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AIBU to buy the necklace?

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Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 13:28

A jewellery shop local to me closed down late last year. There was a gorgeous necklace in the window that I’d been looking at for ages, but I didn’t buy it. It was really unique looking and Ive never seen another like it. But at the time, I didn’t think I could justify spending that much on myself.
Since the shop has shut I’ve had major regret about not buying it. So much so that I started googling and looking around for another necklace similar, when lo and behold, I’ve found the exact necklace on eBay! I did some searching around on sold catalogs for auction houses and it looks like the shop sold off some of its stock since they were shutting down, and it’s ended up with another seller who has put it on eBay.
However, it’s £300. I’m currently on maternity leave, so things are tight at the moment.
I have savings I’ve been keeping for clothes and makeup, but I feel guilty spending that amount in one go. However, I know I’ll be so sad if someone else buys it! It’s the sort of item I’d keep forever (18k gold).
I feel like I’ve been give a second chance to buy it!

Would I be unreasonable to buy it?? Help!

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ThisMamaNeedsSleep · 10/04/2024 15:54

It’s gorgeous and I’m delighted that you got it! You would have regretted it forever if you let it get away twice. Some others have probably already said it but consider it as the piece you bought for yourself when baby was born, let it be a momento of this time of your life. Guaranteed to bring you joy every time you look at it.

Penmaiden · 10/04/2024 13:18

Can you sell something, or do something, to make the money back? Or at least reduce the expenditure? No reason not to buy yourself nice things - but if it torments you every time you look at it then that might spoil your gift to yourself.

Baba197 · 08/04/2024 17:31

But it as a “push” present to yourself 😂😂 sounds like you will regret it if don’t. Could you maybe ask the people who usually buy you bday/xmas gifts if they would be happy to give you some cash towards it? Then You can replace some of the cash in your fund after you’ve bought it? Know Xmas is ages away so I may sound crazy!

reelcat · 08/04/2024 16:20

It is beautiful! Enjoy!

IncognitoMam · 08/04/2024 14:36

S251 · 08/04/2024 13:41

I work in a jewellery shop and am lucky enough to have lots of jewellery. £300 for an 18ct necklace is a good price. Buy it!! You’ll regret it if you don’t. Also you just carried a baby for 9 months so see it as a present to yourself for the hard work!!

It was a ring and op bought it for 260

S251 · 08/04/2024 13:41

I work in a jewellery shop and am lucky enough to have lots of jewellery. £300 for an 18ct necklace is a good price. Buy it!! You’ll regret it if you don’t. Also you just carried a baby for 9 months so see it as a present to yourself for the hard work!!

jengachampion · 07/04/2024 15:54

Google image search for it and see if similar things come up cheaper. I found a £300 opal ring that I loved, and found a very similar one on Etsy for £25

LaurieFairyCake · 07/04/2024 15:50

FANTASTIC not 'fab to'

Fucking wanking autocorrect nobhead Angry

LaurieFairyCake · 07/04/2024 15:47

It's fab toFlowers

Thirstysue · 07/04/2024 14:00

What an absolutely beautiful ring! Great investment and won't date and am sure looks amazing on you. Good for you for treating yourself.

Charlize43 · 07/04/2024 13:15

Buy it! Money is for having fun with...

You can always sell it on Ebay when you get bored with it.

HolidayAtNight · 07/04/2024 13:12

So glad you got it! I find the attitude of 'Oh, I never buy anything for myself/I'd never spend that much money on myself' from mums really sad. It comes up all the time on here, and I bet you never hear blokes saying it on their Outing Hobbies forum. As long as you're not spending the DCs' lunch money on bonbons, there's absolutely nothing wrong with buying nice things for yourself!

ShouldIbeLeftWithLess · 07/04/2024 12:15

Oh it's lovely OP! Enjoy it forever.

Findingausernameishard · 07/04/2024 11:25

Buy it. You won't regret it, and you can save on other things for a while

Thriving30 · 07/04/2024 11:21

It's a beautiful ring, you were right to treat yourself!

IncognitoMam · 07/04/2024 11:20

I'm glad you bought it. Tell us when it arrives 💍

Kasperber · 07/04/2024 11:15

I’m so pleased you got it OP. Enjoy wearing it. It’s beautiful. Things you fall in love with that are one-offs, I think you should get while you can if you can afford to. It’s not always about price. I’ve bought an old ceramic tile , a mad looking cuddly toy cat and a small picture I love. They bring me pleasure every day. There’s so much sadness, suffering and general shittiness in this world so grab anything that you love and will make you happy I say.

pitterypattery00 · 07/04/2024 10:48

I'm glad you bought it OP - it's so easy to fritter away money on things that mean nothing to us or on disposable things whereas you'll have this and it will bring you joy forever.

Around 20 years ago I had similar angst about buying a bag that I adored. Looked at it in the department store several times over months before finally deciding to go for it. I was a student at the time and at £45 it was a small fortune to me. But I went on to use that bag regularly for about 15 years (til it finally wore out!) and I never stopped loving it. Used to get so many compliments on it and I was really proud to own it. I hope your ring brings similar joy!

Todaywasbetter · 07/04/2024 10:38

I salute you

zingally · 07/04/2024 10:08

I'm glad it was a ring, and not a necklace - and that you didn't post a photo until the deal was done!
If you'd posted a picture, some meany would have reverse-image searched it and bought it. Purely to be nasty, but telling themselves "it was just too nice to turn down!" I never fail to be astounded by the petty meanness of other people.

I'm glad you got it OP! It's a lovely ring and that pink stone is so pretty - and I agree, very unique! I hope you get many years of joy from it. :)

Viviennemary · 07/04/2024 09:05

I missed the update? Good you got the ring.

Viviennemary · 07/04/2024 09:03

Weetabixagain · 04/04/2024 13:56

Thanks all!
To answer a few questions, it was £250 in the shop (closing down sale price), but I like it so much I’m willing to pay the additional £50.
It’s ‘but it now’ and unfortunately, the seller doesn’t give the option to make an offer.
I don’t want to put a photo on just in case someone on here likes it too and buys it 😂that alone tells me I should just go for it.
I can’t tell how long the eBay listing has been up, but it was sold by the auction house in January.
The guilt is real though, maternity leave is an expensive time, there’s always something else to be buying/ spending money on! And £300 is a lot of money for me.
Buuut I think you are all convincing me of what to do 😂

You can still send the seller a message making an offer AFAIK. Some sellers don't like you doing this.

user1492757084 · 07/04/2024 08:55

Justify the purchase by shopping at op. shops for your own clothing for a while.

Dartwarbler · 07/04/2024 08:13

MSE advice….depends on what you earn and how you feel about that…

AIBU to buy the necklace?
Crispsandcola · 07/04/2024 02:20

You should definitely buy it. Look at it as an investment/future heirloom if it makes you feel better. I don't like seeing money being thrown away on pointless fashion items but I love the idea of you cherishing and enjoying this item for years to come - go for it.

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