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To think it was a bit shit of my direct report to say this?

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SpeedbirdSquawker · 02/04/2024 12:34

I have recently started line managing a new person. My first time managing anyone and its going fine. As I will be busy in my role over the next few weeks, I scheduled a catch up with them today. They've been in their role for four weeks now, part time. I know starting a new role can be really overwhelming so I thought it would be a nice chance for a one on one check to see if they're OK and to discuss a few aspects of the future of the role as they will want to bring fresh ideas.

Well, one of the first things out of their mouth was, "its far too early to be doing this" (they meant a one to one/catch up). I replied that as I'll be busy over the next few months, I wanted to check of they were OK. Also they've been learning the new role. Lots of elements to it. I was just being nice!!! I was taken aback tbh. Am I being sensitive?

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StormingNorman · 02/04/2024 12:40

I think your report was also a bit sensitive. I’d wonder what she thought the meeting was about to warrant such a defensive attitude.

How is the relationship developing otherwise?

SiobhanSharpe · 02/04/2024 12:40

Make a note of the meeting. Move on.

Flatleak · 02/04/2024 12:39

Why would it be too early to do a 1-1, how odd! Is it normal in your role to not meet weekly/fortnightly from the beginning?

TraitorsGate · 02/04/2024 12:39

A month is still new to the post especially if they are part time. A catch up to ask how they are getting on is fine but I wouldn't discuss future plans just yet, they may still be settling in to the new role which they may need support with. Maybe they felt it was more convenient for you as you're going to be busy which isn't their concern and that a mutually convenient time would have been better.

SpeedbirdSquawker · 02/04/2024 12:39

I thought I was doing OK but it knocked my confidence. I do need to grow a thicker skin.

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WeeOrcadian · 02/04/2024 12:38

"it's never too early to touch base"

Harvestfestivalknickers · 02/04/2024 12:38

I would have replied 'maybe for you, but not for me, your manager.'

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 02/04/2024 12:37

It's not up to them to decide and it does seem like a good time to check in.

I think you are being overly sensitive. If that's the worst thing an employee has to say to you so far, you may need to toughen up.

determinedtomakethiswork · 02/04/2024 12:37

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Why would you say that? Why not say that that person she spoke to has a lot to learn about interpersonal skills and communication?

Shakeyshakeyshake · 02/04/2024 12:37

I would be replying, it’s never too early!

Gowlett · 02/04/2024 12:37

I find their reply strange. If it was my boss, I’d just say yes.

CloudsUnderwater · 02/04/2024 12:35

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