a good price and well made though.

(I’ve got diamond screw back studs now, don’t wear them much as don’t like colour of them).

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 06/04/2024 08:50

SpiritOfEcstasy · 05/04/2024 18:11

I am a shameless buyer of fancy shoes 🤦🏼‍♀️ I don’t even try to justify them anymore … they’re just my weakness! I have a cull every so often and give them to friends or donate them so the joy carries through. I think your new piece of jewellery is fab. I hope you have years of enjoyment wearing it 💖

I bought recently some vintage shoes in a vintage clothes shop, probably 1950s, French, a very very pale almost white blue and very delicate trim with a delicate heel, look hardly worn! Not sure I’d ever wear them but they’re so pretty.

My dream is to find shoes from the 1920s which I’ve seen described in a novel I’ve read where they have a jewelled heel. Novel is called Taking Chances by Molly Keane (M J Farrell). She describes clothes in all her novels in a wonderful way but especially in that book.

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 06/04/2024 08:04

I regret not buying a ring from an independent jewellers in 2019 and i still think about it.

Grooveon8 · 06/04/2024 08:03

Get it Gold always goes up in value and if you love it I’d say treat yourself you’ve just had a baby 😊

Nanaof1 · 06/04/2024 07:48

@Weetabixagain I think it's a lovely ring! Congratulations! Edited, since you did mention what stone it is. I would not have guessed coral. So pretty!

Clafoutie · 05/04/2024 23:50

pollymere · 05/04/2024 20:15

Sometimes these things are important to remember that you are your own person. Not a Mum or a Wife. I have a very expensive piece of jewellery that I bought when my DH reminded me I didn't need permission to buy things and that I shouldn't wait to have it for an anniversary gift but buy it for this reason.

Great post, I love this.

Newmum110 · 05/04/2024 20:31

Absolutely love that ring, worth every penny

pollymere · 05/04/2024 20:15

Sometimes these things are important to remember that you are your own person. Not a Mum or a Wife. I have a very expensive piece of jewellery that I bought when my DH reminded me I didn't need permission to buy things and that I shouldn't wait to have it for an anniversary gift but buy it for this reason.

ShoesShoesShoesAndMaybeMoreShoes · 05/04/2024 18:50

Oh I posted too soon. Re saving for best, I was just going to say I LOVE shoes and always bought my "good" shoes on the basis of every day wear, rather than saving for best (to also justify cost per wear Grin)

Now I have a disease/disability that means I can't walk unaided anymore, let alone wear heels. I am currently lying on my bed wearing purple PJs and my nude Bianca Louboutins Grin (my DH helps me put on/take off) and I am getting great pleasure from admiring them even lying down. My DDs borrow (and will inherit) all my shoes and I've told them not to worry about scuffs etc as they are there to be worn not wasted.

I'm so glad you bought the ring! My toe nails are also painted coral!

ShoesShoesShoesAndMaybeMoreShoes · 05/04/2024 18:41

Lovely ring! Congratulations on all countsSmile I totally agree with @Pipsquiggle, wear it all the time and don't "save it for best"!

Teledeluxe · 05/04/2024 18:36

If you’ve wanted it for so long it wouldn’t be an impulse purchase that you might regret. You could always sell it if you change your mind.

godmum56 · 05/04/2024 18:34

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers · 05/04/2024 18:30

We need a photo please!

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ZombiesAreClammyDodgers · 05/04/2024 18:30

We need a photo please!

Toptops · 05/04/2024 18:20

Buy it!

SpiritOfEcstasy · 05/04/2024 18:11

I am a shameless buyer of fancy shoes 🤦🏼‍♀️ I don’t even try to justify them anymore … they’re just my weakness! I have a cull every so often and give them to friends or donate them so the joy carries through. I think your new piece of jewellery is fab. I hope you have years of enjoyment wearing it 💖

godmum56 · 05/04/2024 15:02

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 20:22

Wow, lots of replies and pretty much unanimous 😂
The seller got back to me and agreed to let it go for £260! I’ve bought it!
I have a confession though, it was a ring not a necklace. I was super paranoid someone would find it and buy it! Sorry anyone who went looking on EBay, you were on wild goose chase. The rest of the story is true though!
I’m a bit nervous to share the photo, to most people it’s probably not that exciting looking, so don’t be too disappointed… 😂 however, I really love it and the photos don’t do it justice. In real life it’s gorgeous. Anything I’ve found similar is either far more expensive or not quite what I was looking for.

yay!!!! really really delighted to hear it

Fireangels · 05/04/2024 10:59

It’s lovely, and will always remind you of when you had your baby. I have a ring from each of the births of my babies. When I had my eldest daughter my husband gave me a ring with aquamarine stones. That daughter gets married this year and it will be her ‘something borrowed/blue’ on her wedding day 💕

Pipsquiggle · 05/04/2024 10:41

Lovely. Well done.

Wear it all the time - don't just use it 'for best.' Your price per wear will be paid back with a few months.

notanoxfordcomma · 05/04/2024 10:35

Ahhh I am so pleased for you OP! Enjoy that beautiful ring and the rest of your mat leave!!

MarmiteRoasties · 05/04/2024 10:29

LadyPoison · 05/04/2024 09:56

Some species are endangered and cannot be legally imported into the UK. However, unlike ivory, there is no restriction on the sake and purchase of coral products within the UK.

Should you buy coral? I don’t buy new coral to use in jewellery but I do buy secondhand jewellery to take apart and re-use the beads. It goes really well with pearls and I’d rather reuse a broken necklace than have it end up in landfill. I consider waste to be more unethical.

It’s a very pretty ring

Thank you: it was a genuine query as you don’t see much of it about anymore. So I was curious and appreciate your taking the time to answer 🙏🏻

dottydodah · 05/04/2024 10:24

Daffodilsandtulips I got £30 .00 for a broken gold chain!

CurlewKate · 05/04/2024 10:08

Buy it- then post a picture.

LadyPoison · 05/04/2024 09:56

MarmiteRoasties · 05/04/2024 08:16

Is coral ethical?

Some species are endangered and cannot be legally imported into the UK. However, unlike ivory, there is no restriction on the sake and purchase of coral products within the UK.

Should you buy coral? I don’t buy new coral to use in jewellery but I do buy secondhand jewellery to take apart and re-use the beads. It goes really well with pearls and I’d rather reuse a broken necklace than have it end up in landfill. I consider waste to be more unethical.

It’s a very pretty ring

WeMeetInFairIthilien · 05/04/2024 09:08

It is a beautiful ring. I have something similar, but with two smaller coral stones.

Do be aware that coral needs to be carefully looked after. No hot water, hand lotion, you can't ultrasonically clean it. Keep the ring out of direct sunlight when not being worn

That being said, I have a coral pendant that is over 150 years old that is still is lovely condition.

BirthdayRainbow · 05/04/2024 08:43

Don't rain on her parade. She's happy with the £800 she got.